Has anyone been brave enough to leave a WhatsApp group

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No one has done anything to upset me or anything, I just feel I don't have much in common with these people any more. They're all older than me and it was set up with the intention of meeting up, but only happens a few times a year, and I haven't attended the last couple because I've no real interest, otherwise there's the usual chitchat goes on in the group chat which I don't really contribute to.

It's definitely only the admin that's notified now when someone leaves.

Since when is it only admin that see it?

Whenever anyone starts posting gifs as responses I'm out. Must have left half a dozen groups this year. I shouldn't join any really. Not really my thing but can have its uses short term.

I thought it was like failing to renew a TV licence and they'd send vans to track you down and write to you every week for the rest of your life?

That's not true.
There's a small message in the chat to say someone has left.

Don’t be a people pleaser.

Don’t waste your time stressing about this. It’s not worth it, and no good comes of it. This is a complete and utter non-event.

https://faq.whatsapp.com/678712076864311/?cms_platform=android

It changed a few months ago so now only admins are notified

You get that Mumsnet is a collection of different people, all with different personalities and levels of giving a fuck?

We're not a hive mind.

Yes, I have. Several in face.

A breezy message along the lines of 'it's been great chatting with you all but I'm taking a Whatsapp break/life's a bit full on at the moment, so I'm going to leave this group for the time being. Wishing you all well' then leave there and then.

I’d just leave and put a parting message along the lines of…

“Hi guys, I’ll be leaving this group shortly as I realise that I haven’t made the previous few meet ups and am unlikely to Be able to make any in the future. I wish you all the best and hope you continue to enjoy the lovely group you’ve made here”

then I’d leave.

I do it all the time 😂😂

ballet mum group
class mums one (can’t believe I lasted as long as I did in that one)
old school friend one
baby group one

Yes but was actually gutted that the message didn't show up to all as I wanted it to be a bit of a flounce and now I am not even sure if the person (who was the reason I left) even noticed !

Me too. Left the in-laws family one. They’re perfectly nice just got fed up of seeing DIY pictures and conversations.

Why do you have to be brave? People leave groups I'm in all the time, nobody minds. We would actually rather not be bothering you with all our whittering on unless you want to be there.

It's fine to leave!

It does show up to everyone but it normally just says "phone number left" so unless you're supremely nosey enough to scroll back months and months to find out when that person last messaged and see who they are people don't notice.

Putting a message is unnecessary.

Yes, just leave, don’t announce it. Probably no one will even notice.

My workplace added everyone to a whatsapp group without asking anyone first. My give-no-shits colleague leaving was the first notification we all got 😅

Do it! Leaving all my groupchats (apart from family one which we use to organise get togethers) has been so liberating. I hadn't realised just how much time I spent on them, nor how drained they made me feel, nor how damaging some of them were!

I've done it a few times recently. I am someone who hates upsetting people, a people pleaser. Something in me changed after I had my 2nd kid and I just thought I don't have time for crap or people who don't give two shits about me. I don't notice any difference for not being in them

Are there any assholes in the group? If so, save it until someone says something dickish and leave then!

DH was going to leave our village one anyway but someone put something racist on and he left immediately at that point which had the added benefit of showing that message wasn’t acceptable and I think a few people were grateful.

Just do it.

And don't offer an explanation, as that screams 'looking for attention'.

Stay classy

I keep thinking I should leave our NCT group chat, I meet up with them now and again but I’ve not formed a friendship with any. I wasn’t a clique and rush to join all the same baby classes as them so they’ve all got their own friendships. I don’t know why I’ve not left, feels awks!

@Lovethatforyouhun just seen it’s been updated!

I would just mute the group chat personally so you don’t get any notifications.

I feel like leaving is making a statement… if you do a farewell message it’s awkward, if you just leave it’s rude.

If you are never going to see them why are you scared?