Mixed sex sleepover year 6? How would you navigate this?

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DC wants a sleepover for his birthday. He goes to a small village school and there is only one girl in the year. Is it ok at this age!? There will be 3 boys and one girl. DS is perplexed when I ask if he’s sure he doesn’t want just boys - he wants the ‘whole’ class. And it does seem really unfair to exclude her.

WWYD? Am I overthinking this?

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Invite her to the party but she needs to sleep separately or get picked up at 11.

Why?

It’s fine - just give her somewhere separate to sleep.

It’s a tiny village school I assume and yes it would be mean to exclude her - your son is quite right

That's how I would do it. Year 6 is puberty territory. They may not even be thinking of each other like that but it protects everyone.

Such odd attitudes on this thread.

They're 10/11. They're not sex crazed!

I think it's completely fine and as a mother of 2 x DDs, I would allow this.

Why? My DD has sleepovers with her best friends all the time. They're both boys. What are you expecting to happen?

I think that's fine at that age, but obviously she needs her own room to sleep in.

Give the girl’s mum a call and have a chat about what they might be comfortable with and what you’re comfortable with. Some options could be that she gets picked up at 10 or 11pm or something - the time you’ll insist the others are at least in bed with the lights off (they’ll probably chat for ages afterwards). You could also do a sleeping area for her, and wait up until all the kids are asleep. The thing I wouldn’t do with a mixed sex group of that age is go to sleep with all the kids still awake in a bedroom or other sleeping space together.

If it’s a small school I’m guessing you know the girl’s mum pretty well. I’d give her a call or catch her at the gates and ask what she thinks.

My daughter’s friendship group is 6 girls and one boy and they all had sleepover birthday parties. As families we all know each other well and perhaps that is not the case in this situation. But I’d invite her and the parents of the girl can get in touch if they feel uncomfortable.

I'd be fine, but would chat to girls mum about it in case she's on her period or something.

My kid has only ever had sleepovers with his best friend who happens to be a girl, we've never had a problem and her parents are fine with it too. For a birthday party, I would put them all in the living room and let her use his bedroom if she's uncomfortable sleeping with the boys but honestly at that age I can't see it being an issue especially if they've all grown up together.

4 including him. Tiny village school and these kids have all grown up together. But still, it’s a tough one.

Thanks. I think I will put her in my DD’s room to sleep with her maybe.

Absolutely no way should a 6yr old girl be staying over with 3 young boys.

They are all very innocent at that age - but why the need for a sleepover? I'd be very surprised if the Mum agreed!

Not saying any issues would occur - but why even go there. Is there an issue with saying NO to your DC. Be happy having a Birthday party.

Say no. That's how

No way. For those who are saying "they are only Yr 6", 1 boy in DDs class Yr 6 told everyone how to give blowjobs. You have no idea what things these kids are picking up at home, mixed sleepovers are a big no especially 1 girl Vs 3 boys.

I was going to say it was fine- but reading this thread, I'd talk to her parents first.

Year 6 kids are grown these days.

Lots of naive parents on this thread

Talk to parents before issuing invitations, if they’re fine with it, the idea of putting her in your daughter’s room to sleep is a good one. I agree with DS it’s mean not to invite her if parents are fine with it but sensible that she sleeps separately when you’re not supervising. She can watch a film, whatever with the boys and then when it’s lights off, bedtime sleep upstairs in daughters room.

She's a year 6 girl, so 10 or 11.

It's almost as if not all children are exactly the same....