I've gone absolutely sex mad

[Widowsfire]

DH died just over 2 years ago and was seriously ill for about a year before that.

Before he was ill we had been married a really long time. Sex, when we had it, was very good, but it wasn't that frequent, I'd have liked more but it didn't colour my life the way it does now.

My goodness, I'm thinking about it all the time. I'm sizing up the possibilites with every man I meet, from a new collleague to, the postman, to people on the train, aquaintances from way back, to anyone and everyone I meet at a social event.

I'm middle aged and not especially attractive, none of these men are very interested and if they were I daresay I'm giving off terrifying vibes.

What the hell am I supposed to do about it?

Imagine how regretful you're going to feel in a few years if you don't follow this up. Fortune favours the bold. Message him back. Good luck.

Online

plenty of people will be interested!

Not a thing like real sex, sorry!

Or, she wants to have sex?

I’m going for she wants to have sex, since that’s what she says it is, and she is old enough to know her own mind.

A good sex life will help with grief too. Moving on and all that.

There’s not much good sex wouldn’t help with, thinking about it.

And sex is a fuck sight more life affirming than grief counselling, helpful though that can be.

😁

'Middle Aged and not especially attractive'

You will definitely be someone's type op! Have a makeover if you need to- get exercising, get your hair colluded and styled, teeth whitened and a bit of Botox or filler and some new clothes and you'll feel very attractive as ready to mingle!

You can also go younger!

Yep, OLD and you'll get lots of interest from men young and old! Stay safe and have fun!

@Widowsfire I jokingly said to my friend last night that you asked if you could borrow him. He was very excited! So much that I had to say no I don't know her, don't know where she lives and don't have a pic, this was a forum discussion 🤣

So plenty of attractive men both younger and older who would love a fling :)

Soo...I changed my target age from 46-60 to 36-60 and have had loads of interest from young attractive men. Can't help thinking they're taking the pee though.

I doubt they're taking the pee. Most OLD is looking for sex and they won't be fussy about age. Probably more selective if looking for a relationship.

If that's all you're looking for I don't see the problem. I'm sure they find you attractive if they're messaging you. Enjoy!

Just enjoy and have fun! 😉

If you just want sex, do OLD. That's the main thing it's good for
But obviously be safe and protect yourself, there are bad men on there

Choose someone nice. Flirtatious but respectful. Hopefully you'll have a whale of a time!

I had exactly this aged 49 and went on to a year of extremely enjoyable chaos. I met people from adultfriendfinder and fabswingers aged from 27 to maybe 60.

What's to be sceptical about - that they're telling the truth? Well, take any facts they give you with a pinch of salt, but at the same time there are strands of sincerity and even some very straightforward people out there. How much truth do you need from someone you're spending a stolen afternoon with? Take your own condoms because a remarkable number 'forget'.

And stop worrying whether they find you attractive. Start working out what you like - for me I found very handsome guys weren't worth it but wordsmiths were. Make whatever demands you want - some won't meet them but plenty will.

OLD is not my friend. All the men that liked me looked like potatoes, but with extraordinarily high aspirations.

Dint get me wrong, enjoy carbs as much as the next woman, but not when Mr Potato thinks he's lined up for the next Marvel movie.