Thread 10 - TalkLair: “The candle flame gutters. Its little pool of light trembles.”

[Kucinghitam]

Continuation of previous threads (thread 9).

Although the nights are gradually drawing in, the new lair of JTT escapees is all cosy and homey inside. The hearth is glowing, the walls covered in dubious artwork, books by non-approved authors line the shelves, rugs are down on the floors (and assorted pets curled up on them).

We just won’t mention the gnawed bones of our prey over there in the corner of the cave…

I'm currently watching The Exorcist on BBC4. It's the 50th anniversary of its relief. There was a brilliant documentary about it before the film came on. It's such a great film.

Echoing what the others have said @Britinme. It sounds like you’ve gone above and beyond. There’s only so much you can do for someone; ultimately they have to take responsibility for themselves and it sounds like he’s not there yet. Maybe this will give him the push he needs. But if it doesn’t, it won’t be your fault and offering more and more help might only delay him helping himself.

Thanks everyone for your kind words about my jaw I feel a bit embarrassed about bringing another ailment to this thread but just wanted to offer up my own experiences re braces.

I’m contemplating whether to put the winter duvet on or not. I’ve been struggling to get to sleep the last couple of nights feeling chilly. Of course, by the time I’ve got the thing out from its bag under the bed, stripped the current bedding, picked Kasper up off the mattress eleventy million times and wrested the thing into a duvet cover, I’ll be boiling hot.

I almost never pick Kasper up because he doesn’t like it, but when I’m changing the sheets and he’s rolling around on the mattress I feel he’s fair game to be scooped up and rocked like a baby.

You guys are all amazing (Kasper most of all, of course). And you've gone above and beyond, @Britinme ! 😀

That face! Kasper is clearly not a fan of the scooping. Wonderful pic.

It's lovely to see you in the photo, @CyanCrystalViolet . I love your hair!

Oh @Britinme you are not a failure! I agree with what everyone else has said. You're a wonderful mum and have done as much as you could, but ultimately it would be impossibly difficult to "fix" problems for a grown adult who won't admit that there are problems. The situation sounds so difficult. Unfortunately I don't have any practical advice.

On a happier note, I love your family pic with Kasper, @CyanCrystalViolet!

I made the mistake of starting my first AIBU thread to have a rant, and the first reply is already a classic "missing the point by a country mile" one 🙄

Oh dear. Have some comedy wildlife photos www.bbc.co.uk/news/in-pictures-67004896?

I'm managing 50:50 on my AIBU. Quite addictive.

Now I'm going to be mad with curiosity as to which one it is. I did like the spherical creatures - the grouse and the seal. Being spherical is nice.

It's the parcel one!

Here's a lovely thing.

It started as occassional bake sales to raise money for a once-a month social club for adults with learning disabilities. During lockdown and furlough they started delivering pies, and realised it could be a much bigger project. It's now a proper charity with evening socials several times a month, a 3-days a week day centre, 2 cafes offering training and supported employment, and about to open a big training kitchen.

And the food's great.

@Britinme - others have said it better, but on a personal note, having known your earlier usernames too, you are a lovely person. I'm so sad that you feel this way, but I think all parents will have something not miles away from this at times. Don't despair. Everything changes. All the best. xx

I thought it might be, based on the choice of name-change.

Awww you guys… thank you for kind words.

Lovely Kasper!

My cat Skittles is still in vet hospital after her iodising radiation treatment on Monday. Possibly home today or tomorrow when her radioactivity levels have dropped enough. Reports from the vet are that she’s a love bug and very friendly. Little bastard isn’t like that at home.

I had half a pint of lager this evening on an empty stomach and was a wee bit giddy. Snoop and I, along with faithful Seamus decided to make the most of the weather and have a drink outside a beach bar. It was really lovely. Earlier we sat on a bench - with cushions from her home - and enjoyed looking out at sea, at the windfarm and the kite surfers and windsurfers having a grand old time of it.

It was a simple but really enjoyable day. We also made a cooperative decision. I probably posted about my broken washing machine a few months ago. The plan was I would be buying one soon, probably next month. In the meantime I've been using hers. She suggested that I get a tumble dryer so we can both dry our clothes during the winter months, she uses my tumble dryer and I use her washing machine. Tumble dryers are a lot cheaper as well!

That sounds like an excellent idea.

That thread in Parenting about sending a child to live temporarily with grandparents in <the horror!> Europe is just staggeringly judgemental (with the emphasis on the "mental"), ignorant and plain nasty.

I can't find that one in the active threads Gonners - link please?

Here it is ... https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/parenting/4913515-sending-child-to-live-with-grandparents-abroad

Ta!

I do tend to think, "Hmm", when the OP has but a single post. Well, that struck me when I glanced at that thread earlier.

In other news, mahoosive game today, win, and we are in the Grand Final at Old Trafford. Weird early KO time (12.45) means I'll be leaving for the stadium shortly, but on upside, live on C4!

I'm rather fascinated and can see both sides, coming from a culture where it is entirely unremarkable, while also knowing that I would not have chosen the same with my DC (my mother did offer!). Although the more hyperbolic "eternal trauma, wailing of souls and gnashing of teeth" posts are making me roll my eyes somewhat.