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If you could say ONE last thing to an ex...

144 replies

movedonfromsmithy · 15/09/2023 12:47

What would it be!?....

Mine would be...

Hello. Hope you're well. Now that years have passed I want to say that with a clear head and with no feelings, I'm so glad we spent those 4 years together, but me ending it was the best, for both of us.... I was so desperate for love and to be loved that I clung onto you when you didn't want to be clung to. I shouldn't have carried on after you cheated but that's on me, I just so wanted to be loved by you.

With all my heart I hope you're happy and with someone who can make you happy.

Your ex.

OP posts:
AlrightThen · 18/09/2023 13:37

"You have the crazy gene and along with your character, it all turned out rather unfortunately."

Namechangedforthis2022 · 18/09/2023 22:41

To summarise:
You are a cunt
An oxygen thief
No means no
Your child is better off without you; & I think you see that when you bother to pop up once every 6 months
We are thriving without you, you joy-sucking, addict, cock-lodger 🖕

alargeoneforme · 18/09/2023 23:11

I had stopped loving you anyway but the night you raped me was the end. You denied it. 'But you're my wife!' you said. And you still didn't learn. You drove the children away with your controlling, self-absorbed ways. I almost feel sorry for you. But not quite. Because it's the kids who've you've really made suffer. Partly to control them. Mainly to punish me through them. You really are the shit on the bottom of my shoe.

ilikeeggs · 18/09/2023 23:19

You’re an entitled twat. What do you think our kids will think about what the two of you did? God I was such a mug.

Dogsitterwoes · 18/09/2023 23:36
  1. You are so charismatic, but nobody likes you for long as they see through it. I feel slightly sorry for you. You could have done great things.
  2. Bet you're still a sadsack with a sex obsession but a miniscule willy and a spotty back. I hope you've found some happiness though.
  3. Well, you died alone and unloved, even your kids were only interested in your money. I didn't bother coming to your funeral.
  4. You utter cunt, you are miserable as the grass isn't greener after all, and it serves you right. Try not to drink yourself to death.
Brightandshining · 18/09/2023 23:45

I'd really like to have a conversation with my first love from when I was a teenager. He just disappeared off the face of the earth.
All my other long term relationships I know generally what happened to them after and could probably contact them if I wanted and get a reply. But I've literally no idea what became of my first boyfriend.
We were together 5 years and went through a lot of things. I often wish I could speak to him again.
Not in a romantic sense as I'm happily married now and I'd have no interest in re starting that up even if I wasn't. But I'd just really like to know what became of him and what he thought about it all.

nationallampoons · 28/10/2023 10:59

Why?

That's all I would say

WellDuh · 28/10/2023 14:48

"See, I CAN manage without you!". 15 years on and I'm still doing ok without him (better than ok actually!).

LastHives · 28/10/2023 15:02

I never realised how much of a weirdo you were until we split up.

Lovelycupofcoffee · 28/10/2023 18:46

I’ve done an amazing job of raising your son. I will never forgive you for how you treated us . You are and will always be a vile sad little man and like a cat you had all your nine lives.

Sharletonz · 28/10/2023 18:51

You're a narcissistic cunt who lies and believes his own lies. I hope you die.

Redwinestillfine · 28/10/2023 18:55

You mean the world to me and your family. We all love you so much. You matter more than you know. Let us help you, whatever it is (he killed himself).

Morewineplease10 · 03/02/2024 23:47

In no particular order to various exes:

Ours was the best relationship I have ever had. I wish I'd appreciated it more at the time.

I'm sorry. I think of you often.

I don't hate you, hate doesn't even touch the sides.

I'm really sorry, but we were never right for eachother.

How is life on the other side of the world?!

I'm glad we can finally be friends after so many years.

(I've had a lot of relationships!)

CaptainPliskin · 04/02/2024 00:18

How is your cheating Dh

KievLoverTwo · 04/02/2024 02:09

Well, he's dead, and due to MH problems (I see in hindsight) he treated me very badly. However, I would never wish anyone the lifetime of pain he must have had after I left him, even on him. I was told he died of an accidental overdose age 47ish. I would say:

Get therapy to get over your BFF who died when you were 18

'I cudda been a contender' is not an appropriate thought pattern for someone earning 2k a week at the age of 24; you are already far more than a contender (25 years ago too)

Your adopted mum is a huge narcissist who will cause you and your other brother nothing but a lifetime of toxicity and pain; cut her off, then get therapy to understand why she treated you the way she did, or just read up on narcissists

(His brother did cut her off, he also developed a drug problem)

Drugs and alcohol are not therapy, go to therapy, stop mistrusting it

Your sex addition is due to MH issues and will also cause you a lifetime of pain

You probably have manic depression and require some medication (bi polar? They used to call it different things)

So did I mention getting therapy?

It's quite sad really. He had very kind tendancies and was wickedly good fun, but his upbringing and childhood loss ruined him for life and he didn't have the emotional tools nor inclination to get himself better.

I am kind of glad he wasn't around for Bowie dying because that would have pushed him over the edge - purely that on its own.

TealSapphire · 04/02/2024 02:48

Literally nothing. He deserves not a second of my thoughts or precious time.

Itsmeamandaberry · 04/02/2024 11:07

You are a nasty piece of work. I did nothing but love and support you and all you did was cheat on me constantly. You could see that you were my whole word but you just kept hurting me. You know I did nothing to deserve it. Absolutely nothing!

You ruined my 20s gave me so many trust issues.

You absolutely ruined me and I will never ever forgive you for that. I hope you are miserable for every minute you are on this planet.

CaptainPliskin · 04/02/2024 11:40

CaptainPliskin · 04/02/2024 00:18

How is your cheating Dh

I retract this as it's not their fault their dh has affairs, that said I guess, Hi would be the first thing.

LetsRedecorate · 30/09/2024 00:06

I wasn’t good enough? Sorry to break it to you but an 8 incher is no good when you don’t know what to do with it. Oh yeah - you were shit at oral too. It wasn’t me being rubbish in bed - it was you! I’m satisfied now and apparently so is my new guy.

Your tattoos look like a kid has drawn them.

You don’t suit a shaved head - I told you i loved it because I loved you and didn’t want to hurt you.

You didn’t care about hurting me with all those women you were seeing without my knowledge.

I hope your nob turns black and drops off.

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