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If you could say ONE last thing to an ex...

144 replies

movedonfromsmithy · 15/09/2023 12:47

What would it be!?....

Mine would be...

Hello. Hope you're well. Now that years have passed I want to say that with a clear head and with no feelings, I'm so glad we spent those 4 years together, but me ending it was the best, for both of us.... I was so desperate for love and to be loved that I clung onto you when you didn't want to be clung to. I shouldn't have carried on after you cheated but that's on me, I just so wanted to be loved by you.

With all my heart I hope you're happy and with someone who can make you happy.

Your ex.

OP posts:
saltrocking · 15/09/2023 14:43

I hope you've learnt what consent is you piece of shit

Labbingtons · 15/09/2023 14:44

I would say: You and your husband look so happy. Your home is beautiful, and your work is brave and helps so many people. I am so pleased you found happiness and the life you wanted. You deserve every moment of it.

I rather like to think he’d say the same to me.

He’s an ex from my uni years. Obviously the fact he has a husband suggests we were not entirely well matched. But he was (is) a wonderful person and I will always adore him.

DeadButDelicious · 15/09/2023 14:48

Kicking you out was the best thing I ever did. Life is infinitely better without you in it. And judging by the absolute mess you have made of your own life, you haven't changed in the slightest.

paulaparticles · 15/09/2023 14:49

I will always love you

StEtienne93 · 15/09/2023 14:57

We weren't meant to be, but I still love you and think of you everyday. I wish you every happiness in life.

cleanbreak2022 · 15/09/2023 15:12

I'm so far out of your league now, we'd all be happier if you could stop pretending to care about our children so your mum will allow you to continue living rent free.

The younger me should have known her worth.

Fuck off with your poor me attitude, you are where you are because, simply put, you are a morally bankrupt, bone idle dip shit.

Now move out of my way, I've got stuff to do.

Cantstandpowerpoints · 15/09/2023 15:22

A teeny weeny corner of my heart will always have love for you, although I’m really happy with my life and family 😊

By the way I’m your 15 year old daughter’s maths teacher! She’s a great kid, you and your wife have done a good job.

savethegorgeousbees · 15/09/2023 15:54

Where is my money you prick

Foxblue · 15/09/2023 16:27

All of your friends and family might think it's okay, but I guarantee your girlfriends friends think it's fucking weird she's dating someone so horrendously cringey and unattractive and beneath her who groomed her as a teenager.

You are a deeply unhappy person and you haven't grown as a person since your teens - you go through phase after phase and it will never make you happy and honestly - you deserve it.

You have astonishingly little self-awareness of how little you offer to women and you think you are above everyone else, so when anything comes along to challenge that view you lash out like a child - grow up.

gingangirly · 15/09/2023 16:33

To one: I'm sorry, I should never have married you.

The the other: well have you finally realised 30 years on that I was the best thing that had ever happened to you? And you blew it, because you preferred alcohol to me and your son. We are living the best life. Hope your subsequent children are as well. I'm pretty sure you won't be.

Gettingbysomehow · 15/09/2023 16:34

Don't bother trying to come back.

usedtobeasizeten · 15/09/2023 16:43

I’ve loved every minute!

Nagado · 15/09/2023 16:56

To one; I feel sad for you. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, how successful you are, how young and stunning your latest girlfriend is. It will never be enough for you to be happy with your life. You’ll always be wanting the next exciting thing. Your soul is empty and I wish you could feel like it was enough.

To the other; You are not the good man you like to think you are, you’re an utterly crap liar and a user. None of my friends liked you and my mum thought you were a dickhead. And you still owe me £800.

ratspeaker · 15/09/2023 16:57

Told you so

caringcarer · 15/09/2023 17:20

Thank you for leaving me. It hurt me at the time but i've had a much nicer life without you. Sorry you ended up being so poor and can't afford to retire. Maybe one day your eldest son will speak to you again.

TurqoiseJasper · 15/09/2023 17:22

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 15/09/2023 12:57

You're really not the sex god you think you are. Satisfying scores of women once isn't the same as satisfying one woman scores of times.

Hear hear!

confusedmum2023 · 15/09/2023 17:26

Do u know something and it’s taken me years to get here but I would say absolutely nothing. I’ve been reading and thinking and so much I could say and possibly up until a few years ago would have but now - nope because I genuinely no longer care 🤯 that is one big realisation!

catin8oots · 15/09/2023 17:31

Why did you marry me when you clearly didn't love me? I would have gone to the ends of the earth for you.

You charlatan and fraud. You have stolen 15 years of my life and I expect it will take just as long for me to recover.

TurqoiseJasper · 15/09/2023 17:31

You absolute bastard piece of shit. You fucking cockroach.

You betrayed me and our family in the worst possible way.

You faked our whole life together.

You treated us as if we were nothing, because we never meant anything to you.

You are hollow and empty without a shred of humanity.

You are totally incapable of love or kindness.

I will not wish you well, ever, you are rotten to the core.

And now I am free!

TheDuchessofDubai · 15/09/2023 17:32

I was right about you cheating. Now you're living with her, it's pretty obvious... did you really think I wouldn't find out?

WeeOrcadian · 15/09/2023 17:41

You're a violent raging alcoholic who pisses the bed. That isn't my fault, it's all yours. You, I, and your family know this, despite them trying to pin that shit on me.
It's in your fucked up genes, along with so much other stuff that's all kinds of messed up.

Good luck.

SerafinasGoose · 15/09/2023 17:43

You can't build a marriage on a pipe dream. Returning to live in the US was just that. It was a phase, it was over, and we couldn't let go of the dream. No wonder things soured. We were young and foolish, and this was no basis for a lasting relationship.

But whilst it was a mistake to let things progress to marriage, I've never regretted the relationship. Thanks for the good times. They really were good.

I reeled when I heard your life had been so prematurely cut short. And even though I know the split was right, and our lives ended up being happier without each other, I've grieved for you in my own way. Your loved ones don't need to hear from me - this isn't about me so they won't - but I'm so sad for the devastated, bereaved wife, stepchildren, mother and siblings you left behind.

I quietly raised a glass to you and the good memories in New England this summer.

If there's the remotest hope that somehow we go on, I hope you've found peace and are happy wherever you are.

SlippinJanie · 15/09/2023 17:49

You were so boring. I bet you still are.

TheFormidableMrsC · 15/09/2023 17:51

MyDogSmellsTerrible · 15/09/2023 14:31

I did a great job raising our children. It's beyond sad that you don't even know this.

Same here 💐

woodyscowboyhat · 15/09/2023 17:53

As your ex, I forgive you but as the mother of your child, how fucking dare you.