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If you could say ONE last thing to an ex...

144 replies

movedonfromsmithy · 15/09/2023 12:47

What would it be!?....

Mine would be...

Hello. Hope you're well. Now that years have passed I want to say that with a clear head and with no feelings, I'm so glad we spent those 4 years together, but me ending it was the best, for both of us.... I was so desperate for love and to be loved that I clung onto you when you didn't want to be clung to. I shouldn't have carried on after you cheated but that's on me, I just so wanted to be loved by you.

With all my heart I hope you're happy and with someone who can make you happy.

Your ex.

OP posts:
CrunchyCarrot · 15/09/2023 17:54

It really WAS you that was the problem, wasn't it, not me! Since you've now got two divorces under your belt, meanwhile I am very happy with my partner after 27 years together! I did learn a lot from being with you, and that is to respect myself and never be bullied and abused ever again.

JanefromLondon1 · 15/09/2023 17:56

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Peacendkindness · 15/09/2023 17:58

To one: You never paid a penny of child support and even worse you never wished her happy birthday or asked after her. You have never ever seen her or asked after her. You are a sad, sad waste of a human life. I feel sorry for you I really do. The is the light of my life. She is kind, loving, bossy, independent, a great team player, sporty, academic but most importantly she bloody great fun with a lovely sense of humour. You are so sad, you don’t even see or know what you missed and when you look back on your life remember you didn’t let me down, you failed to support the child you helped to make so take responsibly for that with no excuses. You will die knowingly you chose to be a horrid human being. It wasn’t forced on you - you chose it and it’s unforgivable.

doodlyfiddly · 15/09/2023 18:00

Getting your knob out for your artist friend to do a portrait of you really doesn't show that you've finally started to open up emotionally 😂

Pebblesflintstoneandbambamrubble · 15/09/2023 18:00

M-you knew what your friend was like
I know you laughed with him after the assault-in fact I think you put him up to it
How you can stay friends with a rapist is beyond me-you have a dd for fuck sake
I really loved you and you treated me like something you'd stepped in
you gave me the std-i was 100% faithful
Shame you couldn't keep your (tiny) dick in your pants
Oh and while I'm at it-buy a bra-i cannot believe I dated a bloke with bigger tits than myself

S-you utter pisshead
It's all very well blaming me but I didn't pour the vodka down your throat
I didn't get handy with my fists nor did I ever try and control you so quit with the bullshit and tell your family the truth-but you won't will you?
The same family that hate you,but still blame me for your faults

The other s-stay away from me you dickhead
You weak willed prat
Don't even look at me if I see you in the street-your not fit to lick dog shit off my shoes
And yes-i hated what you did to me in bed-i did not concent to such rough sex
I hope your illness kills you-thats how bad you made me feel
Lying cunt

That feels better...

nationallampoons · 15/09/2023 18:09

The man you were at the beginning, I will love forever.
You ruined me, you ruined us.

Hiddenvoice · 15/09/2023 18:13

I don’t know why you chased me to hurt me. I was nothing but good to you, even in the break up but you tried your hardest to hurt me and I still don’t understand why. Even now I wish you all the best.

p.s. you’re not a sex god and I’m not interested in your 2am booty calls- hence why you’re ignored every time.

Robbiesraft · 15/09/2023 18:15

Ex no.1 - the sex really was shit. But neither of us knew any better. I'm glad we're still not together.

Ex no.2. The sex was amazing. You were a tough one to give up but I'm glad we're still not together.

thiswasabadone · 15/09/2023 18:18

😂

user1471538283 · 15/09/2023 18:48

I wish I had never set eyes on you. I wish I had listened to my gut and never gone out for a drink with you.

Mumoneboy · 15/09/2023 18:54

I don't regret leaving you, I regret meeting you.

Theblackdogagain · 15/09/2023 18:55

I'm sorry you didn't feel you could talk to me or my dh despite our long friendship and you married (very happily I thought) my very good friend. I feel guilty that you let it all get to you and you couldn't go on, you were loved by more than you know and still missed.

IndiKid2015 · 15/09/2023 18:58

You were right, we did want different things. I wish you well.

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 15/09/2023 19:01

To 1. I am sorry for my immaturity all those years ago. I jumped into another relationship hoping it would make you realise you did love me. I have grown a lot now and am a different person to the one you remember. I still think fondly of you even though we are both very different people now.

To another. Sex was out of this world but I didn't appreciate you just sitting there scrolling New scientist on your phone after. Plus we had different values and we would have had very hairy children.

mistermagpie · 15/09/2023 19:02

That he was right about my parents.

I got back in touch with them after we split up but it all went tits up, as was the pattern, and now we have been NC for ten years. DH always said my dad was a loser and neither of them were good enough for me, in some ways I'd like to tell him he was right!

HelenFisksBrownSuit · 15/09/2023 19:04

I'm really disappointed you turned into a TRA. I thought you were brighter than that.

Phos · 15/09/2023 19:06

I hope you got yourself sorted out and moved on. I was sorry to hear about your gran. I hope you have made peace with the rest of your family.

Sazza26xx · 15/09/2023 19:07

Drop dead you waste of oxygen.

Hermione101 · 15/09/2023 19:07

I miss you from time to time and still think very highly of you. Thanks for the lunch a few months ago, it was nice to see your smiling face and catch up after 7 years. Your jokes still crack me up. Our timing was very off and our age difference and citizenship didn’t help, but that’s all water under the bridge and we’ve both moved in. All the best.

Throwncrumbs · 15/09/2023 19:08

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 15/09/2023 12:57

You're really not the sex god you think you are. Satisfying scores of women once isn't the same as satisfying one woman scores of times.

Brilliant!

Tadpolle · 15/09/2023 19:09

Find out as much as you can about coercive control. Find a therapist who will help you realise you are a coercively controlling abuser and hope you can get help to change. Also tell that therapist about your relationship with your mum, that would be a good place to start. Please also read The God Delusion and distance yourself from the weird pseudo religious batshittery you have been using to justify abusing women.

Inkpotlover · 15/09/2023 19:09

You thought you were god's gift to humour by telling the same lame jokes over and over, to the point where I used to fake my laughter. The man I ended up with is genuinely so funny that I laugh so hard every time I almost pee.

My ex wouldn't care if I said he was shit in bed, but saying he's not actually funny would devastate him. 😂

Annoyingnamechangerperson · 15/09/2023 19:12

You’re one Sambuca away from sh*gging your mother and your head looks like it’s formed from play dough

cryinglaughing · 15/09/2023 19:16

I will always have love in my heart for you, always.
Seeing you with another woman was my sliding doors moment. Had I not seen you, I'd still be living in the same city as my family. Instead, I took my broken heart up country and never looked back.

I am sorry you divorced the woman you left me for, I hope you have found happiness again and I wish nothing but the best for you.

MariePaperRoses · 15/09/2023 19:21

I hope you’re enjoying it under the patio!