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is it rude to ask if i can bring my daughter (1) to a birthday party my son bad been invited to

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sunnysideup0908 · 14/09/2023 09:34

my son has only just started school and was never invited to parties while at nursery so this is all new to me!

He has been invited to a birthday party in a hall , he is very excited to have been invited to a party

is it rude for me to ask the parents if I can bring his sister along who is 1?

I'm unsure how these things work!

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PollyPeep · 15/09/2023 11:27

@Goldbar right?! I'd never leave my four year old in a new place with a stranger who is also in charge of 20 other kids 😬😬 Even with a six year old I'd feel uncomfortable. There's not enough adults supervising, you don't know who the adults are, and no one will watch your child as closely as you would. A small party with friends that you trust would be totally different though.

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sunnysideup0908 · 15/09/2023 12:58

thank you to everyone for your replies and opinions.

Seems there is a different opinions.

Personally i would not drop my 4 year old of to a hall party and just leave him there. He has only just stared school, I don't know any parents so I would not dream of leaving him unaccompanied

I think I will ask the host of it's ok to bring his sibling (who is 14 months) and bring her snacks etc and obviously i would not expect her to be be able to take party in the party, nor would I expect her to get a party bag etc

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Mrsjayy · 15/09/2023 13:03

People are usually understanding of babies or younger toddlers and don't mind as your network grows other parents might do you the favour of staying at the party for you.

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OooohAhhhh · 15/09/2023 14:16

I can't believe drop & run was even suggested, I'm shocked!
It is never ok to just leave your child unattended for 2 hours, to risk being an inconvenience to someone else. What kind of responsible parenting is that?
Besides, it's not an inconvenience (it only is on here for some reason), no one would give 2 flying hoots about a 14 month old coming along, just sat minding their own business. I wouldn't even say you are bringing snacks etc. God forbid you was to give the baby a few crisps at the party? 🙄
It's a kids party, not the Kings banquet!
Talk about drama lama on this post.

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sunnysideup0908 · 15/09/2023 14:28

@OooohAhhhh Thank you for your reply.

Often when I post simple questions on here I often regret it when I read some of the replies and wish I had never posted 😫i know everyone is entitled to their own views and opinions but on here I often find them interesting!

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OooohAhhhh · 15/09/2023 14:35

sunnysideup0908 · 15/09/2023 14:28

@OooohAhhhh Thank you for your reply.

Often when I post simple questions on here I often regret it when I read some of the replies and wish I had never posted 😫i know everyone is entitled to their own views and opinions but on here I often find them interesting!

Very interesting! Hopefully some of this bunch are in the minority of the RL population! 😂

ApolloandDaphne · 15/09/2023 15:10

I don't think anyone would look askance if you brought a tot to party where you will be expected to stay with a child. As long as you have no expectation of food or a party bag etc I'm sure it will be down.

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