How many times have you seen your husband / DP cry?

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We've been together for 6.5 years now, married 4.5. I've never seen my husband cry even once. He got a little choked up at the birth of our first child, but that's about it. I find it a little weird but I guess he just never cries. I think he is one of those guys who was taught that it's not 'manly' to cry.

How often have you seen your man cry?

Not often. Miscarriages we’ve had, births of both babies, a couple of other occasions. I cry at nice music and when I’m happy, sad, angry, hormonal, we’re at opposite ends.

I’ve been married 35 years and seen my husband cry twice, the first time when his mother passed and the second when our daughter was critically Ill he broke down when the doctor spoke to us, I’m pleased to say she is very slowly improving

A few, can't say I was counting. When he's missing his dad who died a couple of years ago, or when we thought we would have to put one of the cats down. He's not embarrassed of his emotions and I love him for it. It's a lovely example to set for my son.

I've had three long term partners in my life and have seen each cry many times.

Always on normal occasions you'd expect someone to cry about: deaths, other losses, sad memories, sad things happening to people they care about, pets being ill or dying, being attacked by random aggressive men in the street, sometimes big setbacks in academia or career, occasionally particularly moving scenes in books or films or unusually beautiful scenes.

Never, I don't think. It would scare me tbh and make me think something was really awfully wrong.

A good few times.

He cried when his mum died. He cried a lot when his father was killed- sobbed and bawled and raged. He’s cried when overwhelmed and frustrated.

I’m glad he can express himself.

Maybe 5 times. When our first baby was born, when his dad died, when his mum died, when my uncle passed suddenly and when he had an accident which resulted in him being off his feet for 12 weeks.

been together nearly 28 years

Three in 10 years. When our old dog died, at my mum's funeral, and when he ran over a pheasant and had to dispatch it at the side of the road!

26 years.

Only twice. When his dog passed away. Then when our DS1 was diagnosed with a life limiting condition.

4 or 5 times, and I only met him in January.

A couple of times only, in 35 years together. He's a lovely man but not good at showing his emotions, exactly like his father.

Me on the other hand... I cry all the time. Most recently was today when I was walking in our village and there were some people on horses going by. A father aged in his 70s walking arm in arm with his severely disabled adult son stopped in wonder then exclaimed to his son; 'Look! Horses! you could ride horses if you wanted to- do you want to go and ride horses?'.

Bloody heck but I cried at that.

Once. When his country was invaded and his family had to flee over the border.

In 28 years, never. Nearly twice, once over a film and once when I was telling him something about a family member.

We’re lucky that we haven’t experienced anything to make him cry. We are going through stuff with our kids that I cry over constantly, but it’s more stress than anything, which doesn’t upset him as such.

A couple of times after our son died about 4 weeks ago, never before and we've been together for 12 years, married, have two living children, grandparents passed.

It broke my heart even more when mine was broken into a million pieces already.

Our wedding day, the death of his stepmum, a couple of funerals and two or three times where we’ve had big rows, not spoken for a couple of days and then said sorry to each other. Oh, and the first time he watched It’s a Wonderful Life’.

@gemloving 💐I’m so sorry for your loss.

So so sorry @gemloving x

Lots.

We've been together since 14 and my Grandparents raised me and become like another set of Grandparents to him, he cried when my Grandad told us he only had weeks to live and cried when he passed away and at his funeral. He also cried when my Nan passed away and at her funeral.

Thankfully nobody on his side has yet to pass apart from his great grandmother who died a couple of years before we met.

He sobbed when our baby was born, and he cried for the 13 miscarriages we had before her.

He gets teary even now, at 15 weeks old, when she gives him a big gummy grin he always wells up or when she laughed for the first time the other day, a proper laugh, he went all glassy eyed.

It's one of the things I love about him, he's not afraid to show his emotions. He's a 6ft 2 electrician and has a potty mouth but he's the most gentle caring man I know.

@gemloving so so sorry for your loss, love to you and your family x

Deaths of family members/pets.

Birth of DC

A couple of times out of stress/worry (if it's about myself or DC rather than himself)

Since having DC he gets choked up more easily at films etc.

Not a lot but certainly not never. Sort of as frequently as I'd expect to see an adult cry. PND aside - probably not a lot less than how often I cry.

So so sorry for your loss 🧡🧡🧡

@gemloving I am so sorry

I saw DH cry twice; one night, shortly after he was diagnosed he asked if I was going to leave him now and the second time was on our wedding night, we'd had a beautiful day and I think the fact that he knew we wouldn't get our happy ever after hit him.

Only once when a friend of his died and he went to the funeral and then wake.
My dh actively avoids situations where he’d cry. Never cried when dds were born, when his grandma died. I have however seen him well up when watching a sad movie/programme. He has avoided other friend’s funerals too.
I’d only seen my df cry once when his younger brother died. He was devastated. He promised my grandma he’d look after him when he emigrated 😢

We’ve been together for 18 years & I’ve never seen him cry.

when his dad died he dreamt he cried. He blames boarding school.

my dad cries quite easily though and he went to boarding school.