How many times have you seen your husband / DP cry?

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We've been together for 6.5 years now, married 4.5. I've never seen my husband cry even once. He got a little choked up at the birth of our first child, but that's about it. I find it a little weird but I guess he just never cries. I think he is one of those guys who was taught that it's not 'manly' to cry.

How often have you seen your man cry?

Not very often. When his father died in a rock climbing accident and when we nearly lost our daughter as a newborn. That’s all I can remember, in twenty years together.

Shocked at how low these numbers are, surely most of us cry from time to time? DH cries every time we watch one of those Missing Family programmes, although I do tutt at him for it sometimes.

Lots of times, thankfully happy cries as well as sad ones.

Sad tears during our infertility struggles and failed IVF attempts.

Many nostalgic, happy tears at live music events, sporting events etc.

Happy tears, I hope, on our wedding day 🥰🥰

Edited to add that we’ve been together 24 years.

DH is more of a crier than I am. Grief, of course, but anything involving Muhammad Ali sets him off, or any inspiring bit of performance or sport. He sometimes cries watching Strictly. I think the last time I actually saw him cry was when Bruce Willis's family announced that he had dementia. DH sniffled his way through several BW films that week. We rib him for it but I'm glad he is able to express his feelings and doesn't feel he has to pretend not to have them.

Dozens, possibly into the hundreds.

I can't remember the initial days after our son died, I'm sure there will have been tears on both sides but it got to the stage that if I was crying he would start too and that would stop my tears. It was a strange thing. It stayed like that for the rest of our time together.

I passed out due to pain once and woke up to him crying on the phone for an ambulance. I thought "He must love me after all if he was upset like that". Knowing what I know now, and judging by his behaviour thereafter, I strongly suspect it was for the benefit of the call handler in case evidence was ever needed in his favour.

His at least weekly crying sessions were when he'd been drinking, his tears were an attempt at manipulating me and always, always for himself. How hard done by he was. FFS, if I told you how well done by he was you'd want to hunt the cunt down. He would often say something about never grieving for our son or his parents because he didn't think he could cope with it or words to that effect, it was because the only emotion he feels is for himself.

Having said that he did cry when the dog died. That didn't stop him making sure the dog suffered an extra few days before being PTS while he fucked off with his OW. If I'd had the strength then that I have now I'd have had the dog PTS long before he'd even booked the Premier Inn.

@gemloving

Once; there were a few tears when the news came in that his mum had died.
First time I'd seen him cry in 20+ years together. There were a few more tears a few days later at her funeral.

I could cry at the opening of an envelope. It doesn't take much to get me going, sad or happy.

Together 6 years with one dc and never seen him cry.
I also grew up with a Dad who never cried or showed his emotions. Saw him cry for the first time 2 years ago when we nearly lost my mum. I

Once, at my mum's funeral.

Together 16 years. I'm the crier.

A good few times; we’ve had a lot of reasons to cry. He is very relaxed with me but he hates to show emotion around his parents or siblings. That was not encouraged growing up.
I cry more, more easily, and much harder than he does.

I'm not sure. Enough times that I can't really remember how many. We are a particular open and emotive family though.

My DH cried with me when I miscarried late at 16 weeks. Also he was teary eyed when both his Granddad and Dad died, but not on the day of the funerals, when he was first told.

Once when his dad died (we have been together for nearly 20 years)

Been married to my DH for nearly 23 years.
4 times I have seen him cry. They were when our DD was born, we then lost our DS at birth. ( just Devastating) and then again when we were lucky to have our other DS's.

Around 10 times in 20 years.
2 x miscarriages, births of our 3 children, his dad died, a relative of mine died that he was really close to, a couple of very traumatic things regarding our kids.
Not much, enough that I can remember. I’ve been shocked every time just because, a bit like me, he’s not a crier. I’ve cried a similar amount of times in the last 20 years.

As many times as he’s see me cry, ie a lot! I love it that he’s in touch with his emotions and comfortable enough to express them. I’m equally pleased that I’ve raised a son who’s not afraid to cry. It’s a very, very good thing.

Twice in 16 years.

Once when our DD was born, and the second was weird and random one day when he was talking about being stressed at work. And was over with as quick as it started.

I cry all the bloody time 🙄

Not once. I've seen him sad, but never cry. Been together 15 years.

Oh - there was a third time. When i lost a baby at 14 weeks 😔 I buried that memory obvs.

Maybe 20 or 30 times.
Bereavement, miscarriages, sad films, reading stuff about people overcoming adversity, talking about emotional stuff...
It melts my heart a bit each time.

I've seen DH cry when family members of his have died, and at the birth of our DDs. He's also cried a handful of times when we've had a bad argument, which isn't often.

I like that he isn't afraid to cry and show his emotions. However I cry at the drop of a hat....a sad film, some music, the news, even just thinking of something sad. I cannot imagine DH ever crying at a film or even something true on the TV that's very upsetting.

We’ve been together almost 2 years and he’s cried more than me in that time! Probably around 6 times? We haven’t experienced anything serious like death either. He’s just very in touch with his emotions and far more empathetic than I am!

Many times (we’re 50 & 53). The last time was yesterday - we had our wonderful 12 year old giant doodle put to sleep on Saturday after a 6 year battle with cancer - and our 4 yr old dood turned to lick his brother’s bowl… and it wasn’t there.

And today we received a beautiful bereavement card from our vets (with a card impregnated with forget me not seeds) that’s had us have a happy & sad lip wobbly hug together.

Pets aside, there’s been plenty of times where he has cried, both happy & sad tears.

There’s been many tears since Saturday of course.

It’s ok and normal for blokes to cry (even my 31 year old son has shed a few tears this week).

So sorry @CentrifugalBumblePuppy. Your hearts must be broken. 💐

Loads of times, far too many to count, he cries at music, films, sport, anything sad on tv, not sobbing but a few tears.
I cry at anything, even if I just see someone who looks sad it brings a tear, or happy times, I cry a few tears most days, I don’t mind it’s just me.
I think it’s good that crying is no longer looked on as being soft, it’s a genuine human emotion, it’s as natural as laughing, well it is to me😅

@gemloving 💐 sorry for your loss

DH has cried a few times (death of his dad, miscarriage, wedding day). Wedding day was happy tears. When I was coming round from a big operation he had a little cry and said I thought I was going to lose you. I love that he can express himself and not hold back.