How many times have you seen your husband / DP cry?

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We've been together for 6.5 years now, married 4.5. I've never seen my husband cry even once. He got a little choked up at the birth of our first child, but that's about it. I find it a little weird but I guess he just never cries. I think he is one of those guys who was taught that it's not 'manly' to cry.

How often have you seen your man cry?

Loads. He cries when someone scores at football.

26 years - never. Miscarriages, birth of children, death of a parent. I'm not much of a cryer but certainly more than him.

Once very briefly at my sister's funeral. I think he has been on the verge of crying when I have been admitted to hospital in the past.

Same for mine

None. We joke that he's the tin man 🤣

Once in 33 years
He cried at the end of 'A dog's purpose'
I think we need another dog

Every few months. He gets choked up by moving stuff on the TV (emotionally moving shows not DIY type shows 🤣)
He is a sensitive soul.

Things DH cries about: sport, sport, Britain's got talent (or similar sob stories), sport, sport, emotional movies with bittersweet endings, sporting triumph, people overcoming adversity, sport, documentaries about sport.

Rarely, he'll also cry about something in our real life - either through welling up with pride or sorrow. Mostly it's sport though. I reckon he's got a little tear in his eye on the quiet most weeks.

The conversation goes like this:

Me: Are you crying?!
Him: No.
😂

To be fair we are talking welling up not full scale snotty sobbing. I've only seen him do that about twice in 20 years.

Many times. He is the one most likely to cry out of the two of us.

Almost 16 years together and not seen him cry once.

It's really sad how many of the men feel unable to express their emotions or have learned to suppress them over the years. My husband never used to cry and it was years before I saw him cry for the first time due to a family bereavement. However, over the years he's become a lot more in touch with his feelings, he explained growing up crying wasn't really allowed and the only acceptable emotion he could show was anger. Years down the line and he does now cry from time to time, sometimes unexpectedly so, I see this as really good progress for him.

Never.. together 17 years.

Loads of times. DH is a big softy and is more likely to cry at a sad film than I am. I like it, he's the complete opposite of my stern and angry Dad, and DH owns his emotions.

Once, when we had our first dog pts.

Rarely but more so in the last few years with cancer scares and friends dying.

Twice, we’re extremely fortunate to not have experienced many upsetting things.
Once was when a family member died and the second time sounds ridiculous but we were going through a very stressful house renovation and had arrived at a multitude of problems and everything became a bit overwhelming.

He lost his little 11 year brother to leukaemia and cried whenever we watched anything on TV about sick or dying children. In fact he lost 3 siblings - another to suicide and a baby sister of cot death. 😔 Also after his mother died.

Three. Once early on when we almost broke up, once when my DD casually dropped into conversation that she would like to call him dad, and once when his parents' dog died. My late DH was a crier though, as am I, so it's unusual to me that DP doesn't cry often and secretly I quite like it when he does!

3 times in 23 years - when I nearly broke up with him early in our relationship, when I was unwell during pregnancy and needed an op and he felt helpless, when our dog was PTS.

I feel he generally expresses his emotions through anger - not at people he just rants to himself. I think a lot of men do this.

Been together 12 years and I have seen him cry absolutely loads. Sad films and sad songs make him cry as well as sad or worrying life events. I think it is positive he is able to show his emotions I definitely don't see it as a weakness. My DS is the same.

My dad never used to be a crier but now he cries at everything. I mean, he records his favourite dances from Strictly and makes me rewatch them with him and he's sobbing before the music has even started.

@gemloving so sorry for your loss xxxx

My husband cries at everything. My favourite was at the Simpsons movie when Marge said she was going to leave Homer!

Many times, probably over ten times. Together 6 years, married 3.

I’ve been with my husband for 25 years. I have seen him tear up a few times (on our wedding day, when the babies were born…) but I don’t believe I have seen him really properly cry. He shed some tears at my Mum’s funeral and my Dad’s but just a few silent tears as opposed to full on weeping. Mind you I very rarely cry either so 🤷🏼‍♀️