Shit at everything.

[Losttrack]

Firstly I will point out that I have learning difficulties. Did not go to a main stream school. So I do not have a standard education.

You know that saying everyone is good at something. Weather is academic, hands on stuff, gardening, art . Or what ever. I'm no good at fuck all . I have never achieved anything in my life.

Thank you . I really would like to be able to crochet. As I said I tried it before and couldn't do it. Someone else suggested drawing which is something I used to do many years ago. And it's literally just paper and pencil. And I can Just do it when ever. I'm thinking I might do that build up some confidence. Then when I feel more positive about things I might try the crochet . Just something really simple.

Hi OP. When you were a child, how did you enjoy spending your time? This can usually give a clue to something you'd be good at as an adult.

Your actually right. From teenager to adult I used to draw alot . And another poster suggested it I had forgotten because its been such a long time. Im going to give that a go .

I did used tu play keyboard but I don't want to go there 🤣

You should definitely take that up again. What kind of things did you draw?

Just what I felt like really. Elephants and tigers come to mind. Will see though

Drawing sounds great. Don't underestimate it, probably most people can't draw!
Weaving also sprang to mind www.theweavingloom.com/how-to-make-a-cardboard-loom/
This one you could use on the sofa.
If you can somehow fit a little table or surface in though it will really increase your options. I recently finally got a drop leaf table after years of having no space and iys a game changer.

Everyone has different talents - yours isn't in the academic side of things. Not everyone is cut out for university and degrees. Your talent lies somewhere else, you just have to find it!

Don't put yourself down, because believe me, other people will be only too happy to agree with you.

You're obviously keen to do something - have you tried volunteering? It doesn't necessarily mean in a charity shop, a friend of mine volunteers in a hospital to chat to people while they're waiting for a minor operation to distract them from worrying.

Don't let your lack of educational qualification put you off anything, you've a lot to offer the world but you haven't found what it is yet.

Can't I just buy one of them things on the link? Also whst does it actually do? I looks interesting but I'm not sure what it does 😅

I would say i can draw well. But its something I used to enjoy so worth ago

Like a PP, I discovered a hitherto-unknown talent for growing house plants during lockdown, which came as a total surprise to me (I had previously managed to kill a mint bush, which is practically impossible).

I started off small, made a lot of mistakes (RIP, brave and tolerant spider plant and the Victorian parlour palm that I inadvertently exposed to icy winter gusts), but I persevered and kept learning, and now I have a house full of greenery and a very minor side hustle in propagating cuttings!

I do understand what you're saying about wanting 'a thing', but a sense of achievement doesn't come from being instantly good at something: it comes from getting better and realising that for every two steps back, you take one step forward.

I hope you find something that you enjoy.

Sounds great. Once you've got back into your drawing, you should frame a couple and hang them on the wall. It'll give you that reminder that this is "your thing".

They won't be that good 🤣. But I will keep them in a book. You never know maybe one day . One will be good enough for the toilet wall. 🤣 I'm not really worried about hiw good they are to be honest. It was just to find a little something to do. Which is kind of relaxing. But also does not take me away where I am needed.

I am plagued by anxiety and it stops me doing a lot of things.

Many years ago I had a driving phobia after having a car accident and went to see a therapist. I was bemoaning my lack of ambition and achievements.

My therapist pointed out that my relationship with my only child was a fantastic achievement. She made me see that being the warm heart of the home, a safe place for my child to come home to was important.

You don’t have enough time to pursue other things I can see that, but you will in time. Most of the time ability to do things just takes time to learn the new skill, time which you don’t currently have.

Can you reframe things so that being the most important thing in your children’s life is an enough for the time being. But you will have time later to learn new things.

Dont forget that many people are restless and as soon as they have achieved something start looking for a new goal. Or the achievement only means something if they can show it off to the world. They are not necessarily people to envy.

I'm really sorry things have not been good with you .

Your therapist sounds great. I guess we do sometimes forget what's right infront of us. I hope that your ok and things ste better for you.