Which is more important in a man?

[leather2099]

1. Tall, deep conversation, man of the world as in he knows 'stuff', like to wine and dine, loves dancing, loves fashion, sex amazing, works in emergency service BUT is quite insecure, have to be very accountable and very much the boss, v strict with my SEN kids...

2 2 inches taller than me, I never doubt where I stand, would agree to whatever I wanted but I'd probably have to find the restaurant, holiday, dress etc
15 years younger than other man.
V energetic sex life
Would love my kids as if they were his own

😬 which sounds best?

You led each description with their height, which is literally the least important aspect of each of them.

It's obvious from your description that 2 is a far better option so I'm guessing that it's the height thing that is making it hard to choose? 🙄

Is neither an option?

I'd say you're better of with neither or enjoying a casual relationship and a bit of short term fun with whichever it's easier to be casual with (2?).

If you're not sure, it's neither

Second. I'd never for one nanosecond tolerate any partner being strict with my kids. Not their place nor business.

This

1 would be out the door as fast as I could throw him, sounds like a controlling nightmare.

Neither. The fact that you have to ask complete strangers for their advice suggests that you don't feel strongly enough about either man to commit to a relationship. Marriage / relationships are hard. Don't do it with someone that you have lukewarm feelings for.