Which is more important in a man?

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1. Tall, deep conversation, man of the world as in he knows 'stuff', like to wine and dine, loves dancing, loves fashion, sex amazing, works in emergency service BUT is quite insecure, have to be very accountable and very much the boss, v strict with my SEN kids...

2 2 inches taller than me, I never doubt where I stand, would agree to whatever I wanted but I'd probably have to find the restaurant, holiday, dress etc
15 years younger than other man.
V energetic sex life
Would love my kids as if they were his own

😬 which sounds best?

Quite obviously 2. Why are you even asking it's a no brainer.

Are you sleeping with these two men at the same time??

And do they know that?

Neither. One is insecure, will think he can tell you what to do and is strict with your child. Why is he allowed to discipline your child if you’re not even in an established, exclusive relationship? And even then?

Two will leave everything for you to sort out and won’t take responsibility for decisions. Also, would love your kids as if they were his own? It doesn’t sound like you’re in a serious relationship with him either and he’s getting that close with your children? That’s very stupid. And he won’t love them ‘like his own’, nor should he.

Raise the bar and have some boundaries for your children’s sake.

I hope both of them find someone better who doesn't try and play them off against other men. You are obviously romantically involved with both of them at the same time, they probably deserve a better woman than you. I hope they each run for the hills before you make your decision.

Neither

Assuming everyone involved knows the situation, the OP is doing nothing wrong.

OP, neither. Keep looking.

What has this to do with the price of fish ?

If you are asking the question Op, you need to be looking for number 3.

No 2, just for the fact that no 1 is awful to your DC (SEN DC need to be disciplined differently, not as if they are being naughty).

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2!! Even without the kids it would still be Nr. 2. (Although nr 2 could be a bit passive, I suppose)
Nr. 1 sounds insecure and controlling.

and the attitude to your kids… well, that just makes it a no-brainer imo!

But honestly, who do you like? What does your heart tell you? Who fits into your life?

Curious as to how you know so much about sex with them both and how they 'parent' your children.

I'm going to go for neither.

By all means date but keep any man away from your children for a very long time.

1 sounds unpleasant
2 sounds nice but that you’d get annoyed with his passivity after a while

Neither sound great tbh. I'd throw them both back

2 without a doubt.

Number 2.

1 sounds as if he could end up a nasty piece of work, he's already half way there.

Neither frankly. Height isn't an issue and I want someone who's a lot more a stable personality and a lot more capable.

I wouldn't want someone so needy or another child to manage.

I came on to say this. Never understood why height matters at all. Seriously, does that even rank, alongside being a cxxt to your kids?? Mind truly blown.

’If you cannot choose between the two then neither one is right.’

I think that’s what the saying is!

@Bananasplitlady brilliant reply.

1 is a no way option 2 is a will do, how long since your last relationship?

This absolutely!! OP really? Height is that important to you? Fucking hell some women have strange priorities.

I just find it funny that you've opened with height for both of them 😂

A lot of what you've written about 1 sounds like code for him being a total nightmare so 2 I suppose.

Two

Im the boss 😊

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