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Did my DF spike my drink?

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:02

Name changed (hope it worked) as I am a regular.

Went to an event at the weekend, I had my dc with me (older teens), I don’t really drink much and haven’t done any drugs since a teenager. A friend turned up (male friend), he’s heavily into taking coke and drinks. He gave me a can of beer which was fine but then he went off to the bar and bought a drink, he then poured half into my glass. An hour later I had a banging headache and went for a lie down but had really vivid dreams or I was hallucinating, found it really hard to sleep and felt pretty unwell for a couple hours. I didn’t feel drunk, I had only drunk the equivalent of a pint of beer/cider all evening. Does it sound like he put something in my drink?

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Dartmoorcheffy · 20/08/2023 21:03

What motive would he have? Have you spoken to him since?

Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2023 21:05

Why are you friends with a man who's heavily into coke?

Youwho2 · 20/08/2023 21:06

It sounds like you had something that didn't agree with you. Did you only drink 2 drinks? Did you smoke or eat anything?

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:14

He thought I was meeting up with him and his mates later, he’s into dance/rave stuff, I don’t want to give too much away, we were at a festival. He’s a good friend, I’m never usually around him when he does coke but I know he does it. He jokes about getting high with me.

I was around people smoking weed but that never effects me in that way, I had one can of beer (small can) and then half of his cider (half a pint) so the equivalent to a pint. I rarely drink but when I do I can handle a few shots of a couple ciders, if I drink too much I feel sick, doesn’t tend to make me see things or have weird dreams but I guess it’s possible. I had eaten so wasn’t on a empty stomach.

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:14

Dartmoorcheffy · 20/08/2023 21:03

What motive would he have? Have you spoken to him since?

I have spoken to him and I did ask what was in the drink he gave me but he hasn’t really answered.

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Youwho2 · 20/08/2023 21:23

I wouldn't be friends with him if you can't trust him with your drink. I wouldn't eat or drink from him again. I had a friend who put speed in my drink once. My parents popped round unexpectedly so that was interesting. I don't drink very often but 2 drinks wouldn't make me hallucinate. I asked about food because I wondered if you might of had magic mushrooms. Im guessing it was LSD in your drink. I've had lots of drugs but very few that induced hallucination. Although different people react to drugs on different ways. Are you taking any medications that could react with alcohol?

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:29

I’m not on any medications, I took ibuprofen earlier in the day but nothing else. Weed has made me hallucinate in the past but from smoking it not just being around it. I know he had taken coke, he mentioned MDMA, I have taken speed once before (many moons ago) but had no reaction. Maybe he didn’t put anything in it? Maybe it was just a bad head ache but all I can say is I have never had such weird vivid dreams and have never felt like that before.

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Doyoumind · 20/08/2023 21:31

Were they really hallucinations or were things kind of flashing? Did you feel hot or thirsty?

Sounds like he might have given you something, which makes him a shit friend.

Youwho2 · 20/08/2023 21:35

Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:29

I’m not on any medications, I took ibuprofen earlier in the day but nothing else. Weed has made me hallucinate in the past but from smoking it not just being around it. I know he had taken coke, he mentioned MDMA, I have taken speed once before (many moons ago) but had no reaction. Maybe he didn’t put anything in it? Maybe it was just a bad head ache but all I can say is I have never had such weird vivid dreams and have never felt like that before.

Could be a migraine. I have auras with my migraine. I see and smell stuff. Once I thought people were speaking a foreign language and couldn't understand what was being said.

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:35

I did feel hot.
I’m not sure if they were dreams or hallucinations, I was trying to go to sleep to get rid of the head ache but when ever I shit my eyes I started seeing crazy things…think monsters, people with 2 heads etc…, really weird stuff. After a hour I was wide awake and couldn’t sleep. Woke up very thirsty this morning.

It does make him a shit friend, especially when he spent ages telling me what a great friends I was and telling me what an amazing person I am. He hasn’t really checked I’m ok. I was stupid to except a drink off him.

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:38

Yes, could just have been a migraine, which is why I don’t want to accuse him of anything 😬. I have been getting bad head aches lately so maybe it’s related to that? I guess I will never know.

I am pretty open minded about drugs, if people want to take them then that’s their choice but I choose not too, same with drink.

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Doyoumind · 20/08/2023 21:41

Telling you how amazing you are could have been because he was on drugs. Did his or your eyes look different?

If you haven't seen monsters with a migraine previously, I'd go with the most obvious explanation.

Youwho2 · 20/08/2023 21:42

I would keep your distant from this "friend". Id avoide him and i certainly wouldn't eat or drink from him just I'm case. You'll soon know if this is related to migraine because I imagine you'll get it again unrelated to him. If you do get it again then visit the GP.

Nat6999 · 20/08/2023 21:43

The being hot & thirsty makes me wonder if it was MDMA. Can you speak to your doctor & ask for a blood test as it can be detected in your blood for up to 90 days, or go to the police.

Youwho2 · 20/08/2023 21:45

Nat6999 · 20/08/2023 21:43

The being hot & thirsty makes me wonder if it was MDMA. Can you speak to your doctor & ask for a blood test as it can be detected in your blood for up to 90 days, or go to the police.

I wasn't sure it would show up but it's definitely worth doing bloods if it will. I'd want to know. It's bloody dangerous. It makes you extremely vulnerable. Did you 100% go home alone?

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:47

Doyoumind · 20/08/2023 21:41

Telling you how amazing you are could have been because he was on drugs. Did his or your eyes look different?

If you haven't seen monsters with a migraine previously, I'd go with the most obvious explanation.

Yea, he had taken drugs before I met up with him (he told me), possibly coke. He was extra chatty and told me why.

Not sure if my eyes looked different, I was camping and just went back to my tent for a lie down when I got the head ache.

I am hoping it’s migraine related but I don’t trust him.

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HundredMilesAnHour · 20/08/2023 21:49

He doesn't sound like a friend if he deliberately gave you drugs without even telling you. And he did this when your teenage DC were with you? What if he did the same to them, would you know?

I'd drop him like a stone.

HundredMilesAnHour · 20/08/2023 21:52

I am hoping it’s migraine related but I don’t trust him.

I've had regular migraines for the past 35 years. At no point during a migraine have I ever hallucinated and/or seen monsters or people with two heads. In fact, the only time I've had hallucinations/dreams like that was when I was in hospital on morphine. I think you need to face up to him drugging you.

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Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:53

HundredMilesAnHour · 20/08/2023 21:49

He doesn't sound like a friend if he deliberately gave you drugs without even telling you. And he did this when your teenage DC were with you? What if he did the same to them, would you know?

I'd drop him like a stone.

I agree, he knows I don’t even get drunk near my dc, he knows I don’t touch drugs. If he did give me something I won’t be having anything to do with him ever again.

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RantyAnty · 20/08/2023 21:54

Ex friend
You can get a blood test and find out for sure. It's assault if that's what he did.

huggiess · 20/08/2023 22:05

Drunkskunkbat · 20/08/2023 21:35

I did feel hot.
I’m not sure if they were dreams or hallucinations, I was trying to go to sleep to get rid of the head ache but when ever I shit my eyes I started seeing crazy things…think monsters, people with 2 heads etc…, really weird stuff. After a hour I was wide awake and couldn’t sleep. Woke up very thirsty this morning.

It does make him a shit friend, especially when he spent ages telling me what a great friends I was and telling me what an amazing person I am. He hasn’t really checked I’m ok. I was stupid to except a drink off him.

This happened to me before, it was from an antibiotic I'd been prescribed. I was proper tripping out it was horrible, I was seeing hot water bottles flapping around like fish and all sorts of crazy shit !!

Lindy2 · 20/08/2023 22:17

You were there with your DC? Are you really comfortable with him being around your children? I know you said they are teenagers but as a mum of young teens I am really struggling to find any of what you describe as being in my comfort zone of a family day out.

You asked him what he put in your drink but he couldn't give a straight answer. Any answer other than an instant and surprised "nothing, why do you think there was something in your drink?" means he knows there was something in there.

It means he was happy to drug you even though you were with your kids. What he wanted to happen while you were drugged, you will hopefully never know. Whether he would have also drugged your DC is also something I would be worried about.

I think it's time to act a bit more responsibly regarding who you are friends with and where you go.

ThreeRingCircus · 20/08/2023 22:18

You asked him what he put in your drink but he couldn't give a straight answer. Any answer other than an instant and surprised "nothing, why do you think there was something in your drink?" means he knows there was something in there.

Exactly this. I would get a blood test ASAP.

Medusaismyhero · 20/08/2023 22:20

Were you awake during the hallucinations or did you just have very vivid dreams? Sounds to me like a combo of alcohol when you don't normally drink, potentially the second hand smoke from the weed and the fact you don't trust your friend. I've been spiked and it wasn't anything like you describe but obviously it depends on with what.

Lilithlogic · 20/08/2023 22:26

Wtf would you even contemplate having around your dc? I'm no pearl clutcher, but that is crazy