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Not only did Lucy Letby kill and badly hurt babies…

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determinedtomakethiswork · 18/08/2023 22:23

She also prepared the memory boxes for parents of the dead children. Can you imagine having a memory box with photos and footprints of your dead child which had been taken by his or her merger?

That goes way beyond the murder. I just don't know how the families are coping.

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TheaBrandt · 19/08/2023 14:28

If you listen to the Mail podcast (very good to be fair with two young women freelance journalists who were careful to report only what the jury heard) you could only conclude guilt.

Tpfu · 19/08/2023 14:33

TheSkull · 19/08/2023 14:17

Surely if you had no idea wtf had happened at the time of the arrest wouldn't you be asking what your child was being arrested for rather than saying “take me”? Very odd

Yes exactly. Very telling.

Chickentikka567 · 19/08/2023 14:38

Not necessarily. It doesn't mean she thinks her daughter did it, she probably just feels such guilt at her daughter going to prison for likely the rest of her life.

Jodiewa · 19/08/2023 14:42

I wish the consultants had called the police. I don't blame them for not doing so - though the hospital managers have a lot to be held accountable for. But I wish they'd have called the police.

DojaPhat · 19/08/2023 14:54

I haven't read the whole thread but between this one and afew others about this case - can anyone comment more on whether her actions i.e she went a lot further than just killing babies; her actions were completely psychotic to the point that I wonder (not with the view to absolve her in any way), but what sort of mental disorder would make someone so vampire-ish, stalking the parents thereafter and participating in bereavement care in this manner by preparing the boxes and so forth. This just seems a great deal more than just killing in cold blood IYSWIM?

Iserstatue · 19/08/2023 14:59

Tpfu · 19/08/2023 14:33

Yes exactly. Very telling.

Nobody ever knows what they would do in that kind of situation. We all think we know but we don't, and every single person will have a different response.

That's why it's really important not to project what we think we would do and see something sinister when that not may be the case at all. Also, unless it was recorded on film or audio, what was said and in what context may be different.

In the very past case of Peter Falconio who was murdered by a stranger in Australia, numerous people in the Police, media and public thought his girlfriend Joanna Lees was lying that they'd both been abducted and that she must have been responsible for his murder. Based on her saying things and acting in a way which people judged to be 'wrong' for a victim.

In a more recent case of Nichola Bulley, social media ncluding MN was populated by posters convinced her husband, family and friends were suspicious based on things they said or did. Her husbands hat in an interview was a source of suspicion that indicated he was guilty of something allegedly 🙄

Iserstatue · 19/08/2023 15:01

DojaPhat · 19/08/2023 14:54

I haven't read the whole thread but between this one and afew others about this case - can anyone comment more on whether her actions i.e she went a lot further than just killing babies; her actions were completely psychotic to the point that I wonder (not with the view to absolve her in any way), but what sort of mental disorder would make someone so vampire-ish, stalking the parents thereafter and participating in bereavement care in this manner by preparing the boxes and so forth. This just seems a great deal more than just killing in cold blood IYSWIM?

Look up psychosis. It doesn't mean what you think it means.

backtogrey · 19/08/2023 15:06

Marmite17 · 19/08/2023 13:22

Not sure if her doctor friend was testifying for or against her. Wish this site had edit!
Just not convinced she's guilty, there is so little evidence.
Obviously horrible crimes had been committed.

There’s plenty of evidence. You haven’t seen it.

Mysland · 19/08/2023 15:08

@Ohyousillydivvy thanks for the link. Very interesting. I would imagine that if, in say an industrial company, an employee had been killed at work, and despite several safety concerns having been raised to management they had done nothing, it would be very hard for the company to deny any blame.

JanieEyre · 19/08/2023 15:11

Jodiewa · 19/08/2023 14:42

I wish the consultants had called the police. I don't blame them for not doing so - though the hospital managers have a lot to be held accountable for. But I wish they'd have called the police.

I doubt they'd have got anywhere. The police would have talked to hospital bosses who would have said they' investigated and were satisfied that there was nothing in it, and I doubt that they'd have looked far beyond that.

MotherofGorgons · 19/08/2023 15:14

JanieEyre · 19/08/2023 15:11

I doubt they'd have got anywhere. The police would have talked to hospital bosses who would have said they' investigated and were satisfied that there was nothing in it, and I doubt that they'd have looked far beyond that.

They were threatened with referral to the GMC. Forced to apologise to Letby. And they didn't have any proof, I think. Just suspicions.

BreatheAndFocus · 19/08/2023 15:16

DojaPhat · 19/08/2023 14:54

I haven't read the whole thread but between this one and afew others about this case - can anyone comment more on whether her actions i.e she went a lot further than just killing babies; her actions were completely psychotic to the point that I wonder (not with the view to absolve her in any way), but what sort of mental disorder would make someone so vampire-ish, stalking the parents thereafter and participating in bereavement care in this manner by preparing the boxes and so forth. This just seems a great deal more than just killing in cold blood IYSWIM?

Some people take pleasure in the aftermaths of their crimes. This can be because of the thrill, because of feeding off others’ distress, or simply a compulsion to do so. Letby looked at the parents’ Facebooks a huge amount of times. IMO she got off on the whole drama around the death of small babies.

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 19/08/2023 15:21

daisychain01 · 19/08/2023 06:24

More likely they will need to put her on suicide watch.

look at what happens when a deranged gunman lets loose in a school, shopping mall or church. Their last act is to turn the gun on themselves.

Mass killers and serial killers have different motives and the mass killer's suicide is his final act of rage and punishment of people he doesn't like. His suicide denies justice to the people who survive his attack and is a way of hurting the people he didn't have enough bullets to kill. Serial killers don't usually commit suicide; Peter Sutcliffe and the Moors Murderers didn't commit suicide. Shipman was an outlier and at least part of his motivation was to make sure his wife got his pension.

BIossomtoes · 19/08/2023 15:22

backtogrey · 19/08/2023 15:06

There’s plenty of evidence. You haven’t seen it.

He was a prosecution witness. And the evidence is overwhelming.

KatiefromHull · 19/08/2023 15:22

@VibrantGreen i really disagree with this. I think LL is abhorrent and those people should be held accountable for any wrong-doing and face the maximum punishments. But I don’t think a blanket response should be remove pensions that they paid into in out of their salary.

DojaPhat · 19/08/2023 15:26

@Iserstatue Thank you for such a helpful post. I did not say I think she is (clinically) psychotic. Psychopathic traits indeed, sadistic certainly, but thank you nonetheless Smile

BreatheAndFocus · 19/08/2023 15:29

Marmite17 · 19/08/2023 13:22

Not sure if her doctor friend was testifying for or against her. Wish this site had edit!
Just not convinced she's guilty, there is so little evidence.
Obviously horrible crimes had been committed.

Are you the same Marmite who (politely) reprimanded me because you said I hadn’t understood your post (I had) and you were just trying to give examples of what Letby herself might be thinking (insulin causing a “pleasant death”, etc)? And that you didn’t actually think that yourself?

How can you possibly say there is little evidence? There’s loads of it! Not just for one death - for a number of deaths and injuries. Do you think she’s innocent because you could never do something like that? That’s not how life works….

The point I was making is that sometimes people get away with horrible crimes for a while because people can’t conceive anyone could do something so awful. Like you, they try to ‘explain’ it, say the events were accidents or mistakes - all because they can’t understand evil behaviour. You said you couldn’t “relate to” the killing of babies. Nobody is asking you to. All I’m saying is that there’s wickedness in this world and we should be aware of it and the possibility of the answer being that the person accused is guilty as charged and simply a bad person, not mistakenly convicted, not misguidedly acting in a ‘kind’ way. Just because you couldn’t ever do anything so wicked, doesn’t mean others can’t.

The executives weren’t just protecting the reputation of the hospital - although shockingly that seems to be a major concern of theirs - they clearly couldn’t get their heads around the possibility that a nurse was killing babies. That was a huge failing on their part, and shockingly naive.

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 19/08/2023 15:29

BertieBotts · 19/08/2023 12:26

It sounds almost similar to that rare condition where people, for whatever reason usually mothers, deliberately make their own child ill by feeding them poisonous substances or medicines that they should not have. They do it because (well obviously because there is some mental disturbance, but also) they are compelled by the attention and investigation and sense of power they get from "miraculously saving the child" which is something that was reported in this case.

It's awful enough to do it to one child but to many, especially such tiny vulnerable children is just so horrifically wrong. And I'm guessing it wasn't picked up on because it is human nature to assume that nobody could harm such tiny vulnerable children. We want to believe the best in people. In 99.999% of cases this is absolutely right. Unfortunately it's the one in a million where it's the wrong call :(

I don't know if it's very helpful to look at upbringing and state that serious mental disturbances can only be caused by severe abuse and neglect. While there is a very clear risk that those things do increase the risk of personality disorders, there are also other more subtle kinds of abuse/neglect which might very well look to the outside like "She had a stable home and a nice upbringing". And I don't think it's the whole story either. People/neurology/psychology/motivation are all extremely complicated and if it was as easy as someone having the right kind of upbringing and that could be easily defined, then there would be all sorts of guidelines and education in the way of ensuring that every child gets that. Though I suppose that also assumes that we have the resources - as it currently stands many many children fall through the net with even obvious abuse/neglect because there are only so many resources to enable intervention in the very worst cases.

You describe Munchausen's By Proxy.

ladeluge · 19/08/2023 15:36

I wonder if she can appeal and if so if she will?

LakieLady · 19/08/2023 15:40

Globalfrumpmaster78 · 19/08/2023 12:42

I profoundly disagree. The death penalty has not been proven to be a deterrent. State authorised killing leads to all sorts of issues in the people who sanction it and carry it out. It puts us the people morally on the same level as the killers. And it is a much easier end for the perpetrator who should suffer the severe punishment and deprivations of long term incarceration.

I'm with you on that @Globalfrumpmaster78 . If the death penalty was an effective deterrent, Louisiana wouldn't have the highest murder rate in the US.

Blueink · 19/08/2023 15:40

ZoeCM · 19/08/2023 11:34

People were posting on the previous thread about how it's drummed into us from childhood that physical attractiveness is synonymous with goodness. Coincidentally, I read Beauty & the Beast to my youngest last night. The author banged on about how good-hearted the main character was, and how she was called "the Little Beauty" as a child, and how she remained so gorgeous that she was still called Beauty as an adult, and her spoilt sisters were so jealous of her because they were much plainer...

Same with Cinderella, who is a much nicer person than her ugly stepsisters. We really are taught from a young age that bad people look bad.

Yes I agree, horrible case, but I hope it challenges people to question the ‘beauty myth’ and accept that we don’t know what a predator looks like.

Even now the case is in, some people still won’t accept the evidence.

I wonder as well how much of her life was calculated and how many people she manipulated to hide for so long in plain sight.

Shurleyknot · 19/08/2023 15:41

Well considering on her notes she wrote she should be dead or wanted to be dead I am glad the death penalty is not around so she can suffer every day of her miserable life behind bars.

Flapjacker48 · 19/08/2023 15:42

@BreatheAndFocus Certain posters seem to be a in alittle "Lucy Fan Club" on here and convinced that the evidence "they have seen" (so read online etc) means she should have been found not guilty.

Strangely many of these posters seem to have a very similar writing style...

Flapjacker48 · 19/08/2023 15:44

@ladeluge She can certainly request an appeal of her conviction, but there is limited likelihood it would be approved.

ladeluge · 19/08/2023 15:48

Flapjacker48 · 19/08/2023 15:44

@ladeluge She can certainly request an appeal of her conviction, but there is limited likelihood it would be approved.

Oh I see. So there must be firm grounds for appeal I suppose. However I wouldn't be surprised if she/her legal team did try.

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