What's the most ridiculous thing anyone has said to you?

[chimamandafan]

I occasionally volunteer at a local community centre. It's managed by a woman who tells anyone who cares to listen that she has a medical condition that means she can't eat. She looks well-nourished but I've always been too polite to ask her questions about her condition.

I volunteered at an afternoon event today. I get the seniors to their seats and make pots of tea. Cake was served. The woman who never eats was standing there eating cake.

'Look at you, eating cake! Are you better?' I said. 'Oh,' she said, 'you know me, you know I can't eat because of my medical condition.' 'But you're eating...' She walked off and is apparently really pissed off with me. Apparently I'm rude.

There are some real weirdos around, aren't there?

You've tied yourself up in ridiculous knots there 😂
By excluding anybody, they've demonstrated they're not inclusive. You can't just mangle language so it means what you'd like it to mean.

This venue is inclusive. Everyone is invited. Except you..and you…and maybe you

So not inclusive then

@SomethingSimple I'm so sorry, I know people sometimes can't think what to say, but - what an idiot!

I'm happy to keep explaining. I'll try very simple this time.

So inclusivity is including everyone- yes??
But

Not everyone is inclusive- right??

So people who are not inclusive can not be inclusive-ok??

If you want to be inclusive you need to lose the racist/transphobic/homophobic Or whatever backward thinking style you have. And then you are inclusive.

Hope that helps . Your welcome

Or whatever backward thinking style you have.
Oh, I see. Wrongthink is excluded. Who gets to define what wrongthink is?

Because what you think is transphobic might not be what I think is transphobic. Or what if the venue is hosting a lecture on, oh, dunno, volcanoes, would be relevant what someone thought about a touchy topic or not?

Honestly, you're opening a can of worms if you go down this route.

No, it doesn't help at all. Because - 1) You're wrong, and 2) You're not particularly articulate, and your diatribe doesn't even make any sense.
HTH...

And if we're going to get sidetracked for a moment...

Inclusivity isn't always a good thing. A burglar who helps himself to your money & jewellery is including himself in the category of 'people who have a right to these valuables'. Should the owners of said valuables be more inclusive? (Would you, Quintus? Would I?) Would you expect them to be?

Hint: It's also an analogy, people.

*I'm happy to keep explaining. I'll try very simple this time.

So inclusivity is including everyone- yes??
But

Not everyone is inclusive- right??

So people who are not inclusive can not be inclusive-ok??

If you want to be inclusive you need to lose the racist/transphobic/homophobic Or whatever backward thinking style you have. And then you are inclusive.

Hope that helps . Your welcome*

Agree that not everyone is inclusive.

However if you have a business that hires out its premises to anyone who wants to rent the space and you describe your business as inclusive then you can’t start cancelling events that don’t align with your personal ideas and opinions.
Inclusive as you say means everyone, not just for those that describe themselves as inclusive.

@HarrietJet and you are rude . Poor you.

I think if you stick within law your usually ok.

That don't align with the concept of inclusivity

As a fellow sufferer of CPTSD, I have had similar things said to me, mostly from my own father. I'm sorry you experienced this. Some people are cunts.

We are vegans and my DH's friend asked if we were stuck on a desert island, "like Barbados" with only a pig would we eat it?

Haha! Did you point out to him that Barbados is actually quite 'modern' these days!?

@marblesthecat I know you're vegan not veggie, but if you do get "stuck" in Barbados and don't fancy eating a pig, you could always try the vegetarian nachos I was once served there on hols - tortilla chips, yes, very nice, cheese and sour cream, lovely, thank you, broccoli and carrot, whattttt?

Health visitor telling parents (I was listening as a social worker) to leave their baby to cry more often, that there's a reason why babies in Romanian orphanages don't cry, because this method works.

Oh that is heartbreaking to even think about. And that health visitor is an appalling ignorant idiot.

Wow that is shocking.

That’s awful!
I remember saying to my friend when my fist baby was screaming all day with reflux, ‘those starving babies on the TV don’t even cry this much’ and she said they stop crying because they give up.

what absolutely awful advice from that health visitor

It was particularly sad because we were really trying to build and focus on the importance of attachment, baby had had a very serious injury - accidental but perhaps avoidable.

Parents were thankfully horrified by this advice but still 'guidance' like that stays sometimes, it was years ago and I recall it like yesterday so I wonder if it affected their choices as baby got older.

A young lady who helped support my DD who's disabled said she could never have a baby because all her womb was taken away.. of course we sympathised with her .... 3years later she has 3 babies ( inc a set of twins) that she had naturally.
A God fearing carer used to say to my DD that if she prayed hard enough she'd get outta her wheelchair ( for the first time in many years) and walk! needless to say carer is working elsewhere.

Isn’t the definition of identical twins that they are twins developed from a single fertilised egg, not that they end up looking like each other? My friends mono-mono identical twins (shared one sack and one placenta) ended up looking different because one got all the nutrition in the womb, was born bigger and healthier so fed better and more and consequently they don’t look identical.

I trained as a carer with a woman who survived a LOT of awful things.

She was a refugee from a war and had watched them slaughter her whole family and been attacked herself, she had huge scars all over her face and body. She lost everything even her children then when she survived was sold into sex slavery. When she was finally rescued she was given a bible and it was the only thing she had except the clothes she was wearing. She was in refugee holding centers for over a year and read it everyday, I think its a huge part of her 'survival' story.

She was a strong person, very hard working and at the core of everything good hearted but a little blunt and no nonsense. We had to keep reminding her not everyone is hyper religious like she is. That while she can believe that god saved her she cannot keep saying things about how 'god will save them if x,y,z' to patients.

My Nan years ago, went to Romania to help out in an orphanage for a couple of weeks.

She said it was haunting. The little kids had literally given up. She had never seen babies and toddlers so quiet.

Yep, I don't believe for a minute that the chiropodist in that story was being serious. Sounds like deadpan humour whizzing over @PurpleChrayne 's head