What's the most ridiculous thing anyone has said to you?

[chimamandafan]

I occasionally volunteer at a local community centre. It's managed by a woman who tells anyone who cares to listen that she has a medical condition that means she can't eat. She looks well-nourished but I've always been too polite to ask her questions about her condition.

I volunteered at an afternoon event today. I get the seniors to their seats and make pots of tea. Cake was served. The woman who never eats was standing there eating cake.

'Look at you, eating cake! Are you better?' I said. 'Oh,' she said, 'you know me, you know I can't eat because of my medical condition.' 'But you're eating...' She walked off and is apparently really pissed off with me. Apparently I'm rude.

There are some real weirdos around, aren't there?

I don't think transbashers are the problem. I am of the school of thought of 'you can be what/who you want to be. But the fact that you have to be constantly postulating towards them is an absolute nonsense. It's ridiculous how our institutions be it banking or education or many others have been infiltrated so that if you don't agree with everything then you are a problem. This country has not been so divided in decades. And its sad, sickening and bloody annoying. People need to stop with forcing their own ideology and rhetoric constantly down our throats. This country needs to wake up and say "enough'

I was on talking to a friend, each of us on our mobile phones, to eachother .
I was working late in an empty office so all was quiet. My friend was at a social with lots of people laughing and chatting in the background.

At one point he said to me,
" hold on a minute my phone isnt in my pocket, wait a minute while I look for it ! " he then called out to the group '"has anyone seen my phone?"..

Of course it was in his hand, because he was on the phone talking to me , using it !!
😜hahaha

Went to a shop that had a machine where you could make your own peanut butter.
So machine set up with nuts in a clear container at the top and could see some of the peanut butter at the end of the tap from the last customer.
Me: oh lovely, you can make your own peanut butter.
Friend: oh nice, but where is the butter?
Me: the butter comes out once it's ground, as you can see here, the remnants of the last batch...
Friend: ah, so you add your own butter at home....
Me: No, it comes out as peanut butter, no need to add anything.

Friend: but there's no butter here, so I guess you add your own.
Me: what are you talking about, what butter??!!!
Friend: you know, the butter to make it peanut butter.
Me: you don't need butter, it comes out as peanut butter.
Friend: but why is it called peanut butter if there's no butter?
Me: because you spread it like butter?
Friend: that explains a lot, always wondered why you put butter on your bread before putting on peanut butter as I thought it already had butter in it.
Me: speechless....
40 year old woman with two degrees in math and engineering thought peanut butter has butter in it. 🤦‍♀️

Conversation probably shorter than I've written but felt like we were going round in circles for a very long time 😅.

Could it have been because the coach picked up from multiple resorts? So if you went in a car it could be only 40 miles.

But then they're not identical are they? They began as identical but one has XY chromosomes and one has XO. The XO baby appears as female but the XY baby appears as male. Therefore, not identical.

Not to me directly but my friend to her daughter in my hearing. The girl asked why Japanese people look different, and the mum's response was 'because of radiation in world war 2.' Obviously I told her this was rubbish, and she corrected what she'd said to her daughter. But I was left thinking 'what on earth??'

Someone else I used to know told me that Asian races are shorter because of their 'excessive shame and humility.' I was like 'so you're saying shorter people are more humble than taller people?' Nothing I said could change her mind. I came off the call wondering if I should be offended or just dismissive. Next day she rang back reproaching me for hurting her feelings when she knows she's right because she's experienced this herself, seen it with her own eyes. Well, the woman virtually never leaves her house so yeah, sigh. I gave up.

Something I read a few days ago

“We have made the decision to cancel this show, as we are an inclusive venue and this does not align with our overall values.”

If you are going to describe your venue as “Inclusive” .
(not excluding any of the parties or groups involved in something.)

Then you can’t say/write “Does not align with our overall values.”

Please make it make sense.

So inclusive does sound like it's include everyone. But actually there's a clause around not including groups or people that are not inclusive because if you include people who are not inclusive then by proxy you are not inclusive. So those people are left out because of their choices. So a racist person might be left out because of their treatment/beliefs about black people. A transphobic person might be left out because of their beliefs/ treatment of trans people. A homophobic person might be left out because of their beliefs about gay people.

So by leaving out non inclusive people/groups you are being inclusive to those who do not deserve to be discriminated against.

Hope that helps

I'm Asian and used to work in the City. One day the whole team decided we'd go to Brick Lane after work. I'd never been. My supervisor came up to me and asked 'would you be able to tell which ones a good curry house from the outside?'

Someone once told me Mumsnet was full of “trans bashers”.

Another American one. Late at night at the Poland/Slovakia border, an American man kicking off because his Japanese wife, with a Japanese passport, was refused entry as she had no visa. "But she has a GREEN CARD!!!"

This time in New York: "You're from New Zealand? Gosh. You speak really good English" <<sigh>> Like a native mate.

So inclusive does sound like it's include everyone

It doesn’t just sound like it includes everyone. That is what the word means.

So by definition it doesn’t matter what your opinions are it means everyone.

I agree that inclusive means everyone.

Take parkrun as an example. People moan about them celebrating the fastest runners or a course record because it's meant to be "inclusive". Inclusive means the fastest runners too! Not just those walking/jogging slowly.

Overheard in Dublin City centre (not by me)

1. at a pedestrian crossing during a tour
   American tourist: why does it make that beeping noise?
   Tour guide: so that blind people know the light has turned red
   Tourist: wow they let blind people drive in Ireland!?

2. two dodgy looking guys in tracksuits and hoodies are walking along the street.
   American tourist: let's ask one of the athletes for directions.

So….here I am admitting that I thought peanut butter actually contained butter

Well it sort of does. It has to have something added to it to make it buttery. It's oil, but I mean it could be butter.

@Soubriquet, I only know from seeing my DGM make it from when I was young but thought everyone knew.

@BrassyLocks, doesn't need oil added as the peanuts contain natural oils.
Takes longer though.

It honestly doesn’t! The machines in shops that make it fresh don’t add any oil. Peanuts have a lot of oil in them. Commercial peanut butter has vegetable oil in it, not butter.

I know it doesn't have butter, I'm saying that oil and butter aren't that different. Some cakes have oil instead of butter. In baking they pretty much do the same thing. So although it was a funny conversation, not denying that, it's not outside the realms of possibility to think that butter is added.

Me too

"Well I think you're very lucky actually because at least you know what will kill you, most of us don't. "

Said by a friend. About my illness.

😳

Yes as long as everyone has inclusive beliefs. The people who ar not inclusive can not be included because they are not inclusive so issue lies the the non inclusive people not the venue. They could chose to not be racist, bigoted, homophobic etc. but they don't

Autieangel

The dictionary definition of inclusive is simply something that doesn't leave any person, part or group out. In other words, something is inclusive if it doesn't exclude a person, a part or a group of people.

You can’t say you are an inclusive venue if you then cherry pick only those who agree with your opinion and then cancel those that you decide you don’t agree with.