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chimamandafan · 2023-08-10T17:28:27+00:00

I occasionally volunteer at a local community centre. It's managed by a woman who tells anyone who cares to listen that she has a medical condition that means she can't eat. She looks well-nourished but I've always been too polite to ask her questions about her condition. I volunteered at an afternoon event today. I get the seniors to their seats and make pots of tea. Cake was served. The woman who never eats was standing there eating cake. 'Look at you, eating cake! Are you better?' I said. 'Oh,' she said, 'you know me, you know I can't eat because of my medical condition.' 'But you're eating...' She walked off and is apparently really pissed off with me. Apparently I'm rude. There are some real weirdos around, aren't there?

8misskitty8 · 13/08/2023 18:52

LateSummerLobelia · 13/08/2023 18:44

It;s desperately rare but you can get female haemophiliacs. I have just googled and it is about 0.5%.

I think the poster was pointing out that they don’t bleed to death getting a period.

DrSbaitso · 13/08/2023 18:54

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2023 18:43

Surely having a baby with a disability is because they are the sinners. God is giving them a chance to redeem themselves by devoting themselves to the best interests of their child. It's a challenge from God. (I'm speaking as an atheist, so I think the whole thing is bollox but on the whole in the blame-focused types of religion it's never the innocent newborn that's at fault.)

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You cannot reason with people who have God on their side.

red78hot · 13/08/2023 19:20

8misskitty8 · 13/08/2023 18:52

I think the poster was pointing out that they don’t bleed to death getting a period.

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Exactly, as the thread is "most ridiculous thing someone has said to you"

enchantedsquirrelwood · 13/08/2023 19:22

red78hot · 13/08/2023 18:31

When studying A level history and covering Tsar Nicholas a fellow student claimed that female hemophiliacs die once they have their first period and bleed to death.
Another Co-worker thought that Hotel Chocolat was an actual hotel where everything was made out of chocolate.

Ah well if you can have an Ice Cream Hotel

FictionalCharacter · 13/08/2023 19:52

SinnerBoy · 12/08/2023 23:29

Some bloke in B&Q came up and asked me if they had xyz electrical gizmo. I said, "I dunno."

He was annoyed and and said, "Well, can you go and find out?"

I asked why and he snapped, "It's your fucking job! I'm going to the manager!"

I don't and have never worked there, not was I wearing anything resembling a B&Q uniform!

It would have been so excellent if he had gone to the manager complaining about you!

FictionalCharacter · 13/08/2023 20:07

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There are many, many racists and bigots who are very young. Most likely the result would be reversed because people can see that the promised benefits didn’t materialise. Business people who voted Leave have seen their businesses adversely affected.

Utterknowitall · 13/08/2023 20:48

FrivolousTreeDuck · 13/08/2023 17:29

The second
Have you ever been to a harvesters?

Don't get this one.

Me neither. Unless it's snobbish i.e. I wouldn't be seen dead in one.

elliejjtiny · 13/08/2023 22:04

My son has hydrocephalus (extra fluid on the brain) and has had 22 operations. We were having a meeting at preschool to discuss the support he would need going to school. Someone who was supposedly a senior senco said that we would need ds to stop having so many operations when he starts school as it will affect his attendance record. Then she suggested we give him less water to drink to reduce the fluid on his brain. I said that wouldn't work. She said "but have you asked his paediatrician?" I said no and she said "please do this before the next meeting".

Another one with one of my other sons who was failure to thrive. Someone asked how old he was. I told her. She looked at ds, said "are you sure?" and then proceeded to tell me that he looked much younger.

Same son as the first story when he was in nicu. Postnatal check with midwife who asks where my baby is. I say he is in nicu. She asks me how heavy he was (7lb 2oz) and then said "so what's he doing in there then if he's that size?" You would think a midwife would know that there are babies of all sizes in the nicu. I knew that he was in there for a good reason but the thought that a baby his size shouldn't be there are me off crying again.

CaroleSP · 13/08/2023 22:19

My SIL's mother told her breast feeding wasn't natural!

My now ex-mil used to come out with the most bizarre statements but the strangest was that someone was too slow to carry hats at their own funeral - God only knows where she got that one from!

cloudydays97 · 13/08/2023 22:21

elliejjtiny · 13/08/2023 22:04

My son has hydrocephalus (extra fluid on the brain) and has had 22 operations. We were having a meeting at preschool to discuss the support he would need going to school. Someone who was supposedly a senior senco said that we would need ds to stop having so many operations when he starts school as it will affect his attendance record. Then she suggested we give him less water to drink to reduce the fluid on his brain. I said that wouldn't work. She said "but have you asked his paediatrician?" I said no and she said "please do this before the next meeting".

Another one with one of my other sons who was failure to thrive. Someone asked how old he was. I told her. She looked at ds, said "are you sure?" and then proceeded to tell me that he looked much younger.

Same son as the first story when he was in nicu. Postnatal check with midwife who asks where my baby is. I say he is in nicu. She asks me how heavy he was (7lb 2oz) and then said "so what's he doing in there then if he's that size?" You would think a midwife would know that there are babies of all sizes in the nicu. I knew that he was in there for a good reason but the thought that a baby his size shouldn't be there are me off crying again.

That's absolutely disgusting I'm really sorry you had to go through that cannot believe the ignorance of some people

BlastedIce · 13/08/2023 22:25

elliejjtiny · 13/08/2023 22:04

My son has hydrocephalus (extra fluid on the brain) and has had 22 operations. We were having a meeting at preschool to discuss the support he would need going to school. Someone who was supposedly a senior senco said that we would need ds to stop having so many operations when he starts school as it will affect his attendance record. Then she suggested we give him less water to drink to reduce the fluid on his brain. I said that wouldn't work. She said "but have you asked his paediatrician?" I said no and she said "please do this before the next meeting".

Another one with one of my other sons who was failure to thrive. Someone asked how old he was. I told her. She looked at ds, said "are you sure?" and then proceeded to tell me that he looked much younger.

Same son as the first story when he was in nicu. Postnatal check with midwife who asks where my baby is. I say he is in nicu. She asks me how heavy he was (7lb 2oz) and then said "so what's he doing in there then if he's that size?" You would think a midwife would know that there are babies of all sizes in the nicu. I knew that he was in there for a good reason but the thought that a baby his size shouldn't be there are me off crying again.

Dear fucking god that’s all awful, I’m sorry.

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 13/08/2023 22:36

JusthereforXmas · 13/08/2023 12:27

Same I was in Asda picking up steroids for my long covid while some fat middle age white man with a booming football hooligan voice was abusing the poor lady behind the counter for wearing a mask because 'we all know its made up you sheep' demanding she take it off etc...

As I tried to leave he yelled the classic 'cheer up love, it might never happen'... what Covid? it already did thats why I'm here you ignoramus. What a class 1 bellend he was.

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Yeah, I know somebody that works as a receptionist and bookings clerk for a hotel... They've had, over the last two to three years, (particularly during 2020 and 2021,) probably 7 to 10 occasions of people, (mostly men aged 40 to 60) pointing at them with their mask on and saying, 'what are you wearing that for? You bloody fool. You're bloody stupid. You know, it's all fake, you know, it's all ridiculous. Covid my arse!'

One man even lurched over the counter to try and rip the mask off one of the girls behind the counter ... 'Take it off you daft cunt' he boomed.

I DO NOT GET IT.

If someone wants to wear a mask, what the fucking hell has it got to do with anybody else??? If someone wants to wear a mask, just let them wear one. I just don't get it.

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 13/08/2023 22:39

@elliejjtiny

FictionalCharacter · 13/08/2023 22:41

@elliejjtiny All of that is dreadful.

There are some really shocking accounts in this thread, and a lot of them are down to rank ignorance or someone being horribly malicious. But I find ignorance and insensitivity by healthcare professionals and other people who are meant to be qualified and professional especially horrifying, because we’re often at their mercy. They have the power to do so much harm to us and our children. This thread is full of examples and it’s inexcusable.

Howlingmoor · 13/08/2023 22:49

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2023 18:43

Surely having a baby with a disability is because they are the sinners. God is giving them a chance to redeem themselves by devoting themselves to the best interests of their child. It's a challenge from God. (I'm speaking as an atheist, so I think the whole thing is bollox but on the whole in the blame-focused types of religion it's never the innocent newborn that's at fault.)

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@BlackAmericanoNoSugar There is no such thing as an innocent newborn in born again/fundamentalist Abrahamic religions- we are all guilty from birth of original sin (the sin of Eve in Eden)- that’s why babies need to be baptised asap otherwise they can’t go to heaven.

AngryBirdsNoMore · 14/08/2023 00:05

MadeleineMummy · 13/08/2023 09:42

Around 10 years ago (a few years after being widowed) when my mother was healthy and mentally fit, we thought it would be a good idea to drive to to the South of France. She insisted that foreigners smelled because they ate foreign food. Had us load tins and dried food into the back of the car. She would not eat anywhere and always ate cold food out of tins back at the hotel. It was the first time I spent time with her after childhood and she came up with some gems:
A) aren’t you a little sad you have mongrels (my husband was South Asian), didn’t you want to have blond children like your sister?
B) you are giving them bad habits. Why are you getting them used to foreign food?
C) Your whole family were really sad that you were married to a foreigner. Now that you have done that a decent Englishman won’t want to touch you(I had been widowed for little over a year).
D) Why do foreigners eat cold food?
E) Why do foreigners eat food that hurts them?
F) it is too hot abroad which is why foreigners want to come to England.
G) Foreigners should all rejoice at the benefits of the commonwealth. (I still don’t know what this means).
H) he only married you for your passport (about my husband who was a doctor and was from a family of doctors who for 2 generations worked in the NHS).
we have loads of such stuff over the last several years which people have said was due to Alzheimer’s, but I didn’t know this caused racism.

I think at ‘mongrels’, I would have cut her off.

(so sorry for the loss of your husband)

AngryBirdsNoMore · 14/08/2023 00:15

Howlingmoor · 12/08/2023 23:06

Why do you say ‘reverted’? Did you used to be a Muslim and have gone back to it?

Not relevant to the stupid and rude things people say to you I know, I’m just curious.

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I didn’t see an answer, so - it’s related to the Muslim belief that everyone is born with a natural faith in (Islam’s) God. So if you become a Muslim, you are reverting to that natural state.

AngryBirdsNoMore · 14/08/2023 00:16

Happyandretired001 · 12/08/2023 20:15

When I was pregnant with my eldest daughter I was told by a midwife not to wear black knickers as it would depress the baby, I admit this was 40 years ago and I hope attitudes have changed🤔

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this is one of the best.

AlexReventa · 14/08/2023 01:31

A local shop keeper found a complaint about his (very expensive) sea side food shop on a comment site. The customer had commented that the shop keeper was “really miserable” each and every time she walked in. He couldn’t even be bothered to say hello, even though the shop was empty, and just glared.
This was backed by about 9- 10 other similar customer comments.
His replied that was he wasn’t just standing there but was instead “making mental lists of things to do” and “Did Not have Time to Smile”. He also told her to shop somewhere else!
This is absolutely true. I couldn’t stop laughing!

coxesorangepippin · 14/08/2023 02:13

Me talking English (Lancashire accent) to my daughter in Canada, person pipes up ' what language is that???'

😂

i do sometimes wonder myself really

NationMcKinley · 14/08/2023 06:49

When our DS was 5 we were at a train station. There was a poster for a stage play of East is East on the wall which DS was studying intently. In case you don’t know the story, it’s about a family where the dad is Pakistani and my mum is white British.

All of a sudden he piped up with “mum! dad! look at that! The dad is brown and the mum is white. That’s MAD! When does that ever happen???”

DH and I looked at each other with a WTAF kind of expression as DS kept exclaiming about this wildly unusual relationship.

Reader: DH is Indian and I am white British…….

BlastedIce · 14/08/2023 06:50

NationMcKinley · 14/08/2023 06:49

When our DS was 5 we were at a train station. There was a poster for a stage play of East is East on the wall which DS was studying intently. In case you don’t know the story, it’s about a family where the dad is Pakistani and my mum is white British.

All of a sudden he piped up with “mum! dad! look at that! The dad is brown and the mum is white. That’s MAD! When does that ever happen???”

DH and I looked at each other with a WTAF kind of expression as DS kept exclaiming about this wildly unusual relationship.

Reader: DH is Indian and I am white British…….

Brilliant! I love the fact he just saw you as mum and dad and that was that!

autienotnaughti · 14/08/2023 08:22

NationMcKinley · 14/08/2023 06:49

When our DS was 5 we were at a train station. There was a poster for a stage play of East is East on the wall which DS was studying intently. In case you don’t know the story, it’s about a family where the dad is Pakistani and my mum is white British.

All of a sudden he piped up with “mum! dad! look at that! The dad is brown and the mum is white. That’s MAD! When does that ever happen???”

DH and I looked at each other with a WTAF kind of expression as DS kept exclaiming about this wildly unusual relationship.

Reader: DH is Indian and I am white British…….

I have a friend, she went into hospital and had to fill some forms in. Her mother watched her tick white British for ethnicity. She queried this and her daughter said confused "I am white" her mother replied "sweetheart your father is black " she was in her thirties and had no idea she was mixed race.

Howlingmoor · 14/08/2023 08:25

AngryBirdsNoMore · 14/08/2023 00:15

I didn’t see an answer, so - it’s related to the Muslim belief that everyone is born with a natural faith in (Islam’s) God. So if you become a Muslim, you are reverting to that natural state.

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Ah, ok thank you!

JusthereforXmas · 14/08/2023 08:43

elliejjtiny · 13/08/2023 22:04

My son has hydrocephalus (extra fluid on the brain) and has had 22 operations. We were having a meeting at preschool to discuss the support he would need going to school. Someone who was supposedly a senior senco said that we would need ds to stop having so many operations when he starts school as it will affect his attendance record. Then she suggested we give him less water to drink to reduce the fluid on his brain. I said that wouldn't work. She said "but have you asked his paediatrician?" I said no and she said "please do this before the next meeting".

Another one with one of my other sons who was failure to thrive. Someone asked how old he was. I told her. She looked at ds, said "are you sure?" and then proceeded to tell me that he looked much younger.

Same son as the first story when he was in nicu. Postnatal check with midwife who asks where my baby is. I say he is in nicu. She asks me how heavy he was (7lb 2oz) and then said "so what's he doing in there then if he's that size?" You would think a midwife would know that there are babies of all sizes in the nicu. I knew that he was in there for a good reason but the thought that a baby his size shouldn't be there are me off crying again.

My DS was also about that size and in NICU... He just kept arresting for no reason, they 'thought' he had endocarditis but all tests where negative so when he was stable enough to move to the ward they just said he had 'failure to adjust'.

I also heamorraged throughout pregnancy and he was tachycardic throughout (in and out of hospital for months). They said it 'just happens sometimes'.

They still dont take me seriously and won't diagnose him with anything as hes 'young'.

He has symptoms of my genetic disorders (week immune system, muscle control issues, plus neurodivergent traits etc...). Im certain has soft bones too for some reason. He has severe permanent plagiocephaly that doctors said he will 'grow out of', he didn't they now say its just cosmetic so doesn't matter even though recent studies show its linked to learning difficulties. Also he has broken several bones from things that shouldn't really break bones (like breaking his arm tripping over on soft grass). Bones dont break or malform for no reason... my other kids don't have these issues.

I think theres just lots of passing the buck and not really caring much in the NHS.