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Things you didn't know weren't normal

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Applescruffle · 08/08/2023 18:43

What are things you thought every one or every family did until you became an adult or entered a new relationship?

I'll start. I thought that everyone ate the leftover yorkshires after a roast dinner as desert eg: fill them with cream and fruit or custard or something, basically use them like you would a pancake... no?

I thought everyone peeled mushrooms, I didn't know that not only do people not peel mushrooms, lots don't even know they have peel!! 😱

I'll probably think of more.

Nb: I'm not meaning to trigger anyone's childhood or relationship trauma, I just mean lighthearted things x

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Applescruffle · 08/08/2023 20:31

Limitedisall · 08/08/2023 20:22

The first time I was given apple pie at my in laws house, they passed me a jug of milk. Had no idea what to do with it - we had custard at home. It was for pouring on the pie apparently.

I didn't know that I should expect privacy when having a bath, in my teen years, nor that everyone's dad didn't wander about naked in front of their adolescent children.

Now I don't mean to insinuate that you don't know the difference but are you 100% sure it wasn't cream?
Because surely it wasn't MILK?
You must love your husband very much to have married into his family 😜

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coloursofthewind9 · 08/08/2023 20:32

I used to think hairbands were called "pretties", and remotes "zappers". This i just what we called them in my family for some reason.

Siouxiesiouxiesioux · 08/08/2023 20:32

FatCatatPaddingtonStation · 08/08/2023 19:47

Butter and peanut butter for me, I find the PB claggy without butter.

My partner grew up with cold crumble, I was horrified and make her warm it. Also, her Christmas presents were not wrapped just piled under the tree and she could go down alone whenever she woke up to see them and start playing with them.

We had afternoon tea every day and I thought everyone did so. Breakfast, lunch, afternoon tea in the sitting room at 4pm sharp; pot of tea and milk for the children, home made wholemeal bread and honey. Cake on Sundays only. And then dinner (my dad called it supper) at 7, after my dad watched the evening national and local news. I was quite shocked when I realised not everyone did this.

The afternoon tea ritual sounds great. Homemade whole meal bread … yummy.

Tulipvase · 08/08/2023 20:34

Applescruffle · 08/08/2023 20:31

Now I don't mean to insinuate that you don't know the difference but are you 100% sure it wasn't cream?
Because surely it wasn't MILK?
You must love your husband very much to have married into his family 😜

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I was going to ask the same thing!

Also I thought mushrooms were grown (commercially) in a sort of hypoallergenic soil? I just brush them off too. Hypoallergenic isn’t the word but I don’t know what is.

Limitedisall · 08/08/2023 20:34

@Applescruffle definitely milk! Just normal milk. Not even "top of the milk" when that still existed.

Yes I do love him very much. Just as well as our kids followed that particular family tradition of his Shock

RubyFlint · 08/08/2023 20:35

That sheep had two shorter legs on one side for walking around hills.

Cheers Grandad

Titchyfeep · 08/08/2023 20:35

DoneWithHer · 08/08/2023 20:00

My mother told me and my sister growing up it is important not to wear knickers going to bed to air out your privates, so we would just wear pyjamas, no underwear. Genuinely thought this was as normal as brushing your teeth until a convo came up recently about it and a lot of my friends were horrified! 😅

Cold crumble always! Cook it early in the day and let it go cold. I heat it for people who want it warm but always served cold for me 👌

I have and never will wear underwear with pj’s. I tell my kids they don’t have to any the insist on wearing pants to bed.

Ourladycheesusedatum · 08/08/2023 20:35

WhereTheSuburbsMeetUttoxeter · 08/08/2023 19:28

You're not supposed to peel mushrooms. A wipe with a damp cloth, then cook.

I use a mushroom brush, brush off the dirt, eat raw or cook and eat.
My mum used to peel them, I never saw the point.

Surely the peanut butter by definition is the butter?
I'm not a lover of nut butters so I dont know.

The bestest pudding ever is clafoutis, or a sweet Yorkshire pudding with (usually) cherries. A close second is normal Yorkshire pudding with variations on cream, yoghurt, fruits, icing sugar, treacle, lemon curd, honey etc.

MiniMaxi · 08/08/2023 20:35

Great thread. As a fervent consumer of peanut butter on toast I feel like I need to try “with butter” tomorrow.

also pudding yorkshires, yum!

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 08/08/2023 20:36

My husband will peel mushrooms and remove the stems, but then when he cooks them it's because he likes them and is cooking them in butter. Me, I just mince them in the food processor and add to bolognese or whatever.

The one I'm most upset about on this thread is bananas. What absolute psychopath eats the bumhole of the banana?!

coloursofthewind9 · 08/08/2023 20:36

RubyFlint · 08/08/2023 20:35

That sheep had two shorter legs on one side for walking around hills.

Cheers Grandad

I laughed soooo hard at this

isthismylifenow · 08/08/2023 20:36

We also never ever had brocolli without white sauce on it.

Ate at a friend's house and I asked if we should wait for the sauce before starting. 😂

Siouxiesiouxiesioux · 08/08/2023 20:36

Nowthenhere · 08/08/2023 19:48

Dad's doing housework without having instructions?
Dad's parenting without it being called "looking after" their own.
Dad's knowing how to put their daughter's hair together before school as a little?
All the dad's I was surrounded by took their parenting decisions on 100%.
"No, dad will pick us up from dance if your mum or dad takes" was pretty normal.
And school work wasn't mum or dad specific, some mums were great at maths and others helped with English homework. "My dad helped me learn my timetable over the weekend" etc wasn't all mum.

Seeing my dad hand out the washing mum had loaded was normal to me. There were no gender roles, I saw mums help with fixing bikes for their children and dad's cleaning grazed knees.

This is less spoken about now if it's still a thing.

i like the sound of this and would love to hear more

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 08/08/2023 20:37

Surely the peanut butter by definition is the butter?

I mean, you can also buy body butter but don't think you'd put it on your toast!

Butter always before peanut butter. I honestly don't know how I'd swallow it without.

Moredarkchocolateplease · 08/08/2023 20:37

FatCatBum · 08/08/2023 20:29

Aren't mushrooms grown in manure? Why wouldn't you wash/peel them 😱

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Well I don't know, it's just a bit of dirt, it's not like they are covered!

I can honestly say this thread won't change my mushroom eating behaviour!

Now, on the subject of pants and pj's, always wear pants to bed, always. And a vest top. I can't sleep naked even if there's a v hot heatwave. Seems so wrong to be naked down there 😱

Limitedisall · 08/08/2023 20:37

@RubyFlint He was nearly right but it is haggis (hagii?) not sheep that have two shorter legs for that reason.

Crafty09 · 08/08/2023 20:37

I never understood why judges on the news had to have the first name ‘Justice’.

Salad cream sandwiches were popular in my house . Never saw them eaten anywhere else 😆

Also milk on a hot bowl of baked beans so they were cool enough to eat.

Titchyfeep · 08/08/2023 20:38

Aurora2023 · 08/08/2023 20:06

Having a plate of bread and butter in the middle of the table at EVERY meal. Parents were northerners. I never did it when I got older and left home but I was also surprised that others didn't do it in their houses when I was younger.

Only just remembered that our family done this growing up.

Motorcycleemptyness · 08/08/2023 20:38

Switcher · 08/08/2023 19:18

At children's parties in Australia, it was traditional to serve white bread with the crusts cut off, liberally spread to the edges with butter, and covered in 100s and 1000s. It was one of the things I was most excited about at my kids 5th birthday and not only did nobody eat them, all the parents were absolutely horrified and looked at me like I was a heathen!! Oh well.

they do this in the Netherlands as well. It is disgusting (to me!) but my Dutch colleague was mad for it. Rank!

LoveBeingAMum555 · 08/08/2023 20:38

I grew up in Yorkshire. As a child everyone had Yorkshire pudding and gravy as a starter for Sunday lunch and according to my gran it was to fill everyone up a bit so they didnt want as much meat, which was expensive. Sunday lunch was sacred too, when I had kids I refused to spend half of my Sunday cooking and cleaning up for one meal and my Mum was horrified.

isthismylifenow · 08/08/2023 20:39

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 08/08/2023 20:36

My husband will peel mushrooms and remove the stems, but then when he cooks them it's because he likes them and is cooking them in butter. Me, I just mince them in the food processor and add to bolognese or whatever.

The one I'm most upset about on this thread is bananas. What absolute psychopath eats the bumhole of the banana?!

That's the part that has most of the potassium in it. We were never allowed to leave the end.

Or this is what I was led to believe...

coloursofthewind9 · 08/08/2023 20:40

isthismylifenow · 08/08/2023 20:39

That's the part that has most of the potassium in it. We were never allowed to leave the end.

Or this is what I was led to believe...

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huh? what's wrong with the end of the banana?

DrLightman · 08/08/2023 20:40

EmmaEmerald · 08/08/2023 19:22

Spaniel "insurance not compulsory for vehicles and a LOT cheaper for fully comp"

driving without insurance is illegal.

I didn't know anyone peeled mushrooms!

Surely that depends on where you are? (Insurance not mushrooms)

MattDamon · 08/08/2023 20:40

Maireas · 08/08/2023 20:14

We used to have a banana with milk and sugar on it for pudding.

Is this an Irish or German thing by chance? My Gran had a German mum and an Irish dad and she gave this to us kids all the time. Never met anyone else that was given it!

Gonners · 08/08/2023 20:40

Maireas · 08/08/2023 20:14

We used to have a banana with milk and sugar on it for pudding.

Mashed banana? Yes! Banana-sugar-and-milk, aka BSM.

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