Autistic Women Assemble! #2

[Nepmarthiturn]

Helloooo lovely people, a new thread for a us to continue to chat and connect with other autistic women (small talk and word mincing not required). 😊

As before, anybody newly stumbling upon this is very welcome to join us (even if still awaiting diagnosis). But we'd be grateful if others could leave us alone please, like the NT man we encountered in thread #1. 🤣

if you are sure you want to go there - there's one about whether you can say 'I'm ADHD', the attitudes of some on the 7 police office and the autistic girl and 'Autism - Surely there needs to be another word?'.

It is very depressing reading.

also the one in Neurodiverse Mumsnetters about domestic abuse / autistic meltdowns.

@imautisticandalsoabitch - yes, I often have to just ignore some threads because some of the comments just get way too much. Though am not sure what ones you’ve seen today, thankfully I’ve not seen them.

Aww, very jealous that you’ve seen a baby hedgehog, I’ve seen a few adults before, but never a baby.

I’ve played estate agent today for a viewing at a relatives - the agents were fully booked and it was the only time the viewer could do. I find I can be super-engaging when I need to, and people seem to respond well, but as soon as they’re out of the situation my immediate thought is “thank fuck, bog off, and leave me alone”. Is this normal? It’s the one thing stopping me from plucking up the courage to explore a formal diagnosis. I seem to have the ability to engage really well when I need to, but I inwardly hate it and cannot wait to get away. But the ability to engage is making me think that, therefore, autism isn’t a factor.

Having said that, I’m also starting to think that autism in men and women presents very differently - this thread is making me think this quite a lot. I don’t see the posters on here as being selfish or totally ruining their relationships. I see them as being strong women who are pushing through and trying to do the best they can with their own personal family situations. I don’t see anyone who had “checked-out”. I obviously really don’t mean this as a slight towards anyone who has autistic sons so I hope I don’t offend anyone by saying that.

Also, I hope that @Nepmarthiturn is doing ok and that the party went well. No pressure to answer, rather just saying “hi”.

FML, I waffle, but CBA to amend my post 🤣

Thankyou @Furries yes I'm unwatching everything and not going anywhere usual mumsnet posts. I'm sticking to these Autistic Women Assemble threads because everywhere else is extremely unsafe.

I agree with everything you've written. I think you may be referring to masking with the estate agent thing?

Yes we are strong, many of us have had to push through a lifetime of being bullied, abused, ignored and being isolated by others.

We are constantly pushing through trying our best despite a world that is overwhelming and confusing.

Baby hedgehogs are the cutest things and their so fast with their funny little legs :)

*they're so fast - jeez😅

You must have missed the thread with a lot of posts saying being autistic means someone is a greater risk of being a paedophile.

WTF
I missed that one.
Thankfully.

I hid it. Hopefully it has been deleted by now. There is so much ignorance and anger out there.

I avoid the ignorant-sounding ones.
Utterly soul-destroying.

I try and educate when in the mood but some are far too depressing.

🤢

The thread wasn't even about autism. The OP just happened to mention that the male involved was "mildly" autistic. That brought out all the ignoramuses.

But on the other hand, I often suspect threads like that are made with the intention to cause attacks on ND. Who knows. I hate people.

Oh no I didn't see that thread thank goodness as that's just awful and utter bollocks.
Autistic Women Assemble is most needed by the looks of things!

@BadNomad I wondered that too.

Oh look. The "Autism - Surely there needs to be another word?" thread got deleted because it was made by a PBP. So just another goady thread to encourage attacks on autism. I hate people still.

Morning everyone, just wanted to say one of those disgusting threads from yesterday has been deleted because the poster was a previously banned user, result!

What's everyone up to today? I'm hoping for some more rain (!) as I've got some tender cuttings I've planted straight out and I meed the moisture so they don't die. They are varieties of buddleia, common rose, fuschia and rosa rugosa which I nicked from other plants in the garden as I'm skint and can't afford to buy more.

Hope everyone has a good peaceful weekend!

@BadNomad sorry I crossposted there! As I suspected really and yes I hate people like that too. Just so unnecessary. They really are the Colin Robinson's of the world (WWDITS). and something rather terrifying happens to him after all the trolling he does....

I love Colin Robinson!

Is the latest series available here yet?
I mean WWDITS.

How depressing. Someone actually sat and made that up?? 😔

How was everyone's weekend? Glad I missed those awful threads on here, nothing shocks me on this site anymore, I'm just surprised the thread was deleted.

It's not even 9am and today can do one, I just feel like crawling back into bed and shutting the world out. Dog walk this morning was awful, the weather said it was going to be okay and rain later, it looked fine(even checked our barometer which said fine as well) so I didn't wear a jacket, I wasn't even out 5 minutes and it started to rain. My dogs are also 50% reactive, I can't figure out what sets them off some dogs they are absolutely fine with and other dogs they go nuts over, the only definite is labradors they hate labradors. Anyway, it seemed like every labrador was out for a walk this morning and them playing up causes me so much embarrassment. I was almost home when a man with a puppy (clearly a labrador cross) was coming from the other direction, puppy was on an extendible lead(fully extended). He asks if she can come say hello to my two so I said best not as they are unpredictable, this idiot didn't listen and let his puppy come bounding up to my dogs. Dog1 had a sniff, dog2 was whimpering and trying to get away. Stupid man didn't even try and reign his dog back in even when dog1 who was okay initially then started barking like a lunatic at his puppy (this is what she does when she "reacts" she just barks and barks whilst wagging her tail).

So get home, soaking wet, have to wash the dogs as they are filthy, I hate the feeling of wet clothes on my skin so I'm borderline crying at this point washing them both. Got through that and sat down just after 8 and tried to call the hospital to re-arrange DD's appointment(8 is when this department supposedly opens). No answer, I have been ringing them multiple times a day since last Wednesday so today I shall be ringing them every 2-3 minutes until someone answers. I've filled out a complaint form ready to send if I don't get through today(I am literally going to call every few minutes all day if I have to) as this is ridiculous no wonder so many people "don't turn up" it's because they don't answer the damn phone so people can re-arrange.

@camelCase try ringing the main switchboard and tell them nobody in the department is answering.

..... and I'm sorry you had such an awful dog walk.

Wow, so many posts!

Sorry I've been AWOL again, not been well. Nightmare journey for our holiday tomorrow leaving here at 4am so desperately trying to pack. Brain will not comply. 🤯🤣

Will try to catch up properly and read everyone's posts tomorrow at airports if small people will comply and give me some peace. 🤔

Hope everyone is ok.

@camelCase Some people are idiots with their dogs! And extending leashes can be a nightmare, I have to watch for dogs bounding across my path plus then being tripped up by their leases when I’m out in the park. Sorry you had a stressful time. I also can’t stand wet clothes on my skin. I tried a bit of gardening yesterday between the deluges but nope, still soaked….