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Is there truth in when someone says something when they're drunk? friend texted me whilst drunk.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:44

Friend is away for a couple of days for a stag do. He doesn't normally drink so guessing not much would render him quite drunk. Last night I received a text at 1am but didn't see it till this morning. It was written terribly with a lot of typos and repeated letters in words so took me a few moments to understand what it said. The coherent version...without some random stuff at the beginning..

"Juyetii, poppy. I miss you. I wish you were here with me. Its so fucking beautiful. So so beautiful. Is it too late to tell you how I feel. You're the one. Let's go back to the beginning. I'm just wasting time. I know it might be complicated but it doesn't matter. it will be okay. I'm too fucking scared to tell you. I wish you feel the same.

I haven't received anything from him yet nor have I replied. I don't know what to make it of it really. Im pretty sure he was drunk when he sent it. Does he actually mean it if he was drunk? Do I bring it up / ignore it?! I've been thinking about it all day!

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ShiteRider · 28/07/2023 08:55

Aww this is such a lovely thread to start the day

AlanJohnsonsBeamer · 28/07/2023 08:55

This is the best post I've seen on Mumsnet for a while. So much negativity here at the moment. So happy for you, OP! This is great news 😁

SpringCalling · 28/07/2023 08:56

Another one who can't wait to see what develops ...!

riotlady · 28/07/2023 08:57

Cowardly men who can't express their feelings sober are very ick. If he's liked you for ages why has he never said? Can't really like you that much.

My husband finally confessed his feelings when we got drunk together- 6 years and 2 kids later I am pretty confident he likes me quite a lot 😂

Neverplayleapfrogwithmrpipes · 28/07/2023 08:57

This is adorable x

ADCisntme · 28/07/2023 08:59

I was best friends with a guy who was beautiful, kind, out of my league and 7 years younger than me. I thought we were friends, especially as I had a child from a previous relationship and I was 34 to his 27. Then the lightbulb switched on and we will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary in a few weeks just as our own sons finds out his GCSE results.

Go for it! But take it slowly and keep your friendship as the priority. The rest will happen naturally so you don’t need to rush anything.

WoofWoofBeachLife · 28/07/2023 09:01

Totally invested in this happy thread. We need an update on your tea break or lunchbreak please 🤣🤣🤣 x

GameOverBoys · 28/07/2023 09:01

This is so sweet. Alcohol brings out the true person in my experience. Can’t blame the booze for being naughty or nice. Also if he was able to text back and forth for hours he can’t be too bad.

Hibiscrubbed · 28/07/2023 09:03

Fingers crossed the complications aren’t that his ex is the OP’s best friend/sister, that he has eight kids by seven women, that he’s a convict on day release, that he’s ‘separated’ but still married…

Rupiduti · 28/07/2023 09:07

I'm fully invested! What are the complications ?

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 28/07/2023 09:07

Didn't see if he was single , so if he's single it's lovely ! But if he's not then not so much!

anniepanniepears123 · 28/07/2023 09:07

Soo exciting

Batalax · 28/07/2023 09:13

Eagerly awaiting the update later.

When does he get back op?

cryinglaughing · 28/07/2023 09:15

Blimey, these people saying it is cowardly and meaningless to text.
Not all people have got balls of steel. Personally, I'd rather a sensitive man, than one who puts you on the spot and makes for an uncomfortable situation.

At least his approach has opened the door to communication.

BendyStringBean · 28/07/2023 09:20

Ah, what an uplifting post! Very happy for you! Keep us updated!

ThatFraggle · 28/07/2023 09:23

cryinglaughing · 28/07/2023 09:15

Blimey, these people saying it is cowardly and meaningless to text.
Not all people have got balls of steel. Personally, I'd rather a sensitive man, than one who puts you on the spot and makes for an uncomfortable situation.

At least his approach has opened the door to communication.

He could easily have sent a sober, sensitive text years ago.

It's not a dichotomy: sensitive OR brash, pick one!

Someone with the maturity to express that he's open to a relationship is a million times more attractive than one too scared to say anything until he's drunk.

Eddielizzard · 28/07/2023 09:24

Phew, that's so lovely!

My first thought was that one of his friends had got his phone and played a prank. I'm REALLY glad that wasn't the situation.

CatchItDerry · 28/07/2023 09:24

Just what I needed to read!

supersop60 · 28/07/2023 09:25

Eddielizzard · 28/07/2023 09:24

Phew, that's so lovely!

My first thought was that one of his friends had got his phone and played a prank. I'm REALLY glad that wasn't the situation.

Me too!

cryinglaughing · 28/07/2023 09:27

@ThatFraggle in your opinion 🤷🏻

Nowt wrong in being vulnerable and protecting yourself imo. And he obviously wasn't that drunk to have composed such a coherent text amidst his rambling.

LGBirmingham · 28/07/2023 09:29

This thread has made my morning. Hope this works out for you x

FamBae · 28/07/2023 09:29

I'm pleased for you, my relationship with my husband started in a very similar way, I do hope that the complication that you're reluctant to mention doesn't involve a wife.

Enko · 28/07/2023 09:31

Oh having had a really shit morning this proper made me smile 😃

Good luck op

Stephisaur · 28/07/2023 09:33

My now husband text me when drunk to say that he really fancied me and would like to go out sometime.

I asked him about it when sober and (as we were only young) he did initially try to blame it on the booze until I told him that if he meant it then I was definitely interested.

That was 15 years ago 😂

As long as you're single and he is single then I say go for it!

JenWillsiam · 28/07/2023 09:33

That’s a Dutch courage text. He means it.