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Is there truth in when someone says something when they're drunk? friend texted me whilst drunk.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:44

Friend is away for a couple of days for a stag do. He doesn't normally drink so guessing not much would render him quite drunk. Last night I received a text at 1am but didn't see it till this morning. It was written terribly with a lot of typos and repeated letters in words so took me a few moments to understand what it said. The coherent version...without some random stuff at the beginning..

"Juyetii, poppy. I miss you. I wish you were here with me. Its so fucking beautiful. So so beautiful. Is it too late to tell you how I feel. You're the one. Let's go back to the beginning. I'm just wasting time. I know it might be complicated but it doesn't matter. it will be okay. I'm too fucking scared to tell you. I wish you feel the same.

I haven't received anything from him yet nor have I replied. I don't know what to make it of it really. Im pretty sure he was drunk when he sent it. Does he actually mean it if he was drunk? Do I bring it up / ignore it?! I've been thinking about it all day!

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Advicerequest · 28/07/2023 19:42

What a lovely story! Please up date is occasionally.

DancingFerret · 28/07/2023 19:43

juyeti · 28/07/2023 19:31

Sorry guys, I'm here with coffee in hand. kids sorted!

okay, so last night after i'd texted him the initial text, we did indeed talk a about car mechanics for awhile! 😂 mot did not go well.

We chatted a bit about his trip. He's having a lovely time. His friends haven't got together for awhile so it's been nice for him. He's in Portugal for those asking. He's sent me photos and yes, it is stunning. They've had a sober day today and went on a boat trip and lunch on an island. They're going home tomorrow. Can't wait to see him! No I won't be meeting him at the airport but that would have been brilliant to the pp who suggested that! Can you imagine, I'd need a boom box in the background playing some soppy song! That would be ace. 😂

Anyway, our texted turned to 'The Text' . the convo went something like...so about that text, just want you to know that I meant it, but sorry, didn't mean to tell you over a text, but fuck it, I'm glad I did. i told him I was sorry that I didn't reply sooner as I didn't know what the heck to do! He thought he'd fucked things up when i didn't reply and was so relieved. He just never told me how he felt as he thought i didn't feel the same / wouldn't want a relationship. I've ranted enough about useless men and how I never want another relationship again after my crappy one last time!

We both agree that we will have a chat when he gets back. I'm in cloud nine and have been smiling all day! 😆 even my work colleagues noticed and why I'm smiling to myself! I must look like an utter weirdo smiling at my desk looking at excel spreadsheets!

I hear wedding bells! (I'm a hopeless romantic.)

Seriously, the advice to marry a friend is often the best, loving and liking are often confused. When the initial excitement has worn off, you'll have a lot in common.

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juyeti · 28/07/2023 19:47

ok so that bit out of the way, Here's 'The Complication'.

He's white, agnostic, i'm asian, muslim. I am sure we can work things out but don't know how but we will!

I have DC too and they will be central in all of this making sure they are okay.
We have talked a little bit about it but we both agree that we will take things slowly.

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Zonder · 28/07/2023 19:50

Oh that kind of complication can be negotiated around if both people are willing! That's not as bad as I feared!

AGovernmentOfLawsAndNotMen · 28/07/2023 19:52

Agnostic means he doesn’t care, not bothered about religion.
Its not like he’s atheist.
So theoretically he’ll go with the flow from a religious point of view.
Assume he won’t have to convert though ??

JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain · 28/07/2023 19:57

That's brilliant, good for you both! And, as an added bonus, all the doom-mongers on here will be so disappointed! 😂

WunWun · 28/07/2023 19:59

AGovernmentOfLawsAndNotMen · 28/07/2023 19:52

Agnostic means he doesn’t care, not bothered about religion.
Its not like he’s atheist.
So theoretically he’ll go with the flow from a religious point of view.
Assume he won’t have to convert though ??

No it doesn't 😂

Blogswife · 28/07/2023 20:04

Aw this is amazing, what a wonderful story. Love will find a way and I’m sure you’ll make it work .
Bet you can’t wait to see him ! Xx

AntiStars · 28/07/2023 20:10

Ah fantastic news!! This has made me smile. So nice to read a positive thread, good luck to the both of you but I have a feeling you won’t need it, sounds like you have plenty of genuine emotions there for each other, well done.

AliceOlive · 28/07/2023 20:13

I’m so excited for you!!!! Seriously, think I ace something in my eye. Thank you for sharing such an amazing happy thing with us.

Willmafrockfit · 28/07/2023 20:14

aw
can you overcome your religious differences? @juyeti

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mellongoose · 28/07/2023 20:16

Ohhhh total movie in the making!!

BeavisMcTavish · 28/07/2023 20:17

I was waiting for the ‘the kids are his brothers’ or something!!

As long as you both set out your red lines early doors there’s no reason it can’t work.

are you strict with your religion?

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 28/07/2023 20:17

I have friends: male, white Christian, female, brown, Muslim. On paper how could it work? In real life... all good. Love found a way. Happily married. Families happy and United. Children beautiful. All good.

Willmafrockfit · 28/07/2023 20:20

just take it slowly op

ThatFraggle · 28/07/2023 20:22

I'm glad to be proven wrong. No budding affair, sister's ex husband etc.

But OP said it would take a whole thread to explain the complications, but it's just different religions and different backgrounds.

Is there anything else, or is that all?

Lollipopsicle · 28/07/2023 20:27

He's white, agnostic, i'm asian, muslim. I am sure we can work things out but don't know how but we will!

Love will find a way OP. x

Thebirdhouse · 28/07/2023 20:30

WunWun · 28/07/2023 19:59

No it doesn't 😂

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It kind of does?
Agnostic is defined as someone who isn't committed to either believing in either the existence or non existence of God or a god.

Unless the OP is going to insist he converts or believes in her God, they should both be able to go about their daily lives compatibly.

It is the type of conversation that comes up between friends who like discussing these sorts of things. I was very interested in these discussions in my 20s. In my 40s CBA.

MeinKraft · 28/07/2023 20:34

'Do you really want to spend your life sitting outside a Co op, in a stupor, clutching a bottle of cider? Get rid! Bad news!'

I am CRYING at this GrinGrin

Thanks for the update OP! So happy it's all worked out well. I'm picturing you as Anthony and Kate from Bridgerton now Grin

Jumbojade · 28/07/2023 20:37

This is one of the loveliest threads I have ever read on Mumsnet. A real, honest to goodness, love story. 🥰 Think we all need to be invited to the Wedding @juyeti

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juyeti · 28/07/2023 20:39

thank you for your lovely messages. I am a bit religious but not overly so. It plays a big part of mine and my dcs' life but I wouldn't expect him to embrace it unless he wanted to. I'm not sure what the future will hold but for now we are going to enjoy it. We are friends first and foremost so nothing has really changed apart from I may snog him every now and again!

he's just sent me this. Of course, it's now my new favourite song on loop on my headphones! 😆

Henry Moodie - drunk text (Lyric Video)

I wish I was who you drunk texted at midnight…Thank you to everyone that helped create this! Listen/Download Here: https://henrymoodie.lnk.to/drunktextSUBSCR...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PSYnnVUwVEU

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LiloP · 28/07/2023 20:52

@juyeti overjoyed for you. We need an update when he is back please!!

Is religion the only complication?

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/07/2023 20:55

We are friends first and foremost so nothing has really changed apart from I may snog him every now and again!

Get snogging as quickly as you can. It will turn awkward otherwise. Kiss him right out of the gate.

JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain · 28/07/2023 20:59

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/07/2023 20:55

We are friends first and foremost so nothing has really changed apart from I may snog him every now and again!

Get snogging as quickly as you can. It will turn awkward otherwise. Kiss him right out of the gate.

This is very good advice!

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