Would you inconvenience yourself so a stranger could propose in public?

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Inspired by the thread of the bloke who proposed to his girlfriend during her graduation ceremony. I shared an anecdote of once being asked by staff to clear an ice rink in the middle of my (expensive) slot as someone wanted to propose to their girlfriend. I refused as did many others as we'd paid and time couldn't be added on to the end (set time slots) and why should I miss 1/4 of my slot so someone I don't even know can propose.

The guy ended up proposing anyway outside the ice rink, I think if someone wants to propose in a way that inconveniences people, they can pay (hiring the ice rink for the hour)?

Anyone been in a similar situation?

I don't know why it posted twice, probably rubbish Internet connection. I was going to add I would happily stand to the side, or move around the (self indulgent) proposer, but I would not spoil my own experience, or in wait staff's case stand holding hot plates!

No especially if it was costing me . Agree public proposals are horrible and coercive. A couple of weeks after my DH proposed to me he told me that his mother had gone bat shit crazy at him for not doing it in front of her and rest of his family 🤮 he told her because it's a private moment and it would have been beyond fucking weird ! . I told him If he had done that I would definitely had said NO. We haven't spoken to the silly cow for years because of it . 🤣

It's cringe but I would just do it. Sometimes it's nice to help make someone happy, even if ever so slightly inconvenienced

A scuba dive I was doing a few years ago was held up as we all had to wait on the sea bed while the dive master helped a man propose to his gf. They could have done a private dive session instead of impacting on everyone else 🙄

Wow, nice

Don't mind being inconvenienced in a small way (ho!ding their jacket, getting out the way, holding the camera or phone to take a photo etc) as long as its not a paid for or booked for activity that means I would miss out on something I had been looking forward to.

I have been watching reruns of Britain's Next Top Model. When the winner of Season 5 discovered she had won her boyfriend got down on 1 knee. He had already proposed over video ffs so why not let her enjoy her moment. It made me really cross for her.

These public proposals are awful, would hate if that ever happened to me as do not like to be center of attention and would probably run off.. Attention seekers will always do this but should not interrupt others enjoyment of what they have paid for. A private proposal with a little effort has far more meaning and not just for show and attention.

DH's proposal to me ended up 'public' by accident. We were on holiday abroad and he'd planned a quiet proposal earlier in the day but I kept 'disappearing' to see different things or people would come along just as he got his courage up.

So, come dinner time, he was beginning to get desperate as his nerves were getting a bit shredded (you should see them after almost 20 years of marriage ha ha!).

He made an excuse to be a bit late down for dinner knowing that everyone would have gone into the restaurant by then and outside would be quiet. So he manoeuvred me outside and quietly proposed. When I said yes, he said 'oh thank goodness, can we go and eat now?" (full of romance).

What he forgot to allow for were the people on reception who figured out what was happening, crept to the window and as we turned round to go in gave us a big round of applause! Which was lovely actually (as was the lovely cocktail they ordered for us before dinner without our knowledge as a celebration). I don't think I'd have liked a real, planned, 'public' proposal though.

And no, I wouldn't give up my space, time or event for a proposal.

Some proposals are 'public' as in outside of the home, but not necessarily intended to have an audience.

My now-husband proposed to me on the observation wheel at Winter Wonderland in London. It was a lovely idea- I love Christmas.

We'd gone on the ride 3 years previous and had a pod to ourselves, so he was surprised when we arrived and were being put in with others.

Figuring it might be a bit intense to do it to a captive, small audience, he quietly spoke to the ride steward and asked the middle-aged man and his teenage daughter who were going to join our pod if they could wait for the next one (would've been a 20 second wait). The man quite blunty refused, despite his daughter trying to persuade him. So we went round once with what to me was a confusingly bad atmosphere- my husband gritting his teeth, a man with a smug, stubborn look on his face and a teenage girl with burning red cheeks! (She discreetly wished my husband good luck as we got out).

He got there in the end- he managed to convince me to go on again and this time figured out there was 'private pod' ticket option.

But he realised later that day that for the cost of those two goes round, he could've got the 'VIP pod ' complete with glass of fizz and blacked-out glass!

It's always a funny story. But that's one instance where it was such a minor inconvenience that I think it was rather mean-spirited of the man to refuse, for the sake of a few seconds.

I think public proposals are manipulative . If u need your significant other to be pressured into saying yes by being surrounded by people then you shouldn't be asking.

Or you could see it as the proposer making making themselves quite vulnerable with a big public declaration that the proposee has the power to refuse. Some would see it as a show of love and commitment.

Personally I’d rather pull off my own toenails with pliers than play any part in a public proposal but clearly there’s enough people out there into the Grand Romantic Gesture to keep the idea alive.

The examples you give are shit proposals and I am with you on that.
Getting out of the immediate area, clap in a restaurant, aw to the couple I can do.
Give up my money and time, nope.

@AutumnColour89 I reckon your husband probably twigged that there was a private booth option but saw the price and wanted to see if he could chance it by asking someone else to wait for the next ride, and it backfired. I do think it was unreasonable for him to be sat angrily with gritted teeth just because he hadn't researched the options properly.

Also, if he asked the man to wait for the next one in a earshot of you, he probably couldn't give the reason why so he just sounded precious to the man who declined. He may have waited for the next one if you knew it was a proposal

@LittleMissUnreasonable I obviously know my husband very well though and I can tell when he's annoyed, I doubt anyone else could. He also would have been a bag of nerves. I didn't know the two strangers, but I could see the daughter was clearly mortified and upset with her dad. And yes he did tell them both the reason and so did the steward (I was already sat in the pod), hence the daughter wishing him good luck on exit.

And definitely don't think husband was 'taking his chances' on the cheap tickets- he didn't want an audience and he'd have paid extra without question! Think it was reasonable for him to assume that we'd get one to ourselves without a specific ticket as had been the case the last time.

Although I agree, I'd have still double-checked on the website if it were me.

As a skaker, I'd be completely fucked off and uncooperative to have to stop my practice on ice time I'd paid for

Me and a friend used to fake public proposals in restaurants etc to get free prosecco

@DaisyThistle that's how my ex proposed to me! In hindsight it definitely was because he thought I might say no. I wish I had 🙄

I remember seeing a guy proposing to his girlfriend in front of the castle at Disney Paris. It was really busy and a man who was filming it for them was shouting at everyone to stop walking in front of the camera...not on purpose but just because it was mega busy and no one noticed the guy on one knee!

All could think was that all they'd be able to hear was him shouting when they watched it back.

Some women WANT a public proposal and if thats what they want then I support them but in general I hate them.

If its not discussed and planned with her approval (which kind of defeats the point as you basically already agreed to marry) then public proposals are pretty manipulative and abusive. A woman should be free to say 'no' without pressure and spectical or being made public enemy.

@AutumnColour89 Ahh I think the man was being a bit mean in that case and could have waited 20 seconds

I like your style! 🤣

On a London Eye style city big wheel, a man opened his rucksack and reached inside for a champagne glass.

His gf crossly said ‘don’t even think about asking me to marry you’ and the rucksack was zipped back up. 😂

I do think public proposals should only be done when the relationship has got to that stage where they really want to be together for always,otherwise it's a bit awkward if one proposes publicly and the answer is no or even worse, the one being proposed to, feels pressured to say yes.

Not a hope, I think public proposals are so cringe. Here in Ireland a guy proposed to his girlfriend during the rose of tralee competition, while she was on stage. She actually starts to freak out when he gets down on one knee. It was very cruel of him . Here's the clip

I bet she through that ring back at him the second they where out of view... I would of.

Who the fuck thinks its ok to continue where a girl is repeatedly begging 'no, no, stop, please don't'.