Would you inconvenience yourself so a stranger could propose in public?

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Inspired by the thread of the bloke who proposed to his girlfriend during her graduation ceremony. I shared an anecdote of once being asked by staff to clear an ice rink in the middle of my (expensive) slot as someone wanted to propose to their girlfriend. I refused as did many others as we'd paid and time couldn't be added on to the end (set time slots) and why should I miss 1/4 of my slot so someone I don't even know can propose.

The guy ended up proposing anyway outside the ice rink, I think if someone wants to propose in a way that inconveniences people, they can pay (hiring the ice rink for the hour)?

Anyone been in a similar situation?

I remember Vogue Williams taking the piss out of Spencer Matthews because he asked the theatre if he could propose at some point during a Lion King performance (I think he was self aware enough to ask for interval) and got told that actually, the other viewers were there to see lion king, not his proposal 🤣

Exactly. I thought that about the previous example of a man proposing during her grad ceremony. Let's not make it a celebration of her intelligence and hard work. Let's make it all about him. I'd run a mile from such a man.

Agree

DH was on a plane once when someone proposed from the pilot's intercom. He said all around him people were saying, 'Ah!' but he thought it was hideous and he saw the woman, who said yes, look really uncomfortable and wondered if in private she'd change her mind.

Yes I probably would in your situation. I don't particularly like public declarations or showy events but if I could help someone out I probably would.

Sounds like it went a bit messy in the end https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/charlotte-dujardin-laura-kenny-tokyo-rio-carl-hester-b949615.html

Spencer Matthews because he asked the theatre if he could propose at some point during a Lion King performance (I think he was self aware enough to ask for interval) and got told that actually, the other viewers were there to see lion king, not his proposal

@aperolspritzbasicbitch

He sounds exactly like the sort of person who wouldn't have the self awareness to do it in the interval, and would expect to waltz on stage whilst people look on dewy eyed at how romantic he is

Definitely not. But then I think public proposals are manipulative . If u need your significant other to be pressured into saying yes by being surrounded by people then you shouldn't be asking.

No one but your family and friends gives a shit so why should everyone be roped into it at their own expense and time

@calmcoco they are still not married (I think?) but they are back together now and have a few months old baby girl which is lovely

I like you.

I hate public proposals, but would inconvenience myself in a small way eg moving out of the way for a picture (I'd do this if anyone asked politely, wouldn't need to be proposal related). I wouldn't have left the ice rink.

Also at an ice rink, in front of that big Christmas tree in NYC at the Rockefeller center we had to wait 5 minutes to start our session because there was a proposal. Just the couple went on and had music playing and all their family around. About 4 others proposed during the session!

Never been in that situation but yes regarding one like you've described, where people have paid for a service and are entitled to , I agree. I'm not against public proposals generally, but that's a pretty inconsiderate move on his part. Dickish.

No, on the presumption that I had paid for my own time at the event/space.
Also, and as many people have said, because public proposals are tacky and attention-seeking. Most of all they are coercive, because it then becomes very difficult for the proposee to say "no". Why do people have to live their lives in public? What's wrong with keeping a private moment private?

No.

Definitely not. But then I think public proposals are manipulative . If u need your significant other to be pressured into saying yes by being surrounded by people then you shouldn't be asking.

This 100%

The only public proposal I know of is a girl who was proposed to on stage after she had performed in a (quite large and well known) show. And she said yes. Presumably because the entire audience of hundreds were watching. She didn’t marry him and they broke up soon after.

The last time dh and I went to a restaurant for valentine's day there were 3 proposals through the night. Wait staff were having to stand back with plates of hot food left right and centre to make way for would be grooms wanted to go on bended knee. It was so crap it was funny.

The last time dh and I went to a restaurant for valentine's day there were 3 proposals through the night. Wait staff were having to stand back with plates of hot food left right and centre to make way for would be grooms wanted to go on bended knee. It was so crap it was funny.

Still barged in on her big moment, though.

I’m not the clapping background performer in whatever American film these people have got going on in their heads. So, no.

Personally-I would do absolutely anything I could to sabotage a public proposal. Up to but probably not including,unless absolutely essential, setting fire to the venue.

It seems he re-proposed at her baby shower.

I like your style!

Same. Fine with moving my carcass out of the way, not with missing out on a paid for activity.