Are all MIL's awful?

[Notlookingforwardtochristmas]

I'm looking to hear positive reports on nice MILS.

Mine is a real nasty piece of work. A narcissist, shit stirrer within the family, a hypochondriac, a boaster that's selfish and just a general terrible human.

She treats my children different to the rest of the grandchildren yet boats to her friends that my children are her life, yet she rarely bothers with them. She's not met our youngest DC. She's met our oldest twice.

I thank my lucky stars everyday she lives abroad and I don't have to deal with her.

Does anyone have a nice one?

My MIL is wonderful, my own mum is a nightmare. MIL treats me like a daughter, in fact my husband often jokes that she loves me more than him! She is loving, kind, a wonderful Grandmother and never interferes where she shouldn’t. X

Mine is bonkers but sweet. I think she would probably get an autism diagnosis. She has all these weird issues like a complex hierarchy of dishcloths and you used to get in trouble if you used the wrong one, but she also has the sense to know that the best thing to do is to accept that we will just get the dishcloths wrong when we are visiting no matter how much effort she puts into enforcing it so the best thing to do is to give up and start again with a new set once we’ve gone home 😂

MN's "my MILs a bastard" threads are a legitimate way to be ageist on MN without getting called out on it. MN has a problem with older women IMO

Mine is wonderful and one of my favourite people. Love her to bits and she is one of my best friends.

My in laws have a really healthy family dynamic though so that really helps. They openly discuss their feelings and aren’t afraid to air issues. We had a disagreement about something about 18 months ago and she rang me up to say she was worried that I wasn’t feeling heard. She’s amazing ☀️

My first MIL was a nightmare. Even before we got married she was phoning my dressmaker to demand to see mine and the bridesmaids dresses (naturally dressmaker referred her back to me) she also tried to interfere with our wedding reception "to make sure it's right" but the venue again refused. She then got absolutely drunk, made a scene and left early. Too many things to detail really! She was a nosey bat - if she ever called around she'd let herself in the back garden and be nosing through the windows instead of knocking at the door like a normal person. One of my neighbours called the police on her (this is going back 35 years!) when I was out and she tried that because he said she looked like she was casing the joint (snuck round the back, tried every window and rattled the back door) she didn't like having to talk to the police 🤣

Long story short.

My second MIL was lovely. Friendly, warm and welcoming, I loved her to bits and was heartbroken when she died. Still miss her phone calls 12 years later!

Mine is lovely. Heart of gold.

Can be a touch irritating sometimes but can't everyone?

I'm aware I'm very lucky!

FFS. Nice armchair diagnosis here.

My MIL and all my in laws are pretty wonderful. Not perfect but pretty great.
My PIL adore my children and show no preference between my children and their other grand children. The only slight issue is because they live farther away my husband and I get calls twice a day asking about how they are what they are do it,eating, wearing etc.
They respect boundaries and I ask them for advice as well as my own parents.

@CovertImage yes I suspect a lot of mils are perfectly nice and normal based on loads of the issues raised on here.

Mine is a complete pain in the arse, never listens, pesters for advice 24/7 but never takes it, won't do what she's told by doctors etc. won't accept she's getting old, which leads to her having falls and us, in turn, dealing with the fallout (undiagnosed ADHD which we only realised after we had our son who's a carbon copy). BUT she has a heart of gold and is funny and silly and lovely.

If the MIL threads are depressing you it's probably not a good idea to read them. This thread says what it is on the tin, it's pretty self explanatory 🤷🏻‍♀️

I miss mine every day. She couldn't do enough for us. So supportive of her sons and their wives.

I had the best ex MIL in the world and she's recently died. I hadn't seen her in a while as my ex is mental and forced us to cut contact. I held her in my arms as she sobbed about this and she said that her son is a monster. My DD's were amazing visiting her in the hospice and one of her last lucid conversations with the DD's was about the colour bridesmaids dresses I should have for my upcoming wedding. Her face lit up when the DD's showed her my engagement ring. Fast forward to my now volatile MIL and the picture is not so rosy. Shouting at me in the street about what I can only describe as paranoia. SIL is also grim and I wish I could cut his entire family off. Hideous people.

Mine is generally welcoming and caring, she's just hard work sometimes as we have very different tastes and views!
Eg. I'm vegetarian and she doesn't say it, but DP says she thinks that makes me a 'snowflake.' I don't judge them for eating meat.
But she lives over an hour away and I don't see her that often. Me and DP don't have kids and the family is quite small and straightforward, everyone gets on, so that all probably makes things easier.

@Notlookingforwardtochristmas "If the MIL threads are depressing you it's probably not a good idea to read them. This thread says what it is on the tin, it's pretty self explanatory "

Actually- I thought this thread was looking for positive stories....

Mine was perfectly nice.

Not someone I’d have chosen to spend a lot of time with had she not been DP’s mother as we were very different people but kind, supportive and well meaning.

I'm not a nightmare! At least I don't think so!
My DiL is NC with her own mum and definitely values me as an older woman in her life. And I love her to bits.

I honestly think it's only the bad stories you hear about on here.

I did. She's passed away now but she was amazing. I loved her very much.

Loved both my PiLs to bits. Been dead over 15 years now (both died relatively young). Their deaths enabled us to enjoy a very comfortable life (mortage free) but I would give anything to have them back.
TBH I would have swopped MiL for my DM but that's a whole other story.

Well exactly.

Dh loved my mum (his MIL) and we both still miss her, 11 years after she died and c17 years after we "lost" her (accident: head injury which ultimately cause dementia ). We are still close to my dad who is now getting on but is fortunately still healthy.

His own mother however was toxic and we were LC with her. She died nearly 4 years ago and we don't miss her at all. Indeed, we thank our lucky stars she died before Covid, as she would have been a nightmare during Covid (despite her eldest dd getting carers' allowance which we only found out after MIL died but who expected my lovely SIL dh's youngest sister , who worked full time with a young son unlike eldest SIL whose family was all grown up to do all the caring ). Good riddance. And none of us need to see eldest SIL any more.

Mine is lovely, she is like a second mother to me.

My MIL (and FIL) are wonderful, I couldn't ask for better. She's funny, smart, thoughtful, very generous with her time and help without ever overstepping the mark. She's just lovely and has welcomed me into her family with open arms. She raised four boys with no family support near by, I'm in awe of her.
My daughters adore her, as do I.
I hope that one day I'm a MIL like her.

Mine is lovely, really kind, generous and understanding. We live quite far away sadly.

How absurd!mine sounds like yours but even her closer female's friends I could tell area really nice mils..
My mum was a nice Mil.

Loads of myself friends have adorably mils and unfortunately some of us have nasty ones.