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BreatheAndFocus · 18/07/2023 13:24

She killed a perfectly viable baby when all she had to do was wait a few more weeks and have it adopted. There’s no excuse for that. One of my DC’s was born at 35 weeks and we were only in hospital a few days. DC was healthy and fine. The idea that I could have changed my mind and killed them just before birth is disgusting.

I’m pro-choice but there are limits. This was a selfish, unnecessary act and while I’m ambivalent about the length of sentence she originally received because she has children who need her, I think she should have been punished for what she did.

Kingsparkle · 18/07/2023 13:25

CamelHairCardy · 18/07/2023 13:17

Because I didn’t think that women would deliberately game the system to carry out abortions on themselves and then lie to paramedics trying to revive the baby. I thought a late term abortion would be carried out in clinics or hospital with doctors ensuring the baby suffered as little harm as possible. I didn’t think women were seeking abortions post 24 weeks because they’d changed their mind about having it.

what really did it though was seeing how many people are ok with aborting a full term baby (in theory, this one wasn’t full term) because it’s the mothers right to choose.

Maybe I was never pro choice, just naive

That is what is supposed to happen, lots of support in a medical setting. Covid screwed pregnant women over. Even so, if one woman’s actions have changed your beliefs then no you probably weren’t.

JustMint · 18/07/2023 13:25

You cannot just get a baby adopted in the UK.

It is a long process.

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JustMint · 18/07/2023 13:26

Kingsparkle · 18/07/2023 13:25

That is what is supposed to happen, lots of support in a medical setting. Covid screwed pregnant women over. Even so, if one woman’s actions have changed your beliefs then no you probably weren’t.

Agree.

Covid has and still is killing women’s health.

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Brefugee · 18/07/2023 13:28

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 18/07/2023 13:19

The Court of Appeal was told the prison in which Foster has spent 35 days has refused to allow her any form of communication with her three children, one of whom is autistic.

This is also appalling.

this is institutional abuse of the children and the woman concerned.
Absolutely appalling (as was the "care" of pregnant women during lockdown)

Clymene · 18/07/2023 13:28

I'm really glad to hear this.

CornishGem1975 · 18/07/2023 13:29

Good news, right decision.

ShodanLives · 18/07/2023 13:29

CamelHairCardy · 18/07/2023 13:17

Because I didn’t think that women would deliberately game the system to carry out abortions on themselves and then lie to paramedics trying to revive the baby. I thought a late term abortion would be carried out in clinics or hospital with doctors ensuring the baby suffered as little harm as possible. I didn’t think women were seeking abortions post 24 weeks because they’d changed their mind about having it.

what really did it though was seeing how many people are ok with aborting a full term baby (in theory, this one wasn’t full term) because it’s the mothers right to choose.

Maybe I was never pro choice, just naive

So what's the answer, make it harder for women to legally get abortions?

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 18/07/2023 13:35

ShodanLives · 18/07/2023 13:29

So what's the answer, make it harder for women to legally get abortions?

It’s amazing how this always happens when a woman does something.

One woman does something incredibly rare in the midst of a global pandemic (and she reported herself in the end - she didn’t get caught) and suddenly shed loads of people are no longer pro choice, which opens the door to making it harder for all women.

Pity people aren’t so black and white with male crimes.

Gilead · 18/07/2023 13:36

Custodial sentence was unnecessary.

Brefugee · 18/07/2023 13:36

a lot of posters are posting emotionally and completely forgetting how band the lockdowns were. (despite a couple of harrowing pp up there about how women were neglected during lockdown)

Added to the rest of this woman's background etc, it is absolutely right that she has been to court and convicted. It is inhumane to put her in prison with no contact with her children (instutionally misogynistic) which is no good for the children at all.

All in all it is a cautionary tale. And if anything it shows that abortion pills should be easier to get, not harder.

egowise · 18/07/2023 13:37

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 18/07/2023 13:35

It’s amazing how this always happens when a woman does something.

One woman does something incredibly rare in the midst of a global pandemic (and she reported herself in the end - she didn’t get caught) and suddenly shed loads of people are no longer pro choice, which opens the door to making it harder for all women.

Pity people aren’t so black and white with male crimes.

Exactly.

I'm glad this decision has been made.

Abortion should be decriminalised.

That 15 year old girl should not be in prison either.

Riapia · 18/07/2023 13:37

That’s what happened during lockdown.

We could blame lockdown I suppose.
What about Brexit surely that must have played a part?
There must be a way to blame it on the tories.
Who was PM at that time?

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 18/07/2023 13:38

Riapia · 18/07/2023 13:37

That’s what happened during lockdown.

We could blame lockdown I suppose.
What about Brexit surely that must have played a part?
There must be a way to blame it on the tories.
Who was PM at that time?

You can blame something that only happened in lockdown on lockdown.

Why try pretend otherwise?

If I needed an abortion today the procedure is very different, and much easier to access, than it was during lockdown. That’s just simple fact.

purpleboy · 18/07/2023 13:43

This was the right decision, I believe firmly in a woman's right to choose, as early as possible as late as necessary.

I understand why people find it unpalatable with a late term baby who would be viable outside the womb but my feelings on this are that it is not always in the best interests of a foetus to be born, and I don't necessarily agree a foetus should be born into really shitty circumstances where the potential for lifelong trauma etc.. is high just because they are viable.

I also think the adoption comments are just plain stupid and ignorant, as if it's just that easy.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 18/07/2023 13:43

stbrandonsboat · 18/07/2023 11:40

Unsurprising. According to most people, the unborn aren't actually human. Quite why the journey of a few inches down the birth canal and a lungful of air makes such a difference to the make up of a being is beyond me, but there you go.

There is a legal definition which states this.

Whataretheodds · 18/07/2023 13:46

dcbc1234 · 18/07/2023 12:51

I think people may have forgotten how difficult it was during lockdown to access any proper medical care in the UK that wasn't covid-related.

This.

I just can't fathom how you could take those pills after feeling the kicks and knowing that baby was alive.

Agree that it's hard to comprehend - she must have been in really dire straits mentally to have done such a thing, yet at appeal it was pointed out that there wasn't a proper assessment of her mental condition.

Also, does anyone know that the baby was 'perfectly viable' had she not taken the pills?

I can't think anyone believes this is a scenario to celebrate, but I also don't see how a custodial sentence would be in anyone's best interests. She still has a criminal record.

CamelHairCardy · 18/07/2023 13:47

AnorLondo · 18/07/2023 13:12

So because one woman broke the law you're notlw anti-choice? For everyone?

No but I think the 24 week limit is right. If a baby is viable outside the womb you shouldn’t be able to get rid of it because you’ve changed your mind which is what a real pro lifer would think - as early as possible, as late as necessary, as they say.

obviously if there’s a risk to the mothers physical health or the baby has a condition that is incompatible with life there can be exceptions

thepurplepenguin · 18/07/2023 13:48

She started googling abortion pills in Feb 2020, well over a month before lockdown. She had plenty of time to access a safe, legal, early abortion. The only way you can blame lockdown is that it made easier for her to obtain the abortion pills illegally when she was 30+ weeks.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 18/07/2023 13:48

Posters need to remember, her conviction has not be quashed. She still is guilty. Its the sentencing that has changed.

The sentencing change is in the best interests of her children.

Whataretheodds · 18/07/2023 13:48

Riapia · 18/07/2023 13:37

That’s what happened during lockdown.

We could blame lockdown I suppose.
What about Brexit surely that must have played a part?
There must be a way to blame it on the tories.
Who was PM at that time?

Why would you do that when none of those things had a bearing on the availability of services whereas lockdown did.

DiscoBeat · 18/07/2023 13:51

She knowingly killed a perfectly viable baby, causing it to suffocate in utero. She lied to others to be able to do it. She belongs in jail.

Completely agree with you.

Me too.

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 18/07/2023 13:58

She was denied access or communication with her other children, whilst in prison? Why is this surprising? She killed their sibling.

MenopauseSucks · 18/07/2023 14:00

I'm sure I read that she fell pregnant in late 2019 so would've been able to get a legal abortion early on in the pregnancy & before Covid/lockdowns.

It must've been a nightmare living with one man whilst pregnant with another's child.

AnorLondo · 18/07/2023 14:04

CamelHairCardy · 18/07/2023 13:47

No but I think the 24 week limit is right. If a baby is viable outside the womb you shouldn’t be able to get rid of it because you’ve changed your mind which is what a real pro lifer would think - as early as possible, as late as necessary, as they say.

obviously if there’s a risk to the mothers physical health or the baby has a condition that is incompatible with life there can be exceptions

That's also what the law says, so why does this case change anything?

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