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Delay ttc or not at age 40?

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:39

We’ve been ttc for nearly 2 years now . I now need an op (GA for wisdom tooth removal) but I don’t know how long the waiting list will be? They really need removing but I’m worried if I put off ttc is that stupid at my age ? Or is it better to get them out (can they cause serious issues during pregnancy if they get infected again ?)

Im not sure what to do 😩

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 15/07/2023 17:40

Don’t think you can afford to wait at 40 tbh

AnaNimmity · 15/07/2023 17:40

If you’ve been ttc for 2 years without success, I’d be looking into ivf tbh. Time really isn’t on your side and I’d def not be delaying for any reason.

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:41

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 15/07/2023 17:40

Don’t think you can afford to wait at 40 tbh

This is what I’m thinking but then I keep going back and forth with what ifs

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Herewego81 · 15/07/2023 17:41

You haven’t fallen pregnant despite two years of trying

You are 40

and you are asking whether you should delay.

op, read the above two points and see what answer you come to

TeaKitten · 15/07/2023 17:41

After 2 years TTC at 40 you really can’t afford to delay

CornedBeef451 · 15/07/2023 17:42

To be honest at 40 I don't think you can afford to delay ttc unless a doctor tells you it's mandatory.

BritishDesiGirl · 15/07/2023 17:42

You don't know how long you will take to get pregnant or how long you will be on the waiting list for your OP. Why can't you TTC while waiting for your OP?

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:43

AnaNimmity · 15/07/2023 17:40

If you’ve been ttc for 2 years without success, I’d be looking into ivf tbh. Time really isn’t on your side and I’d def not be delaying for any reason.

All investigations so far have been normal so it’s apparently unexplained . I was going to look into ivf but then this happened (terrible infections) I think I just want to make sure that if I don’t get then removed and I do manage to get pregnant that it can’t cause any harm as I’m not sure I could have the same antibiotics as they were quite strong?

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WhiteStripePipe · 15/07/2023 17:43

Don’t delay ttc, there are fertility changes over very short periods at 40+

VimFuego101 · 15/07/2023 17:43

Can you go private to get the wisdom teeth dealt with quickly?

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:44

BritishDesiGirl · 15/07/2023 17:42

You don't know how long you will take to get pregnant or how long you will be on the waiting list for your OP. Why can't you TTC while waiting for your OP?

My worry was that if I dont get them removed can it cause any problems for a potential pregnancy? If not then I’d just carry on ttc

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CindersAgain · 15/07/2023 17:44

I’d say yes to the op and get on the waiting list. Then find out how long it is likely to be and if the operation can be done while you are pregnant or not.

Overthebow · 15/07/2023 17:45

I don’t think you can delay if you’re 40, time isn’t on your side and you’ve already been trying for 2 years.

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:45

VimFuego101 · 15/07/2023 17:43

Can you go private to get the wisdom teeth dealt with quickly?

I tried , they said they couldn’t as I need a GA due to the positioning of them

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GonnaGetGoingReturns · 15/07/2023 17:45

My SIL luckily got pregnant for the second time at 40 with IVF but I think had a miscarriage and failed cycle in the meantime.

I’ve had friends get pregnant naturally and via IVF in their 40s but as PPs say your fertility drops after it so I’d crack on now, asap.

WhiteStripePipe · 15/07/2023 17:45

Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:43

All investigations so far have been normal so it’s apparently unexplained . I was going to look into ivf but then this happened (terrible infections) I think I just want to make sure that if I don’t get then removed and I do manage to get pregnant that it can’t cause any harm as I’m not sure I could have the same antibiotics as they were quite strong?

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I don’t understand why you’d need ti delay, just get them removed and crack on?

Why do you think you won’t be able to have wisdom teeth removed straight away?

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:45

CindersAgain · 15/07/2023 17:44

I’d say yes to the op and get on the waiting list. Then find out how long it is likely to be and if the operation can be done while you are pregnant or not.

I didn’t realise that I thought you couldn’t have a GA if pregnant!

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:46

I’ll ask as I just thought you can’t have a GA at all it didn’t cross my mind I may be able to

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:47

WhiteStripePipe · 15/07/2023 17:45

I don’t understand why you’d need ti delay, just get them removed and crack on?

Why do you think you won’t be able to have wisdom teeth removed straight away?

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I don’t know how long the waiting list is

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Clymene · 15/07/2023 17:47

Pay for the teeth to be removed privately and get going with IVF.

WhiteStripePipe · 15/07/2023 17:47

If you’re looking into ivf via nhs it might not happen quickly anyway. They are slow unfortunately.

3luckystars · 15/07/2023 17:47

Do not delay!!!!!!!

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:47

Clymene · 15/07/2023 17:47

Pay for the teeth to be removed privately and get going with IVF.

They said no and referred me to the nhs as the teeth are in a difficult position for removal

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WhiteStripePipe · 15/07/2023 17:48

Clymene · 15/07/2023 17:47

Pay for the teeth to be removed privately and get going with IVF.

Yep exactly.

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Ivebeenwaiting · 15/07/2023 17:49

I think then I will definitely not delay. As long as I can have treatment for the infections if I was pregnant I think I should wait as I feel like I just don’t have the time due to my age

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