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This is ridiculous

105 replies

PurpleO · 14/07/2023 20:22

I'm currently on my period and I fucking hate it because of everyone and everything else.

I got up this morning and hmgot ready. It is now 8.15pm at night and I am still wearing the same sanitary pad that I put on this morning. I never once got a chance to change it. But this is always happening. Every single monthly period that I get. I am just not allowed 5 minutes to myself in the middle of the day. It's written in my contract and it's written down that I am allowed breaks and but the manager is a bully. I can go into work in the morning and I would often be required to work late without any notice and it might be 9 or 10 at night by the time I am home and I get a chance to chance the pad. Thats just insane.

I wasn't working today but I was caught for babysitting and then the parents couldn't be bothered coming home when they said they will be home. Then the same thing all day. Just crying out to get 5 minutes to myself. Then I made it home and I was dumped straight into the childcare at home and everything else. I finally found time at 8.15 and there was someone in the one and only bathroom. And at that stage I had to bully to get into to bathroom.

If I was a man I woupd be allowed a break but no, that's not allowed because I'm only just a woman. It feels as if I need to bully people for something basic as toileting and a change of sanitary pad.

Tampons don't fit me any more and I tried so hard with a cup but it just wouldn't work for me.

OP posts:
LividHot · 14/07/2023 20:24

Why are you letting all these people walk all over you?

Use your bloody voice. Pun intended.

Soubriquet · 14/07/2023 20:25

Not the point but I only change mine twice a day. Once in the morning and one before bed.

However, you obviously need to change more. Use your voice. Say you need the toilet or you will leak.

GrazingSheep · 14/07/2023 20:26

Surely when you were babysitting you would be able to use the bathroom?

Juanmartinez · 14/07/2023 20:29

So you don't empty your bladder at all during the day? That's not good.

husbandcallsmepickle · 14/07/2023 20:30

You haven't been to the toilet for 12 hours? That's daft, I probably go about once an hour

Karrpt · 14/07/2023 20:33

Wtf. You are choosing not to go. Stop putting yourself last and being a martyr.

Juanmartinez · 14/07/2023 20:42

Why didn't you go when you got to whoever's house you were babysitting at ?

supersonicginandtonic · 14/07/2023 20:44

Your letting people take the piss but there is no way you haven't had a few minutes to nip yo the loo 🙄

Aquamarine1029 · 14/07/2023 20:44

It's ridiculous that you are allowing your manager to prevent you from going to the bathroom. Just go, FFS. What's he going to do about it?

ManchesterLu · 14/07/2023 20:46

That's ridiculous. You either use the toilet or you leave. There are no other options here.

Lovelydaytomorrow · 14/07/2023 20:52

You weren't working today, but we're babysitting all day, and you never once managed to use the toilet until 8.15 tonight in all that time?

So even leaving out the work issue (for now!) who stopped you from going to the toilet today?

AlisonDonut · 14/07/2023 20:53

Wut?

Tiredmummaoftwo · 14/07/2023 21:00

AlisonDonut · 14/07/2023 20:53

Wut?

Literally 🤯

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 14/07/2023 21:03

So you haven’t been for a wee all day? And you didn’t get chance to go to the toilet while babysitting? Who did you babysit for? How old are the children? Sorry for all the questions, just trying to figure it out.
I am on my period and I have been at home all day with my 3 young children, including my disabled 4 year old who needs constant supervision. I’ve changed my tampon twice and been to the toilet at least 4 times.

LakeTiticaca · 14/07/2023 21:04

This post makes no sense. You must be able to use the bathroom. Yoir boss is breaking the law. You are entitled to full uninterrupted breaks if you work full time. What's with all.the babysitting, who are you babysitting?
I had 3 children under 3 and always had time to use the toilet ( even though they all followed me 🤣)
It was hard work bit not that bloody hard!!
Stop letting others walk all over you!!

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 14/07/2023 21:05

TBF it's far easier to go the loo in front of your own kids. Bit weird if you do it in front other people's

eatdrinkandbemerry · 14/07/2023 21:05

Nobody can't find a minute to go change their san pro !

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 14/07/2023 21:06

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 14/07/2023 21:05

TBF it's far easier to go the loo in front of your own kids. Bit weird if you do it in front other people's

Who said anything about going to the loo in front of them? I have never taken my children (bar my disabled child) into the loo with me.

FunkyBuddha85 · 14/07/2023 21:26

This can't be real? It's the most bizarre thing I've ever read. I never ask permission to go to the loo at work. I just go and take pad/tampon with me.
This sounds like an attention grabbing post.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 14/07/2023 23:26

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 14/07/2023 21:06

Who said anything about going to the loo in front of them? I have never taken my children (bar my disabled child) into the loo with me.

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Me. I said it. Some kids will follow you around and that includes the toilet. I still think OP is talking shite but I've had my niece walk in on me plenty of times. She's not even 2. Not my place to install locks.

Justcallmebebes · 15/07/2023 00:00

Well I've had a v busy day, long commute, work, emergency baby sit in the evening and I've been to the loo loads. You must have a bladder of iron OP

VeridicalVagabond · 15/07/2023 00:05

Oh my god I can't even imagine the pain I'd be in if I hadn't pissed for 12 hours. If nothing else OP you mustn't be drinking enough water if you've not had a wee in all that time.

BarbaraofSeville · 15/07/2023 06:38

Yes it is ridiculous that you don't speak up or stand up for yourself about basic essential care. Everyone goes to the toilet and just about all women have periods to deal with for a few decades of their lives.

Stop letting these people walk all over you FFS.

Go to the toilet when you need to at work.

Stop working late without notice.

If people are dumping children on you and not returning when agreed, phone them. If it happens again don't babysit. If they make a habit of it, phone social services to report an abandoned child.

When you get home, speak up. Say 'hello, need the toilet' and just go.

PaigeMatthews · 15/07/2023 06:43

What country do you live in? You cannot be expected to work a 12 hour day without a toilet break / lunch.

SBHon · 15/07/2023 06:48

You’re letting people walk all over you OP.