Would you wait to ttc to avoid a summer birthday

[justthinkingxx]

We want to try towards the end of this year and if we are lucky straightaway that would mean a summer birthday. I read it on here on other threads that people think it is the worst time to be born in, for the place in school year above all else

I can see some advantages though like maybe being off school for your birthday , always having good birthday weather , and importantly whilst cost of living is so high you would pay nearly a year less of childcare fees when lots of the first year of school is relaxed and play based anyway , so best of both worlds only you’re not paying for it ?

We’re in our mid20s so can wait if summer is truly disadvantageous !

@justthinkingxx id suggest that you just get on with it!!! After spending years trying to avoid pregnancy it can be a bit of shock not get first time lucky.

I was a summer baby, both DC are summer babies. My last birthday at home was when I was six, after that it was cub camp, scout camp, sports events etc. So we e don't really do birthdays, when the kids were little all their buddies were away, now they're bigger and really into outdoors stuff they like presents in spring to use over summer.

They're both very happy with this - they ask for something and just say "don't worry call it one of my birthday presents'.

On reflection I suspect we've been played.

7 days a week? I was lucky I didn't go back until he was 10 months and I'm a teacher so we got the summer hols regardless.

Also, I have a friend who was born in April the day before her older brother's birthday. Her mum didn't want to be heavily pregnant in the hot weather. It's swings and roundabouts like everything isn't it? And these considerations are very English. In Scotland a Christmas baby would be one of the youngest.

My son was born on September the 2nd and I was desperate for him to come along in August 😂so annoying that I have to pay a years extra nursery fees and he is so ready for school now at almost 4.
i have a March born son too an I think that is better as one he is in the middle of the school year and two it is so much better to be pregnant during the winter than the summer. So get trying now 😂😂 seriously though I wouldn’t worry too much about it

Summer nice for birthdays. Daughter hates Dec as always school exams on lol. Im January its crap everyone broke. My son is march.

I was a summer baby and both my children are - no school ever on your birthday, generally nicer weather which means day trips out! It is a pain in the arse when you are the last to turn 18 out your school mates but that’s probably the only major downside. Summer born kids can be just as academically gifted too!

Take your baby when and.if mother nature agrees you should have one! What a load of nonsense suggesting a summer baby is inconvenient. Three of my 5 were born July/August. No issues with it.

It's different for everyone but I pay more now to have my daughter.
collected from school twice a week by her old nursery and stay there for 2 hours that I used to pay for 2 10-hour days. Having them in school doesn't make childcare free, unfortunately!

A few perspectives to consider.
I have two late Summer borns and an early Autumn born. DD1 (Summer) was always quite bright and coped fine at school being the youngest. The only thing for her came when she took Gcse's while still only 15, and 17 when all her friends were passing driving tests before she could even have her first lesson!
DS2 (summer) really struggled, not academically, but emotionally. He just wasn't ready to start school, he was immature, struggled with routines, friendships, in every year as he went through, I felt he was better suited to the year below. It was very apparent on leaving as everyone headed off for Uni with ideas of what they wanted to do that he wasn't ready for a further two years.
DD3 (autumn) is flourishing. Mature beyond her years, no problems starting school or going through, just emotionally ready - which counts for more than how much they can do.
I also work in Early years and the difference in Summer/autumn borns is vast in terms of emotional readiness, being able to share, cope with conflict, develop resilience, self care and independence.
I never gave any of this a thought in my 20s when I had my first baby and I know you can't always plan, but I would personally try and avoid a late summer birth for the sake of a couple or three months further on. It really does make a difference.

Both of mine are winter babies but I don't think I would, no - beyond starting school at an older age, there aren't really any advantages to a winter birthday, and much more for a summer one.

I seem to be in the minority here but i purposely tried for summer babies because of the school year thing. September kids often have to go over the same thing time and time again, some get bored and end up not doing very well. But I don’t think it matters that much, if they want to do well they will and as you said, lots of other advantages to summer birthdays!