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It’s an A&E one…

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LawyeredUp · 29/06/2023 23:10

I genuinely never thought I’d start one of these threads, but here I am!

I don’t think it needs a trip to A&E, but could do with the reassurance.

DS is 2 (27 months). He was picked up from nursery by his nanny and got the bus home. Unfortunately the bus was packed so when getting off, she went forwards with the pushchair rather than backwards. And the pushchair fell off the bus with DS in it.

He cried for a couple of hours and couldn’t put any weight on his legs. Once I got home, he calmed down with me after around half an hour, but was still upset at times. He started to cheer up a bit, and I gave him some calpol, after which he was back to himself.

Except he can’t put weight on his legs. He can move them and as we were playing whilst he was lying down, he was happily and easily kicking them around (calpol would have kicked in). I’ve bent them both in different angles and there’s no issue, but he’s not standing. I think his legs are simply sore, as surely it would be obvious if it was a break right?

No obvious head injury (told there were no marks on him right after) and once he calmed down and the calpol kicked in, he had food. He’s still up now (I’ve wanted to keep an eye on him) and for all intents and purposes, he’s himself, apart from not being able to stand properly. It’s a big pushchair and he was buckled in, but I think the shock together with hurting his legs was hugely distressing for him and also he needed his mum, hence why he was upset for so long.

I don’t think it needs A&E, as I’m not too worried about his legs. Maybe see how he is in the morning?

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samqueens · 30/06/2023 22:28

So glad he’s ok - was wondering how you got on, so thank you for updating. Doesn’t sound like you got it wrong ultimately, he got some sleep (even if you didn’t!) and is going to be fine and that’s the main thing. Don’t take any of the judgement too much to heart. Hope he doesn’t find the split too annoying and makes a speedy recovery.

💐

swimminginthesun · 30/06/2023 22:29

Thank-you for updating. Kids heal so quickly. I’m sure your son will be fully recovered before you know it.

Icecreamalaska · 30/06/2023 22:31

Very glad to hear he'll be fine and thanks so much for coming back to update. You'll rest easier tonight, you must be exhausted at this stage 💐

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stressbucket1 · 30/06/2023 22:36

You didn't do anything wrong, he suffered no ill effects from going this morning and he got a good night's sleep. Kids are amazing at getting on with things and not complaining. That's why sometimes fractures can be missed.
As for the person to hold for xray, as radiation is involved although a very small amount it's not routine for staff to hold for xray as they could potentially be exposed regularly. Also the child would be more upset at an unfamiliar person holding them, as you are pregnant it's not allowed for you to hold either. Difficult situation with little ones and sometimes staff will just do it anyway for the benefit of the patient but it's the choice of the staff member.

Newmum110 · 30/06/2023 22:37

OP ignore the assholes, anyone who thinks they are a perfect parent are deluded. Best of luck with your sons recovery

iolaus · 30/06/2023 22:41

Glad he's been seen and treated, the vast majority of parents have either under or over reacted over a child's accident or illness before

I would be addressing this with the nanny though - if he was crying for a few hours with her after the accident (even though he settled when you got home) I would have expected her to have, at a minimum, called you (ideally would have called you to say she was taking him to the hospital)

Pip1402 · 30/06/2023 22:46

It probably did your son the world of good to have some relaxed and happy time with you and some sleep so he could calm down from the upset of the accident before dealing with the time at hospital.

Whataretalkingabout · 30/06/2023 22:49

Get another nanny. This one is totally incompetent. Good God, I can't imagine how she could have let a stroller fall off a bus and onto your child. I would be furious just for this. Hope you are both feeling better soon.

Kiwiandstrawberries · 30/06/2023 22:52

OP am glad your son is ok and leg will heal fast. I am a registered nurse and missed my daughter’s appendicitis because I thought she was over excited when we got back from a weekend away and thought
her tummy ache was attention seeking!

uncomfortablydumb53 · 30/06/2023 22:55

I'm glad he had an x Ray.. must've been very difficult to get a clear picture as toddlers are not still by nature
I'm sure he will be racing around in a few weeks Soft bones heal quickly

Stomacharmeleon · 30/06/2023 23:00

@Whataretalkingabout or it was an accident? Something she is probably going to be feeling awful about as it is.
We all make mistakes.

Realfastfoodie · 30/06/2023 23:02

From one mum who has spent more time in hospital than most, to another - I just want to say I totally get you! If I took my child to A&E every time the nhs website said to do so, we would have just moved in by now. We become the experts in fine judgement calls and learn to keep quiet (saying supportive things as a policy) when others talk about their kids and A&E.

Glad you took him in, glad you got clarity, and glad he’s ok in himself.

ArabeIIaScott · 30/06/2023 23:20

Well that sounds like a long and difficult day. Take care, OP, hope you get a restful night tonight.

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LawyeredUp · 30/06/2023 23:21

Re the nanny, I need to think about it (she’s not an inexperienced au pair a couple of you were convinced of). I fully appreciate it was an accident so don’t hold it against her. The first time I used public transport with DS in a pram, I went forwards off the train and the wheels of the pram got stuck between the train and platform. The first time DH used public transport, he also went forward and told me DS and the weight of the pushchair tilted forward. So perhaps with both of us having experienced that, we’re more understanding of it, although this wasn’t her first time on public transport with a pram / pushchair.

The issue is more it’s knocked my faith in her, and that’s what we need to think about. I think she absolutely panicked after the accident and was focused on making sure he’s ok with no obvious injury, but we need to be sure that the person taking care of DS makes the right choices when accidents happen.

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BelindaBears · 30/06/2023 23:22

So I listened to my instincts and judged the situation on how he was after I got home, but this time I got it wrong.

I don’t particularly think you did get it wrong. I’m not sure there was anything to be gained by going to A&E vs waiting until the morning.

BelindaBears · 30/06/2023 23:23

Going to A&E late at night I mean.

SirKurtBored · 30/06/2023 23:24

Glad to hear he’s on the mend and not in too much pain.

now, forgive yourself and move on.

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LawyeredUp · 30/06/2023 23:27

Re the Velcro straps on the X-ray, that wasn’t offered as an option. I was very much told I can’t go in (understandable), and they don’t have anyone to go in and hold him (also understandable in light of repeated exposure), so they won’t be able to do the X-ray. The only solution was for someone else to come and hold DS. As it happened, one person wasn’t enough.

In the end, the doctor we had seen in the morning came looking for us because we hadn’t come back, and when she found out what happened, she came back half an hour later with another nurse to hold DS still during the X-ray.

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LawyeredUp · 30/06/2023 23:30

LawyeredUp · 30/06/2023 23:21

Re the nanny, I need to think about it (she’s not an inexperienced au pair a couple of you were convinced of). I fully appreciate it was an accident so don’t hold it against her. The first time I used public transport with DS in a pram, I went forwards off the train and the wheels of the pram got stuck between the train and platform. The first time DH used public transport, he also went forward and told me DS and the weight of the pushchair tilted forward. So perhaps with both of us having experienced that, we’re more understanding of it, although this wasn’t her first time on public transport with a pram / pushchair.

The issue is more it’s knocked my faith in her, and that’s what we need to think about. I think she absolutely panicked after the accident and was focused on making sure he’s ok with no obvious injury, but we need to be sure that the person taking care of DS makes the right choices when accidents happen.

By the right choices, I mean calling me right away. I can’t hold it against her for not going to A&E when I didn’t myself.

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Unsure33 · 30/06/2023 23:36

Don’t feel bad , when my son was 2 1/2 he had an accident when with my sister and fell out of a buggy on a slope . I took him to the local dr who assured me everything was ok . It would not be broken as kids that age basically bounce and their bones don’t break easily . But the next day I was not happy mainly as he was quiet and sleepy, so not his normal self . He ended up having a double green stick fracture in his arm . So sometimes even doctors miss these things . Just ignore the haters on here . There are a lot of virtue signallers at the moment . It’s rife.

CC4712 · 30/06/2023 23:40

This is the type of thing I meant OP for holding people in place- sometimes 2 are used. I'm surprised they required a human to hold down your child instead of these, but I haven't worked in this area for many, many years.

It’s an A&E one…
CC4712 · 30/06/2023 23:43

Pressed to soon! Likely due to laws on restraint etc, but holding a child down by a stranger is likely more frightening than using the straps.

Emptychairdoasolo · 30/06/2023 23:47

So you’re not judging yourself but you’re judging the nanny? The bus was too busy to turn around the pram, she had no choice but to go forward and the pram obviously had weight pulling it forward, very easy for it to be pulled by gravity out of her hands. If you’re going to judge anyone judge the people on the bus that didn’t offer to help her lift the pram down.

You made the call at first yourself that it didn’t need A&E attention, she made the same mistake as you did. I guarantee that woman feels absolutely beside herself and adores yourself.

Emptychairdoasolo · 30/06/2023 23:47

*your child.

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LawyeredUp · 30/06/2023 23:50

Emptychairdoasolo · 30/06/2023 23:47

So you’re not judging yourself but you’re judging the nanny? The bus was too busy to turn around the pram, she had no choice but to go forward and the pram obviously had weight pulling it forward, very easy for it to be pulled by gravity out of her hands. If you’re going to judge anyone judge the people on the bus that didn’t offer to help her lift the pram down.

You made the call at first yourself that it didn’t need A&E attention, she made the same mistake as you did. I guarantee that woman feels absolutely beside herself and adores yourself.

Please re read my posts. I made it clear I don’t blame her for the accident and also made it clear that I’m judging her on not calling me right away.

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