Fear at being old mum

[Josiekitty]

I had my daughter at 42 and she’s now 15. I feel so much older than her friends parents and I know she feels it too. I’m constantly obsessing over how she’s likely to lose me earlier than her friends lose their mum’s and I feel embarrassed that I’m old enough to be her grandmother. I’m so aware of getting older that I avoid places where there will be younger people and I’m getting paranoid about being close to retirement when I long to be 20 years younger

A perfect family doesn't exist. What are all the positives about her upbringing? Love and stability? All the time you dedicated spent with her? Sense of humour? Whatever they are you need to focus on that.

@YukoandHiro terrifying because I'm only 37 and some of these posts have me popping my clogs before too long

Can I ask how old you were when you had your child? X

I was 30 and 37 when I had mine.

I think this is relevant

No way, I’m 43 and happily TTC 🤪😍

Statistically your child is likely to lose you when in his or her 30s. Definitely makes me feel sad to think that and I see it as the main advantage to the old fashioned way of marriage before 25 and children done before 30.

My parents were 42 when they had me. I’m now 50 and they are still in good nick!

My mum had me at 18 and died when I was in my 20s. It doesn't only happen to older parents.

OP, I had my ds at 45, He's 15 and I'm 60.

But I carry on working, run ParkRun, do everything that other mums do, join in with school stuff. DS forgets my age or doesn't notice.

I'll worry about it in a decade or two. 😊

Good on you 👍

Sorry to hear that but this won't be the case for everyone.

My Dad was in his 40's when he had me and is now in his 70's still working full time and in great health. Where as my husbands parents had him in their early 20's but have both now unfortunately passed away.