No party food or drink provided

[ImaMumtoaboy]

So my ds(11) went to a football party yesterday. The minute we got in the car he asked to go the shop for a drink as he was so thirsty.
Party was at the local astro pitch, party room included that has 2 ovens, hob, 2 toasters, 2 microwaves and 2 fridges. Most parents bring in frozen pizzas and chips and cook them or order in pizzas.
Kids were running around for 2 hours in hot weather they were not offered any drinks during that time.
He said in the "party room" they got 1 small bottle of water (250ml) and a small slice of birthday cake. They only went into the room 10 minutes before I arrived to collect him.
When I went in the mother was packing up the cake which looked like there was about 3/4's left. I thought the kids must have had enough food that they didnt want cake. And parents cleaned up very quickly. Kids were all quiet(14 11/12 yr old boys) who are normally very loud at parties. Kids were just sitting waiting to be collected.Turns out they got a very very skinny slice, described by ds as thinner then a slice of bread.
Ended up bringing him to Mcdonalds as a treat and we seen 2 other parents of kids that were at the same party getting their kids food.

12-2 yes I'd have expected them to provide some food.
And in the heat free access to water as well as squash/fizzy drinks.
But not the end of the world, the venue probably cost a fair bit and they decided to splash on that and number of guests rather than food.
Your teen will be fine.

It was a party. You expect to be fed at a party. At the very least a packet of cheapy crisps and some jellies but this just sounds mean and I absolutely hate meanness. A few jugs of orange squash at the very least and they could help themselves.

All the joyless competitive under eater have turned up to berate any calorie intake that exceeds a cherry tomato and a sniff of mineral water
its mn disordered eating bingo
over eating
I'd cut that into quarters
No one needs much food
I blame the parents
Are you a feeder

I think invites should always be clear and say whether there will be food at parties. Its very poor to not have more access to even water though on such a hot day.

@JayAlfredPrufrock ·

Yeah what where they thinking!!!

Exactly what I thought my god!!😂

which they wouldn't have done if there's been actual food 🤦🏽‍♀️

What teen?

Sounds a bit stingy but I would have sent a child in with a bottle of water if I knew they were playing sport for two hours

I've never heard of a birthday party not providing food and drinks for kids, I'm in Ireland so maybe it's different in England.

I have often read on here how people don't feed their kids party foods or foods outside of meal times. I've seen people get very stressed on here over some goodies but here in Ireland we definitely provide plenty of party food no matter what time the party is at.

There is no way we send our kids to parties with their own drinks, and there's no way the host would allow the kids to not eat and drink and be very energetic playing football.

Filling some jugs up with water and a squirt of juice would have gone down well with the children after running around, a few sandwiches wouldn't have cost a fortune, bit of ham or cheese on bread if they couldn't afford treats, although the treat foods seem cheaper than healthy stuff.

With the weather like it has been and knowing they were going to do physical activity? I would, yep. Actually dc would just take it themself without prompting.

Sorry, pre-teen

I don't understand all the PPS berating the organising parents for being 'cheap' because they didn't buy a bottle of squash. I don't buy squash for kids. I don't see what's wrong with tap water. Much better for their teeth. (some parents insist on brushing teeth immediately after any sugar is consumed - it doesn't sound like you sent your DC along with a toothbrush either!)

Brushing your teeth immediately after any sugar is consumed is very bad for your teeth.

Kigs oogn’t eek oo uch ake

^ Me scolding the slabs of cake people through a mouthful of cake

Who sends a kid to a party with a tooth brush? Is this a made up affectation

Im in Ireland aswell
Parents 1 is Irish other isnt but in the time their son has been at school with my ds he has been to about 20 parties and food and drink has been provided at all of them.
Even playdates here lunch or snacks and drinks are provided.
I think its very unusual not to provide food and drinks at a kids party and looking at the messages on my ds phone some of his friends were wondering where the food was.
I wont be discussing it with other parents of the kids that were there. Thats why I thought to post here to get different views on it. My ds has been told not to mention or get involved in conversations about it with the other kids

Did everyone take a present to the party?

Plenty of cards.
Going by my ds birthday party and mostly the same kids its all money or vouchers anything between 10-20 euro.

Come on! A party always includes drinks and food, I can’t believe people thinking it’s ok to throw a party without catering.

Usually I pop a toothbrush in the party bag – mini toothpaste, travel toothbrush, handbag size antibac gel, individual oatcake, lettuce seeds for grow-your-own, water shot. Maybe travel deodorants for the pre-teens.

They did it for the gifts. YNBU to think it was odd. They’re being tight and doing it cheaply to get gifts!

It’s mn. No one eats and any kind of buffet or spread is gluttony and unnecessary
cue all the posts chastising over eating and really labouring that food is not necessarily at a social event

You had me going for a minute 😆

Jugs of cheap squash, a couple of packets of 65p bourbons and a multipack of crisps would’ve been fine if they’re struggling for money. But I’m guessing they’re not or they wouldn’t have had the party in the first place. Very poor form.

Also the host should’ve put on the invitations ‘please bring a water bottle ’

Oh god either you’re v funny & pithy or a scary hygiene queen

Parent's sound like major cheapskates