Pissed off about the tooth fairy and whats expected

[Woodward23]

I need to vent here! Should i have given my daughter her request ?

So my 9 and half year old lost a tooth yesterday. She put it under her pillow last night along with this huge letter she wrote asking instead of £1(which is what she gets) she wants £5 because the tooth fairy needs to get rid of the queen heads money to make space for the Kings head money .(thought that bit was initative!)

Along with where do you come from, are you a boy or girl,how much money do you give other kids , how old are you 🤔

We didn't write a reply to the letter I told her last night I wouldn't expect a reply because the tooth fairy is very busy and i don't think they could carry a pen. Nor did I give her £5! She got £1 and dad took the tooth away

So shes woken this morning not happy she didn't get a reply and really ungrateful that she even got a £1 she was in a sulk the whole way to school . Its pissed me right off

When she was writing the letter I would have pointed out it was rude and advised her not to 'send' it incase they TF decide to give her nothing for been ungrateful. However now you have had the conversation about not believing I would continue giving her the £1 for any remaining teeth, but just give it to her without all the under the pillow rigmarole.

No wonder she said she still believes in santa though, I'd still have been putting out mince pies in my 20's if I thought admitting I don't believe would stop presents.

It sounds like your daughter knows that the tooth fairy isn’t real so these questions are her way of getting the truth out of you. I did all sorts when I started to question Santa. I remember taking my letter from Santa and comparing the writing to another child in my street.

My 10 year old still believes in the tooth fairy, as do her friends! She lost a tooth on Thursday night and my husband assured me he would put the money under her pillow (she gets a few pounds as she shares it with her brother - something she started years ago) but when I got ready for work at 6am I saw the money still on the side so had to make the change. Then I found a tiny note she'd written so I wrote a quick one back saying thanks for the tooth. It took me about 2 minutes. And she spoke about it at great length with her friends in the car later (collected from guides). They were discussing whether the same tooth fairy returns each time. Yes they are 10 and yes they will find out before secondary school. But if they still believe despite kids telling them the truth at school (I'm a teacher!) Then why not indulge them a little longer. I realise my child is naive in still believing, but I worked out santa wasn't real at 7 (due to another child getting the same Xmas gift in my class but with bells and whistles) and I sobbed when I found out the truth. It has stayed with me for 31 years. Was I better off for having been more on the ball!?
OP, if you have time and want to write a note back do. If you don't have time and don't want to, don't. Give however much monet you want. Your child, your decision.

I used to get a pound from the tooth fairy in the 90s. Surely with inflation, she should be paying out a bit more these days?

Perhaps the cost of living crisis is also happening in Fairyland.

The tooth fairy doesn’t appreciate greedy, grabby kids. I’m afraid she’s all too likely to leave them nothing at all.

She obviously doesn't believe in Santa but will now think of she admits it, she won't get any presents. I don't know if it's just the way you write but you come across a little mean :( she's only 9. It's quote funny she tried to make the most out of the remainder of the teeth she's got left to fall out. I'd laugh about it with her and say she can have some money for the remainder when they come out.

I saw something on twitter that said, the problem is, nothing coats 99p anymore! Which is very true. I remember £1 went a long way when I was 9 in 2002. It's really not much anymore so only fair she gets a little more.

I used to get 50p as a child. I think £1-2 is a perfectly reasonable amount due to inflation. Someone in work gives £5 per tooth and I was totally stunned when I heard the figure. £100 in total, for three kids?!? Outrageous!

If she doesn't want the £1 I would take it back. There she got something she wanted 😁 Gifts are for grateful children.

I used to get £1 and I’m 33! I would like one of these children to work out the current rate based on inflation in the last 25 years! Then they would deserve the extra 😂

I'd have kept the game going with a bit of ingenuity. The head on magic money changes anyway, and coins are heavy for a little fairy so she can't carry enough to give more than one to each child! My mum used to write me tiny notes from the tooth fairy and I loved it. Don't really think I believed in it, but loved the notes. Even got a feather that had fallen out from the fairy's wing one year!

Well the problem is some parents are ridiculous and give kids £20 a tooth, and they talk about this at school. So obviously if you're only getting £1 you're gona wonder why. I'd imagine she is at the age when she starting to guess its you and not the tooth fairy - but i could be wrong. Maybe it's time tell her it's you so she doesn't think she is being shot changed by the tooth fairy. X

I think we had the same one!! I'm pretty sure my 4dc wondered what they'd done to deserve such a useless specimen!

When I was growing up any teeth that came out were put into a glass of water and the next morning there would be a shilling replacing the tooth. Or if my parents were feeling generous a half crown. The glass would have been placed on the mantlepiece in living room.

Kids still believe in the tooth fairy at 9 years old?
I think it’s time for you to tell her she isn’t real. She probably has her suspicions seeing as she’s being so inquisitive in her letter.

Of course they don't. Some mummies really really want to believe they do though, as they do with Santa clause.

I would of replied to the letter and left £1. I know she’s admitted to knowing the tooth fairy isn’t real now but at the time you thought she believed, why would you not want to keep the magic alive?

I think it’s harsh to say she won’t get the £1 now when her teeth fall out, she’s only 9! Also she’s not going to admit if she doesn’t believe in Santa now, she will probably be thinking she won’t get any Christmas presents.

Take the quid back, put the tooth back along with a letter from the tooth fairy saying she didn’t like her attitude 😆