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Pissed off about the tooth fairy and whats expected

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Woodward23 · 22/06/2023 09:44

I need to vent here! Should i have given my daughter her request ?

So my 9 and half year old lost a tooth yesterday. She put it under her pillow last night along with this huge letter she wrote asking instead of £1(which is what she gets) she wants £5 because the tooth fairy needs to get rid of the queen heads money to make space for the Kings head money .(thought that bit was initative!)

Along with where do you come from, are you a boy or girl,how much money do you give other kids , how old are you 🤔

We didn't write a reply to the letter I told her last night I wouldn't expect a reply because the tooth fairy is very busy and i don't think they could carry a pen. Nor did I give her £5! She got £1 and dad took the tooth away

So shes woken this morning not happy she didn't get a reply and really ungrateful that she even got a £1 she was in a sulk the whole way to school . Its pissed me right off

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whoami24601 · 22/06/2023 21:28

toomuchlaundry · 22/06/2023 10:06

The tooth fairy was always delayed by various things in this house (rubbish parents!) DS was very excited to get a euro when he lost a tooth in France.

DD refused to leave her tooth under her pillow on holiday because she didn't want to get conned on the exchange rate 🤣 she saved it in her suitcase and did it as soon as we got home!

whoami24601 · 22/06/2023 21:31

Goldbar · 22/06/2023 18:38

I'm not criticising you at all OP, but I will never admit to Santa/the tooth fairy/ the Easter bunny not being true. My parents never did, and even at the grand old age of 16 we were leaving mince pies out for Santa and the Easter bunny was still dropping clues in the garden.

If quizzed, my parents would say things like "hmm, I've never thought about it", "what do you think?" and "It does sound a bit impractical but that's magic for you, I guess". And of course we all had a vested interest in keeping up the pretence.

Oh I love this! This is my plan too x

Cakeorchocolate · 22/06/2023 21:44

I'd have told her the tooth fairy could easily come back to take the £ back since she was so ungrateful about it.

I've seen your updates and know she was trying it on anyway though.

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CM1897 · 22/06/2023 23:49

FlounderingFruitcake · 22/06/2023 09:59

Surely at 9 she doesn’t actually believe in the tooth fairy and she’s just trying to see how far she can push you into keeping it going? Honestly I would just have a laugh about it, say nice try, and that she’s clearly too old for the whole thing now!

My 11 year old still believed in Santa last Christmas (not sure if she still will this Christmas), why do people think children have to grow up so quick? It’s great if this little
girls still believes in the magic of the tooth fairy

CM1897 · 22/06/2023 23:50

I don’t think it would have taken you long to write a little note to her from the tooth fairy. Children are only little once and it won’t be long until she stops believing in things like this

Harry12345 · 23/06/2023 00:09

God I would have written a letter, it’s magical if she believes. My daughter used to ask for letters and items of clothing and she would leave bits of her polly pocket stuff to trade, we gave her a name. And tbh I got £1 30 years ago. Each to their own but I think it’s sweet

purpleme12 · 23/06/2023 00:42

My 9 year old still believes. I would have given £1 and yes I would replied to the questions.
I'm fact I've done just that tonight when she's written to her fairies tonight

Twentypastfour · 23/06/2023 00:58

Oh my oldest loves writing to the tooth fairy too.

I do always write back. And they get £1. Everyone I know does £1 too.

Saschka · 23/06/2023 01:02

My6 year old doesn’t believe, so your DD definitely doesn’t aged 9!

£1 is the going rate, I’m afraid. £5 is definitely trying it on.

WandaWonder · 23/06/2023 01:09

I don't agree with sulking but I would have played along and paid up, I have no desire to deliberately keep my child young or anything but there are wonderful memories I have of my family playing along with things for me even though we all 'knew' because it was fun

not everything needs to have a lesson behind it or a genuine need to truly believe to go along with something, but bad behaviour should not be tolerated

Honeychickpea · 23/06/2023 01:22

Woodward23 · 22/06/2023 10:05

I know! But unfortunately she still does
Shes asked me to record it next time she looses one , I have already told no!

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This feels rather like the mothers who are SURE their 11 or 12 year olds believe in Santa.

HangingOver · 23/06/2023 01:22

Was I the only cynical child that never believed in magic? 😂 One look at the size of our chimney was enough to do for santa. Isn't it just a game?

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 23/06/2023 01:47

Last time my son lost a tooth the Fairy issued a “stop work order” which she taped to the bedroom door - she couldn’t get to the pillow as the bedroom was too messy.

The fact that neither I nor DH had any small change, only large notes, was purely coincidental …..

Hooooping · 23/06/2023 01:54

toomuchlaundry · 22/06/2023 10:06

The tooth fairy was always delayed by various things in this house (rubbish parents!) DS was very excited to get a euro when he lost a tooth in France.

Brexit caused all sorts of delays in our area.

ALJT · 23/06/2023 06:45

I’d be the same as you, I really don’t like ungrateful-ness. I also do £1 a tooth as I refuse to buy into this over the top per tooth that I see on peoples social media. Each to their own… what others do makes no difference to me, I just don’t do it x

Airdustmoon · 23/06/2023 06:54

My 7 year old finally lost his first tooth the other day, he’s been desperate to as most of his friends have lost loads. He doesn’t believe in the tooth fairy (or indeed Santa) so I’ve never had to do this stuff! It came out while we were out so I had to stop at the cash machine on the way home, then DH asked him if he just wanted the money before bed which he agreed to! No magic in the Airdustmoon household

TeamGeriatric · 23/06/2023 08:36

Once my daughter started writing letters to the tooth fairy, for me, it became a much trickier thing to navigate. I was reluctant to answer the letters because I didn't want her to go into school and talk about the reply she got and potentially look silly in front of her friends. She's now 11, the tooth still goes under the pillow but these days it's more about the silly letters my husband writes thanking her for her teeth. We are a £2 per tooth household. It did start at a £1 but I felt like all the other parents were handing over more, some were definitely doing £5 a tooth.

80sMum · 23/06/2023 09:06

I don't think that any nine-year-old would actually still believe in the tooth fairy!

purpleme12 · 23/06/2023 09:54

Funny how on these threads so many people can't comprehend it's possible that other children still believe when theirs don't.
It's a shame they can't see how other children might be different to theirs, and that that's ok too.
My child talks about fairies with her teacher, not just me and her teacher has said she thinks she still believes, and that's ok

Isthisasgoodasitis · 23/06/2023 11:14

Woodward23 · 22/06/2023 09:44

I need to vent here! Should i have given my daughter her request ?

So my 9 and half year old lost a tooth yesterday. She put it under her pillow last night along with this huge letter she wrote asking instead of £1(which is what she gets) she wants £5 because the tooth fairy needs to get rid of the queen heads money to make space for the Kings head money .(thought that bit was initative!)

Along with where do you come from, are you a boy or girl,how much money do you give other kids , how old are you 🤔

We didn't write a reply to the letter I told her last night I wouldn't expect a reply because the tooth fairy is very busy and i don't think they could carry a pen. Nor did I give her £5! She got £1 and dad took the tooth away

So shes woken this morning not happy she didn't get a reply and really ungrateful that she even got a £1 she was in a sulk the whole way to school . Its pissed me right off

A letter answering her questions explaining it’s a £1 because a lot of children lost their teeth would have helped massively and avoided the sulk mine had a similar issue her friend was at her dads and lost a tooth she was really upset dad panicked only had a £20 so friend was full of revelation friends mum was horrified and furious poor dad was coughing up for lost teeth for years 🤣🤣

RudsyFarmer · 23/06/2023 11:17

toomanyleggings · 22/06/2023 12:02

FYI I tell mine that that the tooth fairy does an independent valuation, inspects the quality of the tooth and leaves money accordingly. If they haven’t been cleaned well, they’re worth less because she uses them for fairy furniture and needs good quality materials 😄

That’s genius 🤣🤣

Lira715 · 23/06/2023 11:24

My niece wrote a letter to the tooth fairy too she was younger and put at the bottom “ wake me up please I’m not going to hurt you “ 😂

I asked my DD6 at the time what does she think the tooth the fairy does with all the teeth and she said she eats them 😱 surprised she still wants her to come … I’d be terrified. My Dd youngest in her school year and it was common knowledge the tooth fairy leaves £5 for each tooth before she’d even lost one so went with that be glad when the tooth fairy stops coming tbh 😂

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 23/06/2023 11:53

You will look back and laugh.And so will she.
I did once write a note as Ms T Fairy (well a colleague did), when one of mine had lost her tooth and it couldn't be found. I've still got it
Other than that I stuck to a quid right through with mine. If for no other reason than I always had a quid for a shopping trolley!

wildflowerlove · 23/06/2023 12:02

I'm always giving my kids £2. They are almost 9 now, so I think we are nearly heading over the milk teeth phase.

merryhouse · 23/06/2023 12:26

massiveclamps · 22/06/2023 18:07

Asked her if she still believes in santa she does! Of course she doesn't!

But would you admit that and risk getting no Christmas presents?

Particularly if you've just been told you won't get tooth money now...

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