Pissed off about the tooth fairy and whats expected

[Woodward23]

I need to vent here! Should i have given my daughter her request ?

So my 9 and half year old lost a tooth yesterday. She put it under her pillow last night along with this huge letter she wrote asking instead of £1(which is what she gets) she wants £5 because the tooth fairy needs to get rid of the queen heads money to make space for the Kings head money .(thought that bit was initative!)

Along with where do you come from, are you a boy or girl,how much money do you give other kids , how old are you 🤔

We didn't write a reply to the letter I told her last night I wouldn't expect a reply because the tooth fairy is very busy and i don't think they could carry a pen. Nor did I give her £5! She got £1 and dad took the tooth away

So shes woken this morning not happy she didn't get a reply and really ungrateful that she even got a £1 she was in a sulk the whole way to school . Its pissed me right off

I strung my parents along for at least two years. 😂

I'm not criticising you at all OP, but I will never admit to Santa/the tooth fairy/ the Easter bunny not being true. My parents never did, and even at the grand old age of 16 we were leaving mince pies out for Santa and the Easter bunny was still dropping clues in the garden.

If quizzed, my parents would say things like "hmm, I've never thought about it", "what do you think?" and "It does sound a bit impractical but that's magic for you, I guess". And of course we all had a vested interest in keeping up the pretence.

Just give her a £1.

I think this should be empowered

I read an article the other day how 'one' of the reasons women are underpaid is because they feel awkward asking for a pay rise

Something it seems your DD would have no problem asking for

You are hugely overreacting here, you're quite a spoilsport!

She's a kid. Kids try it on. Just laugh it off and stick to your £1 (which is fine). She sounds quite clever to me.

I sound like an old bugger these days but they grow up so fast, don't spoil it.

Bit of sparkly fairy dust on the side of the pillow did the trick. Letter writing is a royal pain when you inevitably remember the blasted tooth just as you get into bed.
But by 9, as you know they're largely trying it on. :)

I would have left the tooth. Not on purpose, I was just rubbish at remembering when it came to the tooth fairy.

@woodhill yeah husband reckons we should still give her it it but don't make a thing about under the pillow ect and all that

hahahaha your daughter does sound very resourceful.
On the other hand she is too old to be believing in the tooth fairy. She is having you on hahahaha

I would still give it under the pillow. A bit of fun never hurt anyone, whether she knows or not.

DD should just be grateful that the tooth fairy turns up in your house.

In ours, the tooth fairy frequently forgot. For days. Or didn't know that a child had lost a tooth and shoved it under their pillow so failed to turn up at all.

The tooth fairy in our house was a useless specimen who should hang her head in shame.

Flipping cheeky swine trying to fleece us!

What an unpleasant way to refer to your child.

I feel for her, you’re holding her to the standard of someone much older.

Not by refusing the fiver (I wouldn’t have given a fiver either, who can afford that?). But by being so bizarrely negative and critical about something she’s done that’s totally normal for her age, actually quite clever.

She’s not a cheeky swine, she’s a child. It sounds like you want to knock any boldness out of her. The rest of the world will be piling on to do that soon enough. You’re meant to be her support system.

I use to get 10p a tooth back in the 70s. I've checked and 10p in 1976 is now worth £1 so I think that's more than enough.

Your DD sounds fab and I agree with the PPs, it should have been dealt with using humour. Either a using a tiny fairy note or when chatting about it. I would write fairy letters on tiny squares of airmail paper (remember that!) then smear some glitter glue over it.

That’s showing some initiative. Our tooth fairy would have left a reply thanking her for the reminder to use up old Queen’s head currency and left lots of change.

My DC try all sorts of arguments to get more money from the tooth fairy (usually trying to charge interest because she’s so late). Last time it was DC’s birthday on the day the tooth came out, and he said the tooth fairy should get him a birthday present. He got left a toothbrush and some sweets in the shape of teeth. My DC definitely don’t believe (they’re 13 and 12 so I’d hope not!).

Mine don’t get any pocket money so it’s the only extra money they get. I don’t mind them trying it on, good for the future world of work.

Haha she's clever, but not yet outwitted the tooth fairy!

My DC are close in age, I think there was one week where between them they lost 4 teeth. When the last tooth of the week was shown to me at school pick up I loudly said 'Not another one, I'm completely out of pound coins!'

And that's how my children learned the truth about the tooth fairy... (Probably aged 6/7 or 7/8.)
Teeth still went under pillows and money kept appearing, so no long lasting trauma thankfully.

I think you'd better explain to her about Santa not being real, and even suggest you are doing it now because of her behaviour. Actions should have consequences.

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I would say the tooth fairy is extremely busy collecting teeth around the world and can’t always answer. Or do a note from the tooth fairy saying what a bloody cheek some tooth donors have these days 🤣

• I say tooth donor because I told my DDs that the tooth fairy is building a palace for tooth’s and obviously doesn’t want rotten teeth.

Flipping cheeky swine trying to fleece us!
And told her that you won't get no money now if you loose a tooth again

You sound pleasant

@Shinier thanks!

Tooth fairy doesn’t write a note here, I’ve got enough to do!

The only time she left more was when the dog ate the tooth & there was much upset so on this occasion she left £3 & some water balloons. £1 after that!

Regardless of what other kids get, it’s an important lesson in gratitude. You did nothing wrong.

Ha, OP, my dd1 did EXACTLY THE SAME but £10. I just wrote 'NO' on the note and I am quite proud of myself because I am a soft touch and find it pretty hard to say no to my PFB. I agree with your actions.

Yeah start putting the money you're saving on the tooth fairy towards her future counselling sessions if you do this.