Pissed off about the tooth fairy and whats expected

[Woodward23]

I need to vent here! Should i have given my daughter her request ?

So my 9 and half year old lost a tooth yesterday. She put it under her pillow last night along with this huge letter she wrote asking instead of £1(which is what she gets) she wants £5 because the tooth fairy needs to get rid of the queen heads money to make space for the Kings head money .(thought that bit was initative!)

Along with where do you come from, are you a boy or girl,how much money do you give other kids , how old are you 🤔

We didn't write a reply to the letter I told her last night I wouldn't expect a reply because the tooth fairy is very busy and i don't think they could carry a pen. Nor did I give her £5! She got £1 and dad took the tooth away

So shes woken this morning not happy she didn't get a reply and really ungrateful that she even got a £1 she was in a sulk the whole way to school . Its pissed me right off

£1 per tooth. And no replies to letters. I don't think she believes in it either

Our tooth fairy was quite the communicator, mostly because she was a very forgetful tooth fairy and had to make her apologies quite a few times. I used to write very very small on glittery backed cardboard cut into a heart or a star. She wouldn’t have gone for requests for more cash although she did tend to pay interest when she forgot.

The problem is though that children discuss these things in school.
I used to be a primary school teacher, and saw many crestfallen children whose peers told tales of receiving £5 or £10 per tooth, while they only got £1 or 50p. They were young enough to believe, and wondered why the Tooth Fairy liked them less!

I used to tell my own children that their friends were being paid for several teeth at a time if they ever heard and complained about such things!

I don't think responding to a young girl's letter is giving her the message that she's 'the centre of the world'.

For me the point would be partly to engage with something kind of funny my child did, but also probably to help her along that border between believing/wanting to still believe, and kind of knowing it's her parents. At that age, she must be at least part of the way there.

I think you could reply in character to convey that the tooth budget is fixed, but not with the expectation that you were actually sustaining a nine-year-old's ongoing belief in a mystical being. Not like, faking different handwriting or using glittery fairy stationery. More like 'we both know it's from me but I'm playing along', having a laugh sort of thing.

Your almost 10yr old believes in the tooth fairy? I’d be more worried about that…..

Why are you pissed off? It's funny. She's too old for the tooth fairy that's why she's writing letters and demanding answers and more money. Really hope she doesn't mention this at school and get ripped to shreds for it.

My 5 year old wrote a letter to the tooth fairy and I wrote a reply. Not sure I’d indulge a 9 year old though, it was mainly because I’m trying to encourage DD’s writing.

My 10 year old still believes in magic and I think it’s wonderful. Realistically I know he doesn’t really believe but he enjoys all the nonsense that comes with Santa and the tooth fairy and it’s a fine thread back to simpler times. Long let it continue.

This is sweet and I hadn't read it when I posted above, my mention of glittery stationery wasn't a dig at you!

For first teeth I paid £7 - 10 for a little loot bag complete with letter from tooth fairy forest (I know I’m a mug) and gave £3.

For subsequent teeth I gave £2, which I figured was fair as my mother gave £1 in the 1980s… along with floating balloons with glitter inside but that’s another story.

I would have written back and stated that money given corresponds to the quality of the tooth, both only how well it’s cleaned and the behaviour/attitude that’s rubbed off… children with best brushing/well behaved/kind etc get most.

Thank you for your concern for getting rid of the Queen’s Head money, as per your request I have delivered a bag from our vaults. (Filled with 50 1ps and 25 2ps - she will never ask anything again).

Fairies at any age are fine 🧚

I actually find her request quite funny! Probably would have written a joke letter back, some things along the lines of... sorry we can't give more than £1, as then we'd have to give it to every child to be fair, and tooth fairies are also suffering a cost of living crisis at the moment!😉

I never got to do any tooth fairy stuff with my DS sadly, as he was adamant that he wanted to keep his teeth in a box. I had to reassure him several times that the tooth fairy wouldn't just come and take his teeth anyway, as long as they weren't under his pillow, and that tooth fairies are not thieves!

There are 20 baby teeth. Get twenty pound coins, stick them in a safe place and just dole one out every time. It’s the most tedious of all the kids stuff

To be fair to your DD it has been £1 for a tooth for a long time now, inflation and all that means you just can’t get the plastic rubbish or comic that you used to be able to for a £1.
Just googled as I used to give my oldest £1 per tooth back in the 1990’s and you we need to give £2.46 now to have the same purchasing power.

Obviously the whole thing's a nonsense and she should of course be grateful for anything received, but DS1 used to get £1 when many of his friends were getting £2 and he's 22 now!

DD needs to explain the rising cost of living to the tooth fairy 😆

gah had this with my 9 year old last week. Friends in school that got £10 apparently. It was always £1 in my world. I gave her £2 and she seemed pleased enough in the end. I don’t think she quite believes but she’s not one hundred percent sure it’s nonsense either.

No way does a 9 year old believe in the tooth fairy. She's taking the piss

FYI I tell mine that that the tooth fairy does an independent valuation, inspects the quality of the tooth and leaves money accordingly. If they haven’t been cleaned well, they’re worth less because she uses them for fairy furniture and needs good quality materials 😄

I'm impressed with her kings/queens head thinking 😂

Most 9 year olds believe in the tooth fairy they are still little girls.

I think it was mean to not write back. I'd have compromised and given two pounds and a funny reply. It's pretty mean and frankly rude not to answer a letter. The tooth fairy needs to give her head a wobble.

Agreed, they use them to build the tooth fairy castle too 🏰

So here's an update for you i spoke to my daughter this evening whether she still believes , she's admitted she doesn't and she asked for £5 to see if she would get it off us and because a neighbour she saw her last night on a walk who told her she should get £5 for the tooth!

So ive told her now that she no longer believes, there is no fairy and it was us who leave the money and take the teeth and shown her the old teeth ive kept. And told her do not tell her younger brother !

Flipping cheeky swine trying to fleece us!
And told her that you won't get no money now if you loose a tooth again

Asked her if she still belives in santa she does! 🤦‍♀️ not sure how to explain that one

Asked her if she still believes in santa she does! Of course she doesn't!

But would you admit that and risk getting no Christmas presents?

My kids didn’t believe in tooth fairy by 9, think I stopped about 4 or 5 but usually £2 coin

My theory for older Primary is they convince themselves they believe as they enjoy the magic of it.

My 10yo keeps telling me how much she's looking forward to Elfie (our Elf) visiting despite the fact she knows its a toy. She wants to believe it gets into stupid places.