If you earn over £100k

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What do you do? How long have you been doing it? What qualifications do you have/how did you get into it?

Working in the NHS and considering leaving to peruse a career with higher earning potential.

That was in reply to Stripedbag101. Are you the head of a public sector pension fund?

😂😂😂🎉

either do you. That is my point.

we are all hero’s of our own life story. I am sure he tells you he has never made a mistake in his career and has revolutionised public sector pensions (although it has been one disaster after another over the years).

but it would be a lot more credible if this was your career your we’re talking about. There is no authenticity in your story because it’s not your story.

Place-marking to analyse posts forensically, in a paranoid attempt to work out whether the high earners are more or less intelligent than I am.

Medical consultant with medicolegal practice, over £300K. Tax is a bitch though.

What a very weird take. They retain him on a generous salary because he is very effective as end of year figures confirm. Not sure why that pisses you off so much.

I'm confused by all the posters saying talking about what your husband does is irrelevant and the OP only wants to hear stories of successful women.

We don't know the sex of the OP. All they've asked for is examples of how people have got into successful careers.

Both me and my OH are in careers which earn over £100k - I have supported him hugely to get into his role, and he has supported me hugely too.

When you are married it's a partnership - our successes are each others. I think it's unfair and sexist to say a stay at home wife has had no impact on helping her husband achieve a career of over £100k. You need that support at home, emotion support/help working through work difficulties etc in order to achieve it, so it is a joint success and it's fair for partners to talk about it like that.

I certainly wouldn't have had the work success I've had so far without my OH.

No - but either are you. I work in finance and pensions funds - but don’t specialise I. Public sector pensions. I was an economist for a decade though so I get by.

you have come on to a thread with women talking. About their careers to boast about your husband. There has been a detailed discussion about why women feel the need to do that - claim the success of a man and share a male experience.

I am sure your husband tells you how awesome he is - men tend to talk up their successes - that is why they do better in interviews and get promoted. It’s not a bad thing - women need to learn how to boast about whir successes and ignore their flaws.

you clealry love your husband very much and are incredobly proud of him. But a fawning wife probably isn’t the best vantage point to help OP understand how to succeed I. Male dominated high earning spaces

I used to, first as lawyer at US law firm. Then as partner in another London law firm. Took a step back after DD1 was born as I was approaching burn out.

Fabulous post from @Stripedbag101 and I totally agree. Well said!

Should have said, first earned over £100k at 4 years post qualification experience (after law conversion course) and 2 years training contract. Then again when I made partner. That was 20 years ago though

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MrsSkylerWhite · Today 23:46

That was in reply to Stripedbag101. Are you the head of a public sector pension fund?

No - but either are you. I work in finance and pensions funds - but don’t specialise I. Public sector pensions. I was an economist for a decade though so I get by.

you have come on to a thread with women talking. About their careers to boast about your husband. There has been a detailed discussion about why women feel the need to do that - claim the success of a man and share a male experience.

I am sure your husband tells you how awesome he is - men tend to talk up their successes - that is why they do better in interviews and get promoted. It’s not a bad thing - women need to learn how to boast about whir successes and ignore their flaws.

you clealry love your husband very much and are incredobly proud of him. But a fawning wife probably isn’t the best vantage point to help OP understand how to succeed I. Male dominated high earning spaces”

Blimey.

I am not a fawning wife. He doesn’t tell me how awesome he is: the public record speaks for itself. But yes, I’m incredibly proud that he chooses to use his skills for the public good rather than personal enrichment.

I’d really hate to be as bitter as you.

This is great advice - thank you.

@MrsSkylerWhite you're embarrassing yourself, striped doesn't sound the least bit bitter, she's been pretty gracious when you just need to be told to stop being so cringeworthy!

I am not at all bitter. I just want us to get to the point where when we ask about experiences of high earners the women who talk about earning and succeeding are talking about themselves not their husbands.

wouldn’t that be amazing. If women talked about the highs and lows of being that 10% (?) of very high earners who are women.

so we didn’t have to proud wives come on - we have the women who ar Epirus of themselves. Who have actually done it - not facilitated someone else. Which of course has a worth but that not what OP asked - she asked to hear from those who have actually done it.

maybe you do earn over £100k - but tell us about that. Not your husband.

In the same field but am a barrister who does a lot of construction cases. So end up working with and cross examining many expert witnesses!

@Stripedbag101 - completely agree, not sure why you're getting a hard time here. We need to move away from the notion that, as women, our social status is defined by that of the men in our lives.

ksjsb · Today 00:06
@MrsSkylerWhite you're embarrassing yourself, striped doesn't sound the least bit bitter, she's been pretty gracious when you just need to be told to stop being so cringeworthy!”

What? The question was if you earn £100k what do you do?

I said I don’t but my husband does and said what he does and what his qualifications are.

Why is that cringeworthy?

Are you suggesting that women (as most posters seem to assume OP is) can’t do what men do?

Incidentally, I was his professional equal when we married. I just chose to stop working to raise our children, as was my right.

Nonsense. I’ve worked in HR and recruitment (I’m a man) and I probably promoted more women than men internally - but then again that doesn’t fit in with the narrative of those out for an argument, so I’ll probably told it’s irrelevant 😅

My wife earns significantly more than me - and I respect her massively for doing it.

Dp is md of a limited company, worked way up. Me ... no chance, I actually help people, working with some of the most marginalised people in our town, it's a privilege to be in a position to be able to do it and they are worth it

I`m also an academic, just wondering what you do with regard to consultancy if you wouldn't mind sharing?

Women absolutely can do what men do - but at those higher earning points it’s harder. The statistics is don’t lie!

Men tend to promote men. Men tend to push themselves forward. Men don’t have to deal with the sticky floors and glass ceilings.

it’s getting better - I have been working for twenty years now and I have seen big improvements. But I am Still the only female director in my workplace.

okay so how do you explain the stats? What are so few women represented in the very high earners?

are you promoting more women into £100k plus roles? If this is happening across the board then it would be fifty fifty - indeed men would be under presented and we would be talking about how to boost men

Striped bag

Why have you taken a very straightforward question, what career can I look into to command a higher salary with less stress and tried to turn it into a male versus female issue (and been very rude to people who answered that question in good faith along the way).
You’ve completely hijacked this thread with your agenda.

The poster is making the mistake of assuming his anecdote is statistically significant.