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Mum sentenced to 28 months in prison for abortion pills

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mumoftwobarnyboys · 12/06/2023 17:26

Used after the cut off point of 10 weeks.

Regardless of how far gone she was, surely this isn't right?

It is her body, despite me morally really thinking what she did was very wrong.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/jun/12/woman-in-uk-jailed-for-28-months-over-taking-abortion-pills-after-legal-time-limit?CMP=twtgu&utmmsource=Twitter&utmmedium=&s=08#Echobox=1686577294

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oakleaffy · 16/06/2023 13:38

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 10:40

Name changed here for obvious reasons.

I do actually work within abortion services. And I can guarantee that if abortion as late as necessary came in as the poster you quoted wants it would actually significantly reduce abortion access for all. Very few staff who currently work within this area would chose to continue.

I don't believe those who say they would want this understand what would actually be involved, and how utterly traumatising that would be for the staff and the women. Dealing with a TOP in 24+ weeks is heartbreaking, but as it stands at the moment you know its for significant medical reasons with the fetus. Having to do that (& the way it would have to be done with some gestations) for a completely healthy, viable fetus would be very damaging mentally. I wonder if my colleague who works in ICU would be willing to come in and do it?

The current time frame for abortions as it stands in the UK I am perfectly happy with. I do believe it should be decriminalised and the current need for 2 Doctors signatures is not necessary IMO, but I do not want the timescales to change. They are generous compared to many other European countries and give women plenty of time to consider their options. 24 weeks as the current age of viability is totally appropriate IMO.

We do still offer postal packs, and I'm happy we still do. For women who have limited transport options or who live rurally it is hugely beneficial. All women ARE fully assessed and a comprehensive history obtained. A scan is not routinely offered to everyone, only when certain issues are raised. There are strict criteria we have to follow to offer postal packs, and very few women actually are eligible for them (IME). This woman lied repeatedly in order to access this service, there are many reasons why a scan would be offered - she obviously was prepared about what answers she would give.

That's very interesting that you state many abortion services staff would not want to perform late stage abortions.

Seeing the programme years ago of trainee doctors watching a late termination and their clearly wincing, horrified faces turning away has stayed with me.

Women have plenty of time to make their minds up as it stands- the current time frames ARE generous in my opinion.

MyTruthIsOut · 16/06/2023 13:43

oakleaffy · 16/06/2023 13:38

That's very interesting that you state many abortion services staff would not want to perform late stage abortions.

Seeing the programme years ago of trainee doctors watching a late termination and their clearly wincing, horrified faces turning away has stayed with me.

Women have plenty of time to make their minds up as it stands- the current time frames ARE generous in my opinion.

I’m sorry for the morbid question, but at what point does suctioning of the womb no longer become viable with regards to abortions, and instead the induction of the labour (after the intra-uterine killing of the foetus) is the only option?

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 13:54

MyTruthIsOut · 16/06/2023 13:43

I’m sorry for the morbid question, but at what point does suctioning of the womb no longer become viable with regards to abortions, and instead the induction of the labour (after the intra-uterine killing of the foetus) is the only option?

Suction TOP (STOP) are only done routinely between 9-12 weeks gestation.
Before and after that Medical TOP (MTOP) are preferred.

IME, MTOPs are the preferred method overall at most gestations up till 23+6 gestation - its far safer with less risk of complications.

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 13:57

*Should clarify, that MTOPs can be done and are the preferred method from as early as an intra-uterine pregnancy can be confirmed (so about 5 weeks) till 23+6 weeks.

STOPs are pretty rare nowadays IME.

MyTruthIsOut · 16/06/2023 14:00

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 13:54

Suction TOP (STOP) are only done routinely between 9-12 weeks gestation.
Before and after that Medical TOP (MTOP) are preferred.

IME, MTOPs are the preferred method overall at most gestations up till 23+6 gestation - its far safer with less risk of complications.

Thank you for that explanation.

Many, many years ago my sister had a termination at 22 weeks (she was young-ish) and had hidden it from everyone. She took a complete “head in the sand” approach to it because she was so scared. Our dad took her for the procedure and I have never asked her what happened for fear of upsetting her, but now I know she would have had to give birth to the baby it makes me feel really sad to know she went through that.

I’m assuming the babies don’t look nice either if they’d already been dead for some time before being born 😢

It must be so traumatic for people who have late-term abortions (of a much wanted baby) for medical reasons.

FoodCentre · 16/06/2023 14:02

Flowersun6 · 16/06/2023 13:19

@RedRosette2023 excellent point I absolutely agree. I think the posters shouting "pro choice" need to consider this crucial point I don't even think its appropriate to be saying "pro choice" in a situation like this. It's barbaric.

Agree. If this is what pro choice means, then prepare to see more people turn away.

MyTruthIsOut · 16/06/2023 14:02

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 13:57

*Should clarify, that MTOPs can be done and are the preferred method from as early as an intra-uterine pregnancy can be confirmed (so about 5 weeks) till 23+6 weeks.

STOPs are pretty rare nowadays IME.

And with MTOP at what gestation does a women need to be in medical environment for it to be done as opposed to the woman being allowed to miscarry at home after she’s taken the tablets?

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 14:20

MyTruthIsOut · 16/06/2023 14:02

And with MTOP at what gestation does a women need to be in medical environment for it to be done as opposed to the woman being allowed to miscarry at home after she’s taken the tablets?

In my trust its definitely from 11+6, and in practice, usually from 10+1.

MyTruthIsOut · 16/06/2023 14:24

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 14:20

In my trust its definitely from 11+6, and in practice, usually from 10+1.

So do they have to return to the clinic for the second tablet and then just stay there until the miscarriage has happened?

Sorry for all the questions…this thread has made me realise how little I know about the complexities surrounding abortions in terms of what can be done and when and what the processes are.

I had a termination about 20 years ago when I was 10 weeks pregnant and it was done under general anaesthetic, but I suppose back then there weren’t many other options available?

Babyboomtastic · 16/06/2023 14:38

Obviousnamechangeisobvious2 · 16/06/2023 13:54

Suction TOP (STOP) are only done routinely between 9-12 weeks gestation.
Before and after that Medical TOP (MTOP) are preferred.

IME, MTOPs are the preferred method overall at most gestations up till 23+6 gestation - its far safer with less risk of complications.

Do they do do the dismemberment way (I can't remember what it is called)? If so, do they euthanise first?

RedRosette2023 · 16/06/2023 15:29

if were going to discuss dismemberment can we add a trigger warning please?

userunkjdjdjjd · 16/06/2023 16:33

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MakesMeFeelSad · 16/06/2023 16:34

MyTruthIsOut · 16/06/2023 14:00

Thank you for that explanation.

Many, many years ago my sister had a termination at 22 weeks (she was young-ish) and had hidden it from everyone. She took a complete “head in the sand” approach to it because she was so scared. Our dad took her for the procedure and I have never asked her what happened for fear of upsetting her, but now I know she would have had to give birth to the baby it makes me feel really sad to know she went through that.

I’m assuming the babies don’t look nice either if they’d already been dead for some time before being born 😢

It must be so traumatic for people who have late-term abortions (of a much wanted baby) for medical reasons.

I had one at 20 weeks, he just looked like a very small baby but the skin is quite transparent so he was quite dark looking and skinny.

He actually looked very much like one of his brothers facially who was born at 32 weeks

MakesMeFeelSad · 16/06/2023 16:37

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What do you think they do ffs? It can happen with suction apparently but they don't do stops late or much at all now like a pp said

Babyboomtastic · 16/06/2023 16:40

Sure, but its a mainstream method (or used to be I believe) along with the pills,.vacuum or the feticide injection.

Yes it's a physically unpleasant sounding idea, but if people are talking about full term abortions and how they might be performed, are we only allowed to ask about the more palatable methods?

MichelleScarn · 16/06/2023 17:02

JaneNormanBag · 15/06/2023 22:54

As a HCP would you carry out an abortion if the woman had changed her mind at 39 weeks? While the woman’s cervix was dilating? You would kill a baby that was about to be born?

This, also those who think it's OK to kill a baby as its not yet taken a breath, if a baby was (unusual I know) being born breech, would it be OK to kill it while legs and torso were out of the mothers body, but she hadn't yet pushed out the head?

Hollyppp · 16/06/2023 17:54

I had two friends who had miscarries at 20 and 21 weeks. They both had to go into labour and give birth to their babies, no suction

RedRosette2023 · 16/06/2023 18:08

MichelleScarn · 16/06/2023 17:02

This, also those who think it's OK to kill a baby as its not yet taken a breath, if a baby was (unusual I know) being born breech, would it be OK to kill it while legs and torso were out of the mothers body, but she hadn't yet pushed out the head?

I don’t think it’s ok and this wasn’t a thread to discuss abortion methods.

mids2019 · 16/06/2023 18:30

Why has this thread turned from discussing a specific case to discussing abortion in general? The legality of abortion in general is settled and in depth discussion of a abortion method only acts to deter vulnerable women from seeking abortions or shaming then at possibly the lowest part of their lives

I think this is why this rare case should both act as a spring board for pro life advocates to reopen abortion rights in general including gestation thresholds

Itisyourturntowashthebath · 16/06/2023 18:37

@mids2019 because some women on this thread seem to think that you can decide to have a late abortion and just wish a 4lb baby into non-existence.

If anyone wants to discuss late term abortion, the nitty gritty has to be mentioned. Especially those arguing the option needs to exist until the foetus takes a first breath and turns into a baby.

BonnyLassie99 · 16/06/2023 18:41

I think a jail sentence was too harsh, and especially 2 years, maybe they should have given her a suspended sentence and made her go to counselling, I don’t know why she took so long to decide whether to keep the baby or not. There was a man in Moredun who was found with child sexual abuse photographs & he got community service and a fine I think, this was maybe 4 years ago, if anyone should have gotten a sentence in prison then it was the vile man downloading csa photographs.

Just out of interest what sex was the judge that sentenced this woman?

Betsybetty · 16/06/2023 18:54

This, also those who think it's OK to kill a baby as its not yet taken a breath, if a baby was (unusual I know) being born breech, would it be OK to kill it while legs and torso were out of the mothers body, but she hadn't yet pushed out the head?
I asked these exact questions before and none of the can-kill-them-until-full term brigade replied...

MakesMeFeelSad · 16/06/2023 19:22

Babyboomtastic · 16/06/2023 16:40

Sure, but its a mainstream method (or used to be I believe) along with the pills,.vacuum or the feticide injection.

Yes it's a physically unpleasant sounding idea, but if people are talking about full term abortions and how they might be performed, are we only allowed to ask about the more palatable methods?

Years ago in earlier terminations before they started giving people tablets and they did it under general

Pills are now used in earlier tops

Vacuum is what people used to refer to as earlier tops under general suction/Vacuum

The injection they give is in later tops which the majority are due to medical reasons, it's a horrific enough situation to be in as it is, having to terminate for medical reasons. In some cases if its later on they'll inject the heart so the baby isn't born breathing only to die later .

And in cases like mine they don't always because the baby is unlikely to survive the birth at 20 weeks which is what I was

It's OK to go on about only being able to talk about more pallitable methods but if you want to talk about unpalatable ones at least try to be accurate. They'll be people reading this that have gone through it, are going through it and unfortunately will go through it in the future do you want to case more anxiety in women who may have to make these choices in the future ?

Flowersun6 · 16/06/2023 19:24

BonnyLassie99 · 16/06/2023 18:41

I think a jail sentence was too harsh, and especially 2 years, maybe they should have given her a suspended sentence and made her go to counselling, I don’t know why she took so long to decide whether to keep the baby or not. There was a man in Moredun who was found with child sexual abuse photographs & he got community service and a fine I think, this was maybe 4 years ago, if anyone should have gotten a sentence in prison then it was the vile man downloading csa photographs.

Just out of interest what sex was the judge that sentenced this woman?

The judge will have the full picture wheather that was a male or female judge. OP has posted about this particular story.

I think 2 years is the mother getting off lightly she needed to be reprimanded for her actions. Perhaps the judge gave the sentenced because the mother made an informed choice, she also is a mother to 3 other DC you can't honestly expect this woman to walk free and just carry on her day to day life surely? Her actions were calculated and unless she has serious mental health issues it's alarming there's no passing the blame.

CiderWithRosy · 16/06/2023 19:38

I feel deeply unsettled, reading through this thread, at the amount of people who claim to think it would be totally reasonable and acceptable to terminate a viable and healthy pregnancy right up until term. Surely some of these people are trolls? I mean, they wouldn't go round touting this shit in real life? Would they? I don't think I know of anyone who would actually think this? It's just so vile and repugnant.