Did You Really Just Say That?

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Idiot shit people say without think but hurts.

At MIL's for tea, 'D'P loudly pronounces these are the best carrots he's ever had. I cooked this fool carrots at least twice a week. Sure, he probably did find them better than mine but have some tact.

Went to the hairdresser when on maternity leave and she asked what I did - I told her was on ML at the moment and she said how exciting, when are you due...DC was about 4 months old by then 😖

MIL entering the house and exclaiming ooh it's really clean in here for once. I know that makes her sound like a witch but she caught what she'd said the split second after she said it and apologised but still, come on, Lynda!

I've forgiven (but never forgotten...love a good grudge) as they were thoughtless, not malicious.

Anyone else (lighthearted - serious stuff people have done and said that is meant to hurt deserves own thread)?

Yep, once when I was doing some training for work. It was a 3 day course and on the second day the woman (someone I've never met prior to the training) said infront of other people oh my god didn't realise you were expecting, when are you due? I told her I wasn't pregnant and she went crimson and apologised.
Such a thoughtless thing to say

‘How clever you are to find a wedding dress that suits your unusual figure!’

Thanks, step grandma.

Being told how lucky I was to not have kids at Christmas, it must have saved me a fortune.

A mum at the school gates asked "Havent you had that baby yet?!"

I had. About three days earlier! She'd got four children herself so should have known what a post-birth body can look like!

I once went to tell someone, who's boyfriend had cheated on her and dumped her, that she could do so much better and have any man she wanted.

Somehow in my drunken haze I messed it up and told her she would probably go with anyone, and it was no surprise he cheated.

She burst into tears and ran off, and her friend just looked at me and said "What is wrong with you".

She hasn't spoken to me since and it was probably about 20 years ago now 😳

Haha, go with anyone! That reminds me of another one - BIL went to describe his MIL as 'down to earth' but had a brainfart and called her 'common as muck'. We were at a big family do and he had to spend the entire party making sure it didn't get back to her!

I don't get why people risk making pregnancy comments unless they are 100% sure. I had a colleague keep checking it wasn't twins when i was pregnant - i'm sure she was being passive aggressive trying to call me a fatty but I least I was actually pregnant.

Two things that people should never comment on unless they are 100% certain of the facts is remarking on a pregnancy,and assuming that someone who is your partner/friend/spouse is your mother or father! I've witnessed the later with my DD and her husband. He is 11 years older than her,and when she was in a hospital,a doctor said something about him being her dad! My daughter thought it was funny,but her DH was NOT amused.

Went to a pharmacist and the 'girl' at the counter. Instead of just professionally saying are you pregnant, said "I don't mean to be rude but are you pregnant". No love I'm just fat.

On holiday in France, just arrived and realised I was about to run out of supplies of my contraceptive pill. Went to the pharmacy with my nearly empty packet and explained in bad French to the chap behind the counter. ‘But Madame,’ he says, ‘in this country we prescribe these pills to young women who do not want to get pregnant.’
I said nothing, but I guess the look I gave him spoke volumes cos he got the pills pdq.
I was 42.

I went to our local shop a week or two after I’d given birth to one of my DC, along with my newborn DC.

This is a shop I frequently pop into if I only need a couple of things. So I’m fairly familiar with the usual staff members.

The lady on the till saw DC and after asking if the baby was mine, loudly proclaimed that she hadn’t known I was pregnant.

Which would have been fine, if she’d stopped there.
But no. Instead she went on for more than 5 minutes, loudly repeating that she hadn’t realised I was pregnant, she thought I’d just been putting on lots of weight, because I was quite fat to begin with, but look! There’s a baby!

There was quite a queue behind me at the till too. 🙄

My dad took his MIL to minor injuries after she injured her head. Doctor says she needs someone to keep an eye on her and asked if her husband (he meant my dad!) would do it.

Had a guide runner on Tuesday say he once saw someone who "didn't look blind". Whatever that is. I was too shocked to ask what he meant.

ExH at a dinner party at someone else's house
"That's the worst pudding you could have made me,i hate meringue"

I still cringe at this 37 years later.

I had a very lovely and very dippy colleague at work, she was harmless and gentle but dopey.

after another daft episode I said “oh Julie (name changed just in case) if you were a dog you’d be put down”.

I am appalled writing this, she was so upset. My only excuse was I was 20, and didn’t have a filter that came later with maturity.

I told this tale to my adult DD recently and she collapsed on the floor laughing at how tactless it was.

Dear Julie, I am sooooo sorry. Nearly four decades later, if I could go back and retract it I would.

I called DM to tell her I was breaking up with the father of my DCs.
DM: "Oh well, you were always difficult to live with."

Poor Julie! I called a lad hop-a-long on a night out once - he was a friend of a friend so i didn't know him but he was limping and I thought I was being matey - turns out he had mild cerebral palsy. He was sooo lovely about it, which only made me feel worse. I was only 17-18 but it was an important lesson.

@SittingHereInLimbo The stuff aid to me when my marriage broke up could fill a book! All well meaning but brutal:

-He managed to live with you for 5 years so can't have hated you as much as he says.
-Some women can just be very tempting.
-I didn't think you would last anyway (said in a caring tone - gee thanks).
-It never really got off the ground, best to forget about it.
-You have to get past it because you might not meet anyone else.
-At least you have lost a lot of weight, that's a positive!

A work man called at the house and asked if my dad was in. He was. At his house several miles away. Yes there is an age gap but my husband really doesn't look old enough to be mistaken for my dad.

Getting on a busy bus, I could see there were seats further down the aisle but a rather large woman was stood in the way talking to a friend.

I was in quite a lot of pain following an operation and desperately needed a seat. I asked the young woman if she could move down the aisle to let me pass. She refused and told me to get past her.

Now, I blame the pain I was in when I said I would do, but she was too fat and I couldn't get past her. It was true, but surely I could have formulated a more polite way of saying it?

I have 6 children

While pregnant with no6 I was massive-so big some people thought I was having twins

I also went 10 days over

Anyway,I gave birth and within 7 hours I was doing the school run

We popped into the local charity shop on the way back-we knew the ladies who worked there very well-they where all excited for her to be born and I'd taken some gentle teasing about 'keeping that baby all to yourself'

In we walked and they all looked up-one lady (bless her,she was lovely) bustled over and almost shouted 'please tell me your not STILL pregnant!'

I just pointed at the double buggy and burst into tears

I still feel bad as she felt so bad and hadn't tried to ge nasty

The amount of "omg you sure it's not twins!" I got after I lost one of the twins was pretty fucking brutal. (Twin lost in early 2nd trimester so wasnt contributing to pregnancy size)

At baby group the lady I sat next to said "I feel sooooo old, I was 20 last week!!!" I said don't worry love I'm knocking on 40 I mean I could probably pass for a little younger but it was pretty obvious I was a hell of a lot older.

When I went for a laser eye surgery consultation the chap was laying it on thick about how transformative it is. He was wearing glasses so I said "if it's so good why haven't you had it?" Turns out he was very partially sighted and was way off the qualifying criteria otherwise he would've. Ooops.

Told my friend that I was thinking of buying a jumpsuit as they look so comfortable. She straight away said that a friend of hers wears them all the time and loves them, then without thinking she went on to say 'but she's much more...more...she's really tiny...so they look really good on her.' Thank you!

A man in a group of men in a pub offered to buy me a drink (long time ago, I was hot then). I declined (very rare moment in long life). His friend said "do you know that's Pete Tong?".
I said "oh fuck off no one would have a name like that" and flounced off flouncily (and rudely).

Sorry Pete.

My brother, about a new boyfriend I had at the time.

"Wow, you've done well for yourself. He's definitely a 10 out of 10 and you're more like a 5."

I still haven't let it drop, even though it was about 20 years ago and I've long been split up from said boyfriend.

Just home from hospital with my first child & next morning the in laws turn up
"Oh you look tired". No shit Sherlock

Also when pregnant with my second "aren't you getting big"

I don't know why but both comments really bothered me at the time & still annoy me a bit now.

Dying with laughter.. 😂😂 Poor Julie.