Did You Really Just Say That?

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Idiot shit people say without think but hurts.

At MIL's for tea, 'D'P loudly pronounces these are the best carrots he's ever had. I cooked this fool carrots at least twice a week. Sure, he probably did find them better than mine but have some tact.

Went to the hairdresser when on maternity leave and she asked what I did - I told her was on ML at the moment and she said how exciting, when are you due...DC was about 4 months old by then 😖

MIL entering the house and exclaiming ooh it's really clean in here for once. I know that makes her sound like a witch but she caught what she'd said the split second after she said it and apologised but still, come on, Lynda!

I've forgiven (but never forgotten...love a good grudge) as they were thoughtless, not malicious.

Anyone else (lighthearted - serious stuff people have done and said that is meant to hurt deserves own thread)?

Dates *

My Dad has dementia so can get pretty muddled and once left me a message on my phone, thinking he was talking to someone else, describing me as "no spring chicken". Yep, thanks for that!

Overweight colleague had car accident on way to work. Me to her, later that morning: “ah, are you still wobbly?” Cringe 😬

A staff member at my local yarn store said “You knit weird.” I’m a combination knitter. I know she didn’t mean anything by it, she’s a nice person, but it still rankles. She must have seen or heard of combination knitting before, and she’s a Continental knitter herself!

I was with my cousin when she met someone she had worked with . The woman said Oh I remember you , you used to be lovely.

I did a master's degree when I was in my 30s. One of the other students said to me several times "you're so brave doing this at your age"

A Shop assistant thought my husband was my son. (He’s older than me). fuck her.

When I was in my late teens my dad gave me and some of my friends a lift. He asked one (very overweight) friend to sit in the front with him, she looked pleased, he then went on to explain that this was because of weight distribution in the car. She looked like thunder and I could have died from embarrassment.

At uni, one of the students always went up to the guest lecturers for a chat to schmooze after every single lecture. He asked one lecturer when her baby was due, she said four months ago. Ouch!

The best carrots comment chimed with me because when DS cooks for us DH used to go on and on about how good it was ("restaurant quality") really raving about it, and it made me feel crap as I always think "yes not like the shit I usually have to eat!". We had a heated discussion and he has stopped doing it now or not in my hearing anyway. I'm really happy when DS cooks and compliment him BTW. DH rarely cooks from choice (ours) as he is not a good cook.

I was in a hospital waiting room when a man came in and was looking around for someone so I said "I think your wife has just gone in". He looked crestfallen and mumbled thanks. I thought, shit, that's his mum. TBF I didn't have a good look at her and he looked around late 60s.

My Mum at my first wedding dress fitting: "I was your size when I was your age"

Basically before she lost a couple of stone!

Getting my hair put up for my wedding, stylist asks who is doing my make up. I told her I'd already done it. She didn't know how to answer that.

My Mum died in May and her funeral was on Friday morning, all went well and in the late afternoon I was tidying up bits when the doorbell rang. I went to answer it and there was a woman there in her early 20s with a clipboard, accompanied by a young man of similar age.

The woman asked if I could help her with a survey about starving children, I said I was sorry but I had just had my Mum's funeral that morning and really could not concentrate on anything. As they walked down the path the woman said, obviously loud enough for me to hear 'people will make up any old thing rather than give to charity'.

I so wanted to give her a copy of the Order of Service but just laughed instead!

BIL (DH's sister's husband) said during a meal 'I think we all know X is the best cook here anyway'. Fine by me. She can cook all the time! He's known for these pearlers though - 'Here's a book on investing, I thought you might need it'. I responded No, thanks, I'd been investing for 20 years and didn't need a book.

In a shop and my DD7 handed over her purchase. Shop keeper said 'ohhhh ánd is this grandma or mum? I'm not that old and certainly don't look it. Anyway, the look I shot her, and 'Excuse me?' shut her up really quickly.

On the other side of it, I'm only 5"1', and a bloke came to the front door, saw me through the screen a few meters away and spoke to me like I was a young child and said 'Hello there, is your mummy home?'

Omg!!🙈🙈🙈

Vile. Especially the dippy woman put down if you were a dog comment.

My MIL was very upset her son was marrying me, and has no filter (not bashing, we get on v.well now and she thinks I'm great, she just didn't at the beginning).
DH is a vet, I was a v.nurse for context. DH to MIL after announcing our engagement, 'Cant you just be happy for us? Bananabedhead's mum is,' MIL, ' Of course she's happy, she's getting a vet'
On our bright kids, soothingly to me, 'I'm sure they don't get all their intelligence from their father, you mustn't think that', ( I didn't).
Defending me to my DH, ' you mustn't think Bananabedhead's stupid, she's got a degree you know' (he didn't think I was, he knew, and hadn't said anything to prompt this comment!).
For the first few years of marriage she insisted on introducing me as, 'This is DH's wife, she's a vet nurse but she's got a degree you know', all in one long sentence.

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I had covid really bad was in hospital over a month and nearly died but the amount of people afterwards who asked if I had underlying health conditions and when I answered yes replied that's alright then. 😲

Oh and another MIL one, 'I always knew DH would marry someone pretty, that's always been the only thing that mattered to him'.

Interestingly now I work in education, we've been married 23 years and I am fat and grey she is constantly telling me how lucky DH is to have me because he doesn't deserve me! If I leave him I'm to throw him out and take him for all he's got! (No plans to currently)

talking with SDD about holidays/ luggage, she said to me. “ I don’t suppose you can travel light because your clothes are so big”

At a small family dinner, my cousin (7 yrs older than me) piped up that I should find a boyfriend because I 'wouldn't always be eligible'. I was 23. 😳

I met my delightful DP when I was 40. Guess I was still 'eligible'?

My vile BIL had the decency to tell me my husband 'doesn't seem very excited' when we announced my pregnancy after having 2 recent miscarriages.

Don't think I will ever forgive the spiteful C*nt

My MIL, a really polite and kind woman, was a martyr to her very thin, very straight hair. She had it ‘done’ once a week and between visits was forever spraying it a tweeting it to look voluminous.

I was deep in chemo and between hospital stays DH & I went round to see MIL. I was wearing my NHS wig.

Sitting chatting , about her hair, MIL looked at me and said ‘you are so lucky, your hair always sits so perfectly ‘ 🤷🏻‍♀️

😂😂Bless her even when reminded she couldn’t really understand what she’d said …

I was working in a new job where I didn’t really know anyone very well. I have really fine hair and had put it up in a ponytail so it wasn’t looking it’s best but I wasn’t really expecting anyone to look that closely. A colleague asked me to help her with something and kept staring at my head then eventually asked if I had alopecia. I said “no my hair is just thin”. Then she said “really? Because it looks like alopecia.” She wouldn’t drop it either it took ages for her to get the message to shut up about it

Fucking rude bitch. I did what I needed to do for her then never spoke to her again. People always say to you “don’t worry nobody will notice or say anything” but this thread is proof that’s not the case!

DH and I got engaged quite quickly and moved in together. It was about 18m from our first date to our wedding (and is our 15th anniversary next month). When we announced we were expecting our first, DH's brother said, "I really hope it all goes well for you this time, Captain." When I asked what he meant by 'this time', he said, "You know, because you lost the first one." Turns out he had assumed his brother was only marrying me because I was pregnant. Pillock.