Did You Really Just Say That?

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Idiot shit people say without think but hurts.

At MIL's for tea, 'D'P loudly pronounces these are the best carrots he's ever had. I cooked this fool carrots at least twice a week. Sure, he probably did find them better than mine but have some tact.

Went to the hairdresser when on maternity leave and she asked what I did - I told her was on ML at the moment and she said how exciting, when are you due...DC was about 4 months old by then 😖

MIL entering the house and exclaiming ooh it's really clean in here for once. I know that makes her sound like a witch but she caught what she'd said the split second after she said it and apologised but still, come on, Lynda!

I've forgiven (but never forgotten...love a good grudge) as they were thoughtless, not malicious.

Anyone else (lighthearted - serious stuff people have done and said that is meant to hurt deserves own thread)?

The first time I met friend of then bf we had a few drinks and were telling jokes . Said friend was telling a joke and I was laughing heartily, thinking the stammering was part of the joke. It wasn't 😳
I apologised ......

Shortly after my husband died I was in the supermarket and saw one of his friends mum
She said "oh you don't look as bad as what people are saying" 😐

This is a wonderful thread and I needed a giggle today, thank you.

My contribution - a mid-twenties bloke on my team in a city job, butting into the conversation where I was showing my colleagues photos from the wedding I'd been chief bridesmaid at during my week off.

Him: "so hilariousnamehere, looks like a really fun wedding, what's it like being the fat bridesmaid?"

Team PA literally said "did you actually just say that out loud you knob" which made me laugh. I'm size 16-18, the other bridesmaids and the bride were 8-10s, I have no problem with this and neither did my gorgeous friend who was the bride, but who says that out loud?!

The following Monday, him, having been roundly rejected again by his Friday night date: "I don't get why I never get past the second date with anyone, what am I doing wrong?"

The entire team just rolled their eyes and called him a knob again but it still makes me laugh 15 or so years later - I wonder if he ever figured out he was an idiot with no filter?

As a teenager, talking with my sister about what sort of man we'd like to marry one day, my brother (5 years younger) looked at us in genuine bewilderment, without a hint of malice, and said, "Who would ever want to marry you guys?"
One of the builders renovating the hospital ward I was working on pulled me aside one day to ask me a question. I thought it was going to be about something clinical on the ward, but he said, "How come you got so much grey hair when you're so young?"
Dippy old friend of DM's asked me if I was pregnant, then, when I said no, looked me up and down sceptically and said, "Are you sure?"

I was one of two bridesmaids to a friend.

The other bridesmaid told me she'd had a dream the previous night where she'd put her dress on but it felt like a tent and it turned out she'd put mine on by mistake.

The first one surely was sympathy?!

SIL visited the same day I’d had c-section (after long complicated stay in hospital), looked at at me and said “Are you sure you’ve had it, you’re still huge”

In 1990s told my old-fashioned mum about how my boss was sexually harassing me. Her reply was “Oh he can’t be, he’s a Professor”.

You've saved me from starting a thread!

Some colleagues were heading out to an event after work today so were dressed up - make up, heels, fancy

One colleague was dressed up so I asked if he was heading out to the event. 'No I always dress like this' was his response - it was just said in just a mean & serious way, in front of other others that I was lost for words & embarrassed and am now thinking of all the smart responses I should have said.

This was about 20 years ago, I was just getting over being utterly heartbroken when my first serious boyfriend had left me. I decided to try online dating and was telling my mum about a guy I'd been messaging who seemed nice. She seemed disapproving so I asked her what was wrong and she told me "only utterly desperate people would advertise themselves on the internet". To this day I don't know whether she was referring to him or me.

Me , childless at the time said to my sister, after she’d given birth to her third child. “Good job you kept your maternity clothes, you look like you still need them”
Why I said it I don’t know, but as soon as the words left my mouth I instantly regretted saying it. She didn’t say anything but her face said it all, she looked crestfallen.
She got her own back after I had my first, “Not so taut now eh” I deserved it.

An acquaintance (she's a friend now!) when we saw her at a party said to DD who is 17yo "it's good to see you out with your husband but isn't your friend feeling left out?" My DDs 'husband' is her dad and my DH and I was the friend she was referring to 😂

We couldn't figure out if she meant that 17yo DD looks 40 or I look young enough to be her friend but as DH is greying and receding hairline etc I'm thinking the former 😂 DD was entirely unamused and our now friend was mortified haha

Three pregnancy related ones:

Six months pregnant walking around a pharmacy in California. A man comes up to me and says " Please tell me it's twins, you must be having twins at your size." The woman he was with was mortified and giving him the death stare.

Day or so after my c-section I went down stairs to the hospital shop to get a "tummy trainer/ support girdle thing to help me recover. The woman in the gift shop said " You should come back after the birth so we can fit you with the right size" I said " I've already had the baby".

Three months pregnant with my first I was at my PILs house and a friend of the family remarked on how I was already showing. MIL then barked out " Spybot had a stomach in the first place".

It's lucky I'm not particularly sensitive!!

Someone used me as a point of reference for size too. Can't they hear themselves?!

A relative atmy dm'sfuneral-

youve put on a lot of weight havent you-yeah cos thats what i really need right now

someone in a shop when me and dh were out together-oh thats nice you taking your dad out

When I was 16 I developed severe alopecia and I summoned the courage to see the hairdresser to get a trim and tidy of what I had left. The hairdresser began by running her fingers through my strands and exclaiming loudly "Oh my God, I can't get over how thin your hair is". I stopped going to hairdressers and started shaving my head at home 😊 I hope Bev has developed some tact by now because for a 16 year old, that was soul destroying.

I was at the town Christmas market when I saw a guy shivery and shaking at a stall. It was early evening, dark and freezing. Poor guy must be cold I thought, and he's stuck on the stall. I was full of Christmas spirit.

I go up and say 'hi, you look really cold, would you like a coffee or something?'

He said 'thanks love, but I'm not cold, I've got Parkinson's'

I'm mortified, but do manage to say

'ah ok, I'm sorry. Would you like that coffee anyway'

He declines, and we go on our business, whilst I wish a large hole would open up and swallow me.

'You are definitely the woman in the relationship', said by many. We are both men 😂

I was chatting with a friend the other day about my daughter’s hair and saying how lovely it is. She said, “She gets it from her father, right?”

Yesterday the owner of a local shop and I got talking about my son. He's been surprised to see me with a toddler, so I finally explained that we adopted my son just over 4 months ago. He sort of grimaced, and said, "So he's not really yours then?" I'm ashamed to say that the shock of it meant I was overly polite, but I won't be using that shop again.

I was about 40, 4 months pregnant in the maternity hospital coffee shop.

woman next to me says, “I’m here with my daughter, is your daughter having a baby too?”

That's awful but hilariously so!

I'm so glad you have your son, and that he has his patents.

*parents ffs

Day before my wedding when you probably want to look the best you ever have. Went for a spray tan and was told to wear baggy clothes so they didn't ruin the tan on my way home.

Wore a smock thing. She said I must be so excited as I'm obviously due soon.

I felt like absolute shit my whole wedding day because I thought I must look heavily pregnant.

Unless you see a baby coming out, don't ever comment about due dares.