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What random/less obvious things do you find attractive in someone?

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sunshinethrough · 07/06/2023 15:55

I don’t mean weird stuff; I just mean little things that make you notice someone you might not have noticed before in a “ooh, that’s hot!” kind of way.

Talking with a friend earlier about this - hers was someone being able to speak another language fluently, mine was someone who has a hidden talent they are modest/low key about (bonus points if it’s playing a musical instrument!)

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HarpyValley · 07/06/2023 20:42

I fell definitively for my now-DH when he missed his bus home because he insisted on freeing a blackbird that had got trapped upside down on some wire caught on a tree branch.

BCSurvivor · 07/06/2023 20:42

Calf muscles - my postie has lovely legs!

BCBird · 07/06/2023 20:45

Nice biceps and forearms- not as a result of gym work.but from.manual.labour. Nice big bald head. Being kind to.animals

Heddaga · 07/06/2023 20:52

Thighs

LindorDoubleChoc · 07/06/2023 20:54

Robust mental health and a glass half full attitude. That is my biggest attraction to anyone male, female, any age.

MyMachineAndMe · 07/06/2023 21:06

Nice, strong hands. Chest hair and stubble. A nice but not perfect smile - I'm not talking about missing, rotten or loose teeth but natural teeth rather than the perfect Hollywood smile is nice. A bloke who is not afraid to cuddle his mum, his friends, his dc and, of course, me in public. A man who can laugh and be silly and doesn't take life too seriously.

Clafoutie · 07/06/2023 21:17

Spanielsarepainless · 07/06/2023 18:24

Nice shoulders and forearms.
I find rolled-up shirtsleeves very erotic, but not short sleeves.

Ha, yes, that is so true. Funny, when you think about it!

Thighdentitycrisis · 07/06/2023 21:46

Perfume

MakeMineADouble81 · 07/06/2023 21:53

I weirdly find it attractive when a man wears a watch.

Nottodaysausage · 07/06/2023 21:58

Beautiful manners mixed with a filthy sense of humour. Gorgeous 😍

BarelyLiterate · 07/06/2023 22:11

Intelligence. I have never found thickos to be even slightly attractive, irrespective of their physical appearance. For example, I don’t watch Love Island, but I’m aware of what the young men look like and unless there was something going on between their ears, I wouldn’t be interested.

SaveMeFromForearms · 07/06/2023 22:16

A really good man that you suspect you can turn bad.

Sunbeam18 · 07/06/2023 22:17

Able to sail a boat; well informed about current affairs

IWasFunBeforeMum · 07/06/2023 22:19

If they can parallel park 😂

mrlistersgelfbride · 07/06/2023 22:21

Manners, nice arms, hidden tattoos.
Accent : Scottish or North East.

Pieceofpurplesky · 07/06/2023 23:25

Conversation and laughter. And hair. Must have hair (quite fond of a hairy chest)

DidyouNO · 07/06/2023 23:27

My now husband plays guitar and bass. Didn't know that was hot but it really, really is!!

NashvilleQueen · 07/06/2023 23:30

Running a hand through the front of their hair during conversation. Especially if the hair is a bit like the Tommy Shelby type of cut. So longer on top but not long iyswim. Oddly specific.

sunshinethrough · 08/06/2023 09:36

Interesting points about not taking themselves too seriously - I think a lot of men really want to be taken seriously so this can be quite a rare gem of an attractive trait!

Also agree about looking openly pleased to see me, something about that lack of self consciousness is appealing!

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