Help me get over a f*ckboy

[SingleMumHelpMePlease]

So my husband left me about 2 years ago. I've been seeing someone for a few months. I won't lie all the f*ckboy signs were there. But nether the less I fell for him. Totally and utterly. And today it hit me, that he really doesn't give a shit.

I feel awful, but need to be strong and cut him off for good.

Do I message him ti say I am done? Or just stop messaging?

Any tips for distractions? I have young children so my ideals (going for a run whenever I feel like it) are not always possible.

Feeling incredibly fragile so please be kind.

Thanks.

cool things, not cook. Don’t be available, don’t make arrangements. If you want to end things formally, he doesn’t deserve an apology or explanation because of his disrespect ((women are always taught to be nicely regardless), you could just say you’re moving on. PS Do you think he would respond to this nastily, if so, maybe best just to withdraw with a random reason eg busy got a lot on, which is obviously an excuse and two fingers up whilst remaining superficially polite!

Do something new to help you move on. Something that has no memory or link to him. Change your hair colour or style. Treat yourself to a new vibrator. Count your lucky stars you realised he wasn't a keeper.

It will get easier in time.

I can understand why this has upset you as much as the ending of your marriage. You had a rough time with your marriage and thought this was a different thing altogether, thought you were going to be respected, marry him, etc. Of course, now it's all gone belly up and all those hopes and dreams have gone as well. I would just not get in touch with him again. If you feel that you might weaken if he contacts you, then block him.

This happened me a few years back. I feel for you.

So I messaged him just saying goodbye. I got a lukewarm reply saying goodbye back. This was for my closure rather than his.

I feel so flat but can move forwards now.

Thank you all

I think your goodbye message was perfect, short and simple, no explanation necessary.

I expect you’re still feeling bruised. So be sweet to yourself.

But most of all as you say you can start moving on now.