Why do so many brides continue to wear veils at their wedding?

[Houseplantmad]

Seems a bit weird and antiquated in this day and age ie being “revealed” to a prospective husband at the alter, having been “given away” by your father. Why do so many women continue with it?
in fact, so much of traditional wedding rites are just plain odd in this day and age.

Because they can wear what they like. Which is a good thing.

Because they’re so pretty! I had a fingertip veil which was attached with a clip in my hair, so it never went over my face. I loved it!

There are few opportunities in life to wear some gorgeous gauzy shit over your face so you can looking soft-focus fucking fabulous in front of all your friends and family so OMG I am going to embrace that hard.
Sad face next time will be at a funeral but I’m gonna get me some black net and work that veil look.

I didn’t wear a veil or get walked down the aisle, and it was for the same reasons you suggest, OP. I also didn’t take my husband’s name or become a Mrs. In fact, I didn’t even wear white.

We did get married in a church though, for my husband’s sake. We all pick what we can tolerate and what we can’t as modern women, though I do like to see us being questioning (and critical) of traditions.

They're not my style and I didn't wear one for my own wedding, but they do look gorgeous on most brides. To each their own 🤷‍♀️

But why did you want him to? That’s something I don’t understand. What did it mean to you to have your dad walk you down the aisle? Why not your mum? Why not on your own as an independent adult woman? Genuinely interested.

Because I did and because it's tradtional
You don't have to agree but so what?
And I have always got on better with my Dad than my mum
We have more in common
Basically it comes down to Individual choice doesn't it ?

'Genuinely' interested 😂😂

Of course it comes down to individual choices. You obviously aren’t the sort of weirdo that likes the whole simpering damsel thing. Hopefully someone else will come along and explain why it’s such a turn on for them to be passed from daddy to husband like an asset.

I know, I’m at it 😜

Oh my God, you thought it was a kink to get the bride off???

I can only imagine how much more boring weddings will become for you once someone assuages your genuine interest. You probably won't go any more!

God knows, I don't know why fathers still "give" brides away either or take the husbands second names.
I'm having none of it. It makes me feel as if women are just still property.

They look pretty.

They can be used to make a train without the weight of the dress and you can take it off to dance.

If you have a low cut, backless or a dress with no sleeves it can cover your flesh in church, if you are marrying in church.

I was brought up lapsed RC, I can't remember when all women had to cover their heads but I do remember a lot of older women wearing a mantilla in church.

So I suppose up until the 1980s you were expected to cover your head in church so it ight as well be a veil.

It used to be tradition to be able to beat your wife also. It doesn't mean we still have to do it.

That's a very strange comparison to optional headwear.

Because it would look odd wearing them to the supermarket! I think it's just fun tradition if you want to and no one has to.

I was about to answer cos they look pretty with some dresses and when else can you etc etc

Your Dad lifting the veil though.. I think you crossed the line there PP 😁 a leetle bit oddd

Sorry this made me laugh. I bloody love a cape too!
OP I don't think people wear it for the reason it was once worn. Just like they don't wear a white dress for the reason they were then worn. Veils are so pretty when done right.

Whoa there. I don't think it was tradition as much as domestic violence was common. Lots of men didn't beat their wives.

Hopefully someone else will come along and explain why it’s such a turn on for them to be passed from daddy to husband

A turn on 😂😂

I wasn't walked down the aisle (DH and I walked down together) but I've never thought anyone who was was doing it as a turn on.

We know where the white thing originally comes from, just as well as we know very few women marry as virgins these days. The ones who marry in white dresses with their kids present are certainly not trying to fool anyone.But over time, it's become an aesthetic that we in this part of the world associate with weddings. A veil makes many women feel "bridey" because of the associations, as well as the fact that they're very pretty and we don't wear them much here. Just as brides wear red in India and China. We see a woman in a white dress and veil nowadays and think "bride". Not "virgin". Not all women want to do this and that's fine too.

Nobodies forcing anyone to do anything though are they?
some people like tradition,s others don't that s fine.
just accept that people enjoy different things to yourself.

A turn on? You think a father walks their daughter down the aisle as a turn on? I've never in my life heard this. You must be on some strange depths of Reddit.

Honestly. I thought I'd heard it all! Good thing women can't get boners, otherwise this poster would be a bit embarrassing at weddings.

You're right, of course, he's not wearing a veil or wedding dress.should I ask for a refund? 😂

My soon to be husband is my equal. He doesn't need to embrace any wedding traditions for me to know that. But let me tell you about some of the ways he does show up for me.

Three months after he proposed, he had to drive 40 miles every day to our local hospital to see me for an hour because I became seriously ill with a life-threatening condition. He often worked from his car to be nearby. He made me nice things to eat, bought me fresh clothing every day, and chased down doctors when the IV morphine was needed, which was often.

When I was made redundant from a high status job, some years back, he picked up the financial burden, he never complained, and encouraged me when I retrained. I'll probably never earn as much again and frankly, that was hard to deal with. He's never made me feel inadequate.

He relocated to be with me. And made the effort to make his own friends and get involved with our local community.

He's paid for the whole wedding because I dont have the funds or family - mostly NC. And, even though its his second marriage and my first, he's just as enthusiastic to celebrate with all those we love. We've chosen everything together and had a lot of fun doing so.

He's been my best friend, my advocate, my trusted other for well over a decade. Soon, we will both wear rings to symbolise a legal commitment to each other, although that commitment already exists.

I'm sad for you that you find this all so joyless.

And THANK YOU, we will have a lovely day!

And to everyone else: apologies for the slight derail.