Why do so many brides continue to wear veils at their wedding?

[Houseplantmad]

Seems a bit weird and antiquated in this day and age ie being “revealed” to a prospective husband at the alter, having been “given away” by your father. Why do so many women continue with it?
in fact, so much of traditional wedding rites are just plain odd in this day and age.

Unveiled! I know what you mean. Poor Jacob. He got Rachel in the end. Like Ross.

I will defend to the death everybody's right to wear whatever they like, it affects me not at all. But some insight and analysis as to why you find what is the epitomine of impractical garments " beautiful" wouldn't go amiss. Some bridal gown are so enormous that the bride can't even go the toliet unaided !

No man would ever wear something that disabled him so fundamentally, why this is seen as aspirational needs thinking about. The fundamental message is that on arguably one of the most seismic days of their life women's role is one of essentially useless beauty needs unpicking.

Love a veil! But think the dad giving the bride away is creepy as fuck. Some women seem to like this idea of being this helpless piece of property who is passed from one man to another. There’s something psychosexual about it!

Most wedding traditions are rooted in misogyny or ancient superstition though, and I am definitely a huge hypocrite as I like a lot of them.

As for wanting to be a princess, marriage is a serious life long commitment akin to buying a house or a business.

Why not dress as a grown-up to make this very grown-up decision ? Because at not other time except perhaps very old fashioned balls do adult women dress this way. It is odd.

Or maybe they like tradition or giving their children a shared family name to reinforce their perception of being a secure family unit

Haha like a big butterfly net! Cute 🤭

But some insight and analysis as to why you find what is the epitomine of impractical garments " beautiful" wouldn't go amiss.

It isn't supposed to be practical, it's supposed to be beautiful.

If you don't understand the difference, I don't think there's any insight or analysis that can help you.

Seemed pretty succinct spot on to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

We get it. You think it's odd. No need to continually repeat it.

Valid reasons! We should be doing more as a society to look cool and dramatic!

It's nothing to do with being a princess. All cultures have traditional wedding attire and this is ours. Yes, we know where it comes from originally but the same goes for men and women have buttons on different sides. Nobody cares except people with superiority complexes.

If you don't want to wear it, then don't. I wore a dupatta over my head at an Indian event once. Is that objectionable?

People asked me to explain why I have explained. Others have basically said
" don't be so mean I want to look pretty"
I am saying fine wear what the hell you like, but don't do it unthinkingly.

The thing is there is a lot of pressure to do this stuff at weddings because it's expected, even though a lot of it is patriarchal bulls*.

We chose to break a lot of traditions, purely because me and my husband wanted equality from the start. That shouldn't be a strange thing to want in this day and age - so there was no being given away, no veil, no walking up the aisle - nothing like that at all.

The number of questions and raised eyebrows we got was quite shocking. It felt like an uphill battle with some family members in the lead up and I actually felt somewhat demeaned by their attitudes to how I/ my husband should be behaving on our wedding day.

It's frankly a complete pain how ingrained these expectations are in people, and it made me question whether we were even doing the right thing to get married at all.

It's not as simple as 'do what you want and stop judging others'. When you plan a wedding you come up against a whole host of societal expectations and judgement and it's very problematic.

Traditional is relative, it is a Victorian invention.

Women wore their best dress. Queen Victoria started the white tradition.

I had one. I thought about not but tried a couple on in the shop and loved them. Felt like a "real" bride. I'm a feminist. Wasn't given away. Didn't change my name or use the title Mrs. Didn't give up career to have children. But I did want the white gown and veil because I thought they were beautiful and it was my only real chance to wear them. No regrets and I couldn't care less if anyone thinks I'm "odd". I am quite odd in lots of ways actually, odd and proud!

Traditions didn't exist before Victorians?

Now I know you're on a wind up. Pro tip: the idea is to get everyone else to expect the energy. When you're the one all over it like a rash, it's a fail.

Or from 1994
https://clip.cafe/four-weddings-a-funeral-1994/she-looks-like-a-big-meringue/

https://www.contrado.co.uk/blog/history-white-wedding-dresses-changed-world/

I tried a veil and it looked nice. It really is as simple as that
I didn’t change my surname , so I suppose
I have retained some of my feminist credentials.

Ha ha. Me too

I will defend to the death everybody's right to wear whatever they like
As long as you get to judge against your own, obviously superior, criteria. Pathetic.

Reflecting and I will shortly piss off to everyone's relief, I think it was probably 1981 which really started the big white dress, veil thing.

But absolutely nothing to do with princesses.

If you think the symbolism of veils is outdated, the whole bridal thing is ludicrous too. A virginal white dress, being ‘given away’, changing your name on marriage to that of your husband…

Personally, I really hate veils, but purely for how they look and not what they symbolise.

It’ll surprise you to know that the men (both young and the second timers) are driving the enquiries, booking and organisation of weddings, not women. This may or may not be connected to the fact that the men are seriously punching too!