What would you do if you were DH?

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DH is an over thinker and getting in a muddle about a job offer. He works in a profession and is currently on £61k. His current work have been stringing him along for almost a year saying he will be promoted ‘soon’ and he’s been doing a number of the senior positions tasks already. He has been approached by another (good!) company and following interview offered a job. Which would you choose:

Job A- new company, next jump on professional ladder, good salary £70k + 8% yearly bonus. He would be a senior role in a smaller team so could move up the ladder faster, also offices abroad to potential for working abroad. Potentially longer hours as more senior.

Job B- current job. Been there 6 years and likes it, nice company which promotes wellbeing. When he informed them of job offer seemed very keen to keep him, said ‘would try to come close’ to offer. Sounds like won’t offer quite the same role (director) but a pared back version of that. DH is worried he’s only finally getting this promotion in a sense due to having a better offer rather than them actually wanting to give it. Financially it’ll be around £67k he thinks. No bonus.

I think Job A- his current work have taken advantage of him imo and are doing the bare minimum to keep him, it’s a good professional opportunity which I think he’d be gutted if he misses. He’s not one for change so I’m hoping others opinions might encourage him!

The advice is to never stay because of a counter offer.

They should have given it earlier than he looked elsewhere.

Definitely job A, if he has gone to the trouble of going through the interview process then he is ready to leave. He shouldn’t let the current company string him along any longer. Sounds similar to my industry and this is what always happens and in my experience he could always return to company B in future having proved that he is not a person to be taken advantage of.

take the new job without a doubt... if his current firm wanted him they could/would make it happen

if they want him back in the future they would have to have a better offer..

I would definitely move in his shoes. More exposure and experience. Will look good on his cv

Job A! His old job haven't been proactive enough about trying to keep him.

Job A for sure. If his current employers actually valued him they’d have promoted him instead of taking the piss and stringing him along. No one likes change but we do like to be valued at work!

Job A.

What's making him hesitate?

Definitely A. 100%. Current employer won't want to lose him (he's a good employee - they don't want the costs and hassle of finding a replacement ) but they also won't properly promote him. If you truly want to move up you absolutely go to a new firm and take the step up. They have a vacancy they couldn't fill internally & they found your DH! Yep, don't be afraid to jump ship & get paid what you are worth. In my opinion it's very much worth changing employer at least a few times during your career & putting in a decent stint each time, whilst establishing your reputation, but there comes a time when to get the significant pay rise & promotion you have to move. Also - he's going to have more / different experience at the new place rather than more of the same where he is.

Job A. Job A seems to have so many advantages and they proactively want him, whereas his current job seem to be just content with using him but not rewarding him for his talents. he needs to remember who wants him - and not give in to imposter syndrome or fear of change. Know his own worth!

Job A - a large proportion of people leaving within a year of a counter offer being accepted anyway.

His frustrations with his current role won’t go away because he’s paid more.

Take job A

Im not convinced that current job company is especially nice and into wellbeing. They seem to talk the talk but be good at stringing employees along which is neither nice nor good for wellbeing of mental health.

Job B. I don’t change jobs unless it’s a minimum 20% increase in salary. It’s not worth a new commute, new job, new colleagues and more hours for only an extra £3k (assuming Job A gives him that £6k raise).

Change can be scary but he is not valued where he is. If he was, they'd match the other offer and promote. They haven't and they won't. He's just a cog in the wheel to them.

He should definitely move on.

Fast forward a year, which job does he think he'll be happiest in?

Job A. If his current place meant it, they'd have done it years ago - they just want him to burn his bridges with a new employer by turning the better role down.

@NeverDropYourMooncup thats my concern.

@AP5Diva the commute is the same and with the bonus as well the difference is more like 10k so worth it.

To me it’s not the money- it’s valuing him. And career progression.

My friend is very successful - CFO of an international company. She told me the only people who get big salary increases are those that move job - she has moved a lot, each time a significant Jump in salary and promotion.

Your DH needs to move company to progress his career.

Definitely A, his current employer are taking the p*ss. As it's better money and same commute it's worth taking the chance!

I dunno- he’s too loyal! He likes his company and since he’s had this offer they’ve fallen over themselves to say how much he’s valued but it’s just words isn’t it.

If they valued him he wouldn’t of needed to apply elsewhere 🤷‍♀️
don’t settle and stay

He should be asking for a counter offer and giving them a deadline.

This. Take the new job.

He has. They’ve asked if they can have until next week. I think he might accept the other offer in the meantime. I feel sad as it’s making a positive thing (promotion) really stressful for him!

since he’s had this offer they’ve fallen over themselves to say how much he’s valued

Crucial words there, OP - since he's had this offer. Not so bothered when they had their loyal employee, were they?

@MrsDanversGlidesAgain completely agree!!