Compliments that have stayed with you

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Inspired by the insults that have stayed with you thread -

Because, even though I remember insults too, I've been practising collecting compliments to try and let the insults go!

What compliment made a massive difference to you and kept you going?

That I was born to do my job. Said to me by a new father (I'm a midwife) and I had just returned after a career break due to burnout from the profession. I'll never forget it as its just what I needed to hear.

You are, literally, the best mother ever.

@USaYwHatNow that's lovely - sometimes just a little comment which feels small to the person giving it can make all the difference!

Someone once told me I was hilarious, and compared my humour to that of Victoria Wood.

If we hadn't both been happily married to other people I'd have proposed on the spot.

My youngest once told me that if he was Santa I'd be on the nice list every year. Really tickled me.

Lovely thread 🙂

I worked on reception, and a member of staff was showing someone new around and introduced me saying "You met Bats when you arrived, it's like being greeted by sunshine, isn't it?" Such a lovely thing to say, made my day.

Thank you for saving my daughters life. Just thank you.

"You're very vibrant, for someone who doesn't do anything" 😂Half of that is definitely true!

I was told by a member of very disgruntled staff who was leaving that I was the only one who’d really supported her, thanked her at the end of every shift and checked she was ok. I was completely taken aback in fact I laughed (a stressed maniacal laugh) when she said it I was unaware that I did this! After leaving she sent me a card saying what a great nurse/role model Id been to her. To this day I still wonder if she was delusional.
Assuming she’s not delusional I was quietly over the moon I’d put myself 150% into the role and wanted amongst other things to be the excellent role model to junior staff that I’d had when I was starting on my career.

When our daughter was 15 I overheard her saying to one of her mate's on the phone that I was the kindest person she knows. Which was quite something as she was without doubt the moodiest and most rebellious of our kids and would probably rather have died than actually said that to my face.

Loving these! I especially like the ones that come when you've really underestimated yourself in a certain role - like @tiredwardsister highly doubt she was delusional - for her to go out of her way to say it, AND send a card after, you really must have made a difference to her :)

I remember when I was 19 I was talking to a (male) friend of my then boyfriend about some troubles in his relationship and he told me I was 'so wise'. I was incredibly flattered and I feel like it did my self esteem some real good (and my self esteem sucks so any help is great!)

That I'm a good driver, by my partner. For some reason it has meant more to me than any compliments about my looks!

My fiance told me just after he proposed that i had made his life infinitely better. He tells me regularly that im a lovely person.

A co-worker when i was promoted, told me i should be really proud of myself for doing so well and climbing so quckly. I was in the throes of an emotionally abusive relationship (exh) and to hear someone acknowledge my success came so out of the blue. It really helped me realise what i wasnt and should be getting at home.

At a busy bar once, queuing for a drink. A man in front of me turned around and we were face to face for a second. He blurted out 'well you're very attractive' and then went on his way. Again so out of the blue and i think stuck with me as there was no agenda behind it.

The speaker voice at the McDonald’s drive through complimented me on my ordering skills!

that I am the least materialistic person they have ever known

I moved jobs recently and one of my team said I was not only a great manager but a super human being. That made me cry a little but in a nice way. I felt very valued.

On leaving a very stressful job a senior colleague emailed me to say that that i was the reason for the wonderful atmosphere the company claimed to enjoy!

i am not wording it as well as he did but it made my day and i still think about it.

It's probably very shallow of me that this one has stuck with me so long, but I was at work about seven years ago, just working and doing my thing, and a guy got my attention and said "darling, your hair is a sensation".

Still gives me a big goofy grin to remember it today.

These are lovely to read.

A man at a carwash place once said his colleague had guaranteed I'd come back and pay "because I had an honest face". I quite liked that.

Also someone I worked alongside who I thought always thought I was a waste of space put a really lovely message in my leaving card about how she valued working with me. It was 20 years ago so it must've hit home!

Gay guy at a wedding told me l looked fabulous!
I was thrilled to bits as he was immaculately dressed also!

At a career fair a lovely woman said I should apply as I had a wonderful presence. I was really thrown at the time but I was having a rough time and I had lost something of myself and it made me feel better about myself

great thread

I was once told I must have a titanium vagina 🤣

After my son was born a lady who was probably in her 70s/80s stopped me to have a look at him, asked how much he weighed so I told her.

Then she asked if I had many stitches. I was pretty shocked, but also quite young and not used to people being quite so direct, so I just told her I didn't have any stitches, and she patted me on the back, said "well done, you must have a titanium vagina" and off she pottered while I was left scooping my jaw off the floor 🤣

Best compliment ever.

After a sexless relationship, my recent lover, who is AMAXING in bed, said to me, 'oh it wouldn't work for you, you are VERY sexual.'

My first boss wouldn't let our client interview me after a break in because 'she's far too loyal to have done it.'

Someone I recently fancied said I have amazing hair.

And a new colleague said she would but my album if I made one, based on a few fb vids doing covers.

Definitely write good moments down and put them in a jar, and in sad days, read them. At new year, stick them in a book. Really makes a difference.