Do men have relationships/marry women much less attractive than them ?

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I saw a male celebrity is dating a woman much more attractive than them. I was wondering have any Mners had LTRs , married men who are much more attractive than them? I don't see many women punching in real life or even many celebrity women.

I dont know a single couple where the man is more attractive than the women. Obviously it happens, but from what I have seen, it is very unusual.

I know several. Generally if there is a mismatch, the more attractive one is the least wealthy/successful of the couple.

Just anecdotally but I've found the opposite to be the case- very attractive women with not so conventially attractive men. Of course looks are subjective, but guessing you are on about a Scottish singer there is zero chance if he worked elsewhere she'd give him a second look.

Two men I know have told me that they have chosen less physically attractive girlfriends because the women will be grateful and less likely to leave them or have affairs. Dodgy as fuck reasoning.

I know one couple where the man is much more physically attractive than his wife. But she is the life and soul of the party so can completely see why he is attracted to her.

Not necessarily. Many men want a quiet home life with a wife who is happy to be with them. They trade hotness for stability. Many women do this too.

I've seen it happen twice and on both occasions the women had established well paying careers... And were very similar in character and appearance to the men's mothers.

My DH is much better looking than me. We've been together for 14 years, so there must be something he likes about me!

There was something on tv years ago about people tend to go for someone with equal attractiveness

Sometimes couples will age differently so that one becomes less conventionally attractive than the other, over time.

I think attractiveness is pretty subjective. Also over a long term relationship, not everyone will age to the same level of attractiveness, and since Hollywood era, modern society dictates that men are able to grow to be distinguished/handsome whereas women are held to a beauty standard of youth.

I've found the opposite to be the case- very attractive women with not so conventially attractive men.
Is that not what the OP said?

I know of men who are married to very good looking women but cheat on them with less good looking women. They just want a trophy wife.

Yes, thinking about that I have watched really beautiful women age very quickly after children such that their husband is now the more conventionally attractive of the two.

DH is very attractive, much more than me. Although he claims he finds me irresistible! I know it's in the eye of the beholder but I've been told a lot that I'm punching up.

I’ve known a few, but of those the woman have aged much better than the men, and by the time they are late 50’s the women were far more attractive than their hubbys.

I've rarely seen it in real life. I know it happened with one couple but he had v v low self esteem and he eventually left her when that recovered although the looks were not the reason. There are lots of good looking women and v few conventionally good looking men so they tend to get the pick of the bunch

The few men I know that are good looking have married women who would be equal attractiveness but also smart , funny etc

My DH is incredibly good looking. Not just IMO- I have stood next to him at parties and had women hit on him quite blatantly.

I on the other hand- in the lovely words of my mother- closely resemble a hobbit. She (and others) has also pointed out that I have a weak jaw and should have had my nose done in my 20s when she offered to pay for it. I can confidently say that the looks in the family are with him. Dh however thinks I am beautiful and that's enough for me.

Oddly enough though- both our DCs resemble me, but the genetic dice made their features fall more evenly and they are utterly gorgeous. ❤

If it's the celeb I'm thinking of, I'd say she's most attracted to his bank balance... and he seems horribly vulnerable

I'd say I see more men 'punching' than women.

Although I wouldn't say it's just about physical appearance. Although someone could be better looking than their partner, they may have less attractive personality attributes etc so it evens out.

Didn't mean the second although 🫠

I can’t help thinking that your low opinion of your looks is due to you internalizing the voice of your critical Mother, rather than reality.

Not really. (Or maybe not). I had one woman look me up and down in disgust and tell me I was punching up.

(Mind you- she had unsuccessfully propositioned DH about a week or so before she even knew I was on the scene).

I'm not bothered any more. But I do need to pay more attention to the conventions of trying to make the most of myself I think.

In my experience they rarely do! If anything , they go younger and more conventionally attractive than they are. Although, some men do prefer a ‘wife and a life’ (awful phrase) meaning a less attractive wife and then a ‘life’ aka more attractive mistresses.

other men want the ‘trophy’ of somebody better looking. I once met a man who told me he liked to date taller women as other men would think ‘how rich is he for her to be with him?’. Sure enough his fiancé was 6ft tall and 28 years old to his 54 years and about 5’9 height.

Of course, any man worth being with will like you for you and not because of the message being with a particular woman may convey to the world!

Yes, I have seen it happen a few times but on getting to know them further, it turns out that even though the woman in question wasnt as "conventionally" attractive as her husband, she was his specific type. Eg. I know a very gorgeous man whose wife is not as conventionally attractive as him but she is short, chunky and blonde and all his exes have looked very very similar (could be sisters). So, to him, she is exactly the type he finds attractive even though from a societal perspective, they are mismatched and its sometimes mentioned by other people just because he is very attractive himself (think Pierce Brosnan in his Bond years)

I on the other hand- in the lovely words of my mother- closely resemble a hobbit. She (and others) has also pointed out that I have a weak jaw and should have had my nose done in my 20s when she offered to pay for it.
I assume you're using lovely sarcastically here.