Do men have relationships/marry women much less attractive than them ?

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I saw a male celebrity is dating a woman much more attractive than them. I was wondering have any Mners had LTRs , married men who are much more attractive than them? I don't see many women punching in real life or even many celebrity women.

Yes. . I am now pretty lc. I told her that if I looked like a hobbit it was clearly down to genetics which pissed her off.

I am currently re-evaluating our ongoing relationship. (But I don't want to derail the OP's thread).

I know a few where the man is the more attractive one.

When my husband first introduced me to his family his sister told him he could do better and his father asked me if I'd always been so fat.

Based on those comments alone aside from what I could see with my own eyes I'd say I was the less attractive of us both by a long shot.

However, I've definitely done a better job of maturing over the decades than he has so we're probably more closely matched now.

I would've said when we were young DH was the more attractive and was the one who got chatted up in bars.

But now in our 40s I think I've improved with age (like a good licquor) and it's now the other way on

I smiled at the op but only because of my own situation, I didn't fancy my dh when we met, I was in a relationship with a wealthy good looking guy ten years older than me, dh is closer to my age, he wasn't particularly attractive looking, his teeth were very crooked, he told me years later that he'd had dental work done as a child but to correct it completely his jaw would have had to be broken twice and wired together, he had psoriasis that he struggled with and was carrying extra weight but he made me laugh and we became friends and then dated and eventually married, he always said he punched above his weight with me and his friends ribbed him over it, even my mother said 'that won't last,he's not your type when she met him, well over 20 years later the reverse has happened, he had to have lots of dental work because of gum disease, his teeth are perfect, he grew a beard which really suits him, he's gone grey which looks great, he still carries extra weigh but all the more to cuddle, he's spent years studying and changed careers (used to wear overalls now dresses up for work), his confidence has soared and I fancy him more than ever, I've gone from size 8 hourglass to size 14 pint glass, can't grow a beard to hide the wrinkles but tbh I don't mind, he fancies me as much as I fancy him but I know when we're out and younger women are flirting with him they wonder what's he doing with her. Looks can change, as long as the couple are both happy it really doesn't matter.

Of course looks are subjective, but guessing you are on about a Scottish singer there is zero chance if he worked elsewhere she'd give him a second look.

I'm sure she isn't disappointed with how much money and fame he has; but I think it's horribly prejudiced to assume/insinuate that all physically attractive people are shallow and only interested in equal physical attractiveness in a partner unless they're loaded.

Why can't somebody who happens to be very good-looking be attracted to somebody's personality, intelligence, kindness, warmth, bonhomie, humour, talent etc., just because they may not have traditionally good looks to go with it?

Of course, it does happen a lot in the perceived way, but even when it does, I'm still not convinced I see the issue, as long as the two people involved are honest with each other. Good looks are attractive, wealth is attractive; even if there are no other attractions between them, who are we to tell people what they are allowed to find attractive in a potential partner?

Being attractive is not just about physical appearance though. Or about being a classical type of beauty.

It also takes personality, sexiness, compatibility (shared interests/sense of humour)...

What you find attractive someone else might find boring/ugly/not sexy.

A relationship based on looks only and not overall compatibility is unlikely to last long term.

Probably why the men who only select a partner because they want a trophy wife/girlfriend are never happy and just keep going from one woman to another.

I think the Keanu Reeves of this world will always be happier in their relationships than the Leonardo Di Caprio types...Both great looking men but with very different approaches to the type of women they date.

I also think online dating/the media/porn have completely distorted expectations of what normal women look like...

Happens in celeb world too, Jim Caviezel is the most gorgeous man I have ever seen but his wife, well, to be kind, all I can say is that she must a have fantastic personality

That's really unkind. She is just an ordinary, average-looking woman - not a stunner but not in any way hideous, as your comment would seem to suggest.

At any rate, it may well be that she DOES have a fantastic personality - why on earth would this be a strange thing for Jim to have found her attractive for?

Jim Caviezel is the most gorgeous man I have ever seen
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Physical attraction is much less important for men, personality, success, money, confidence are all powerful attractions themselves. One extreme case I always remember was, the biggest ugliest biker you can imagine with an absolutely stunning GF. No disrespect to bikers he obviously had attractions other than looks.

I think it can change as couples age?
I'd say dh & I were about level when we were first together but 15 odd years later I've ended up somewhat of a late bloomer and dh says he now he feels he needs to up his game!

I also think women generally age better than men? My female friends all still look great, make an effort etc Their dh's definitely don't do the same!

I think my long term partner is much more attractive than me. I still think I'm attractive, but he is just very handsome.

For example, he is self employed and whenever I have worked for him to help out, lots of women (and often men) just stare at him. He gets approached by strangers as well and its happened with people who have contracted his services.

I've never had any of that, not that I want it, so there must be a disparity.

If this is the pairing I saw in the news today, the reason they are together is likely that he is rich and famous.

I was with an ex who looked like a model. We were together 11 years. I wouldn't say I'm unattractive, but am certainly not model -like.

My brother also looked like a model and his girlfriend of five years was older than him and not conventionally attractive. She was, however, a brilliantly intelligent and cool person.

If it is the couple I am thinking of, he is more than rich and famous. He is smart, funny and does amazing work for a charity close to my heart as my DS1 has the condition as indeed does the celeb in question. I can think of loads of reasons why he is deeply attractive.

If this is the pairing I saw in the news today, the reason they are together is likely that he is rich and famous.

So you don't think that he can possibly have anything going for him than his money and fame (that he doesn't particularly court anyway)? And her good looks preclude her from finding anything other than good looks attractive in a man?

Do you believe that all rich men can only be defined by their money; and that all beautiful women have nothing going for them (and no intelligence or personal agency) apart from their beauty?

Yep this is definitely a thing, I've seen it.

Jimmy Carr and Jamie Dornan are the more attractive partners in their relationships.

I said 'likely'.

Of course he has a lot going for him, I never indicated otherwise.

I think it's incredibly subjective - what's 'attractive' to one person might not be to someone else. I personally find that 'attractive' celebrity/influencer lookalikes give me the ick, so definitely wouldn't be going for that!

I personally think dh is more attractive than me in a conventional sort of way (I'm not sure he would agree though). I'm also older than he is. He certainly thinks I'm attractive though and also was attracted to my ambition and personality. Neither of us had any money when we met (poor students).

I was always the least attractive partner in my relationships and had to rely on personality instead - until my late 30s. Turns out I wasn’t ugly, just too young for my looks!

Had I stayed with the best looking of my exes, what would have been ‘what’s he doing with her’ then would be reversed now. By quite a margin!

Looks fade and change.
Personality and traits like kindness, humour, empathy or being great company last though!

I can think of at least four couples where the man is very good looking and personable and pleasant and the woman is quite plain and very quiet to the point of being taciturn or just very boring. Odd. I'd never thought on it before. I do, however, know many, many couples where the opposite is true.

Who knows what lights someone else's fire? Good job we don't all fancy the same type!